Andrew Gillum Says ‘I Identify as Bisexual’ in First Interview Since Hotel Scandal with Another Man
Back in March, democratic politician Andrew Gillum, 41, who lost the race to become governor of Florida was found unresponsive and drunk in a hotel room with a male escort, Tyson Dyson, 30, and another man, who may have overdosed on drugs. Authorities also said that a substance suspected to be meth was found in the room, though Gillum said he had only had alcohol.
The other man identified himself as an escort through the website Rent Men, according to a local TV news article. He told the Miami New Times in March that he and Gillum had been “friends for a while.”
This caused Gillum to retreat from his once-promising political career and check into rehab.
On Monday, in the first sit-down interview since the scandal, Gillum told Tamron Hall that he is bisexual. His WIFE, R. Jai Gillum was next to him during the interview.
On Monday Gillum, said: “The truth is, is that, Tamron, everyone believes the absolute worst about that day. At this stage, I don’t have anything else to have to conceal. … What was most hurtful was this belief that I was somehow living a lie in my marriage and in my family,” he said.
“To be very honest with you, when you didn’t ask the question, you put it out there, is whether or not I identify as gay. And the answer is, I don’t identify as gay, but I do identify as bisexual,” he continued. “And that is something that I have never shared publicly before.”
Gillum met his beard wife in college. He and R. Jai Howard worked on her husband’s campaign hosting a “Women for Andrew Gillum” event.
(Remember when I told ya’ll that smart men have smart women behind them directing traffic, telling them what they need to say in order to get WOMEN to follow and support them.)
What did she say about her husband’s sexuality?
R. Jai Gillum said her husband told her before they were married 11 years ago that he was bisexual and she is upset that it is now public knowledge, telling Tamron Hall, “I don’t think it is anyone’s business.”
“I don’t think it is fair for people who are not heterosexual, who are not assumed heterosexual that they should ever have to say or disclose what they are because of how judgmental people are,” she told Hall.
“So many people just don’t understand bisexuality.
“They think they can wrap their heads around gay, but bisexuality is just something different.”
Andrew Gillum was found in a Miami Beach hotel room in March of 2020 by paramedics responding to a drug overdose.
R. Jai is one year older than her husband and it is claimed that when he proposed, he asked her to be his “life partner” rather than his “wife”.
Speaking to Tallahassee Magazine, Andrew Gillum revealed that he first flirted with his wife by penalising her for wearing a “short skirt” to student government, but she wasn’t pleased by that.
They reportedly met again in 2003, and Gillum gave her his home phone number, which R. Jai Gillum promptly ignored.
She said: “I didn’t think he was serious. He was wearing both of his cell phones, and then he gave me his home phone number.
“I said, ‘Anyone with two cell phones is never at home’.”
I don’t know what my thoughts are concerning this. Well I actually do know what my thoughts are, but I’m trying to deliver the news, state my opinions and not be judgmental at the same time. (working on shifting)
As a single woman who people often tease about being single, I find it interesting what many women are willing to put up with in order to receive some form of love. Jai was cool with being with her husband as long as no one knew he was bisexual. But she’s embarrassed that the world now knows he’s bisexual.. So that reminds me of the bible verse.
That goes to show she settle for less early in the game. Otherwise she still wouldn’t care that people know her husband prefers sex with men and utilizes her as a beard to maintain his public image.
Speaking of image, it is pretty terrible how much pressure the public puts on people to maintain an image. But in reality, people put those pressures on themselves. It’s the belief that he wouldn’t be able to be elected for office if people knew that he was gay or bisexual, that kept him hiding it.
Which goes to show how badly people WANT to be themselves, but fear of public opinion or missing out on accomplishing their dreams and goals makes people pretend to be LESS than who they truly are. Not to mention that people often are told that God hates gays.
The truth is God hates all sexual sins. He hates when we don’t realize that sex is a spiritual thing and shouldn’t just be done with any and everyone. Sex is about connection. Each human has their own problem to solve. Most men battle through their desire to to be with multiple women. They battle lust. Most get tired of the battle and just believe that they are meant to be with more than one woman. The truth is men are given that DESIRE, but they are supposed to put away their little boy emotions, and learn to control their sexual desires, so that it does not ruin them. A man who pretends to be straight in public, but gets caught in a hotel room with gay men, thereby ruins his life and his wife’s life. This story will blow over now that he’s confessed to being bisexual. But regardless his wife will never be able to hold her head up high. Her husband wasn’t being smart enough to keep his private business private.
This story came across my desk when I saw a post by a FEAR expert, Demecos Chambers, who specializes helping black men get over their fears of marriage and taking the next step in their career. Demecos is also a big advocate for gay men.
#BlackWives Don't be R. Jai Gillum. If your husband risk it all to be butt fucking in a cheap motel, then blames it on being a stressed black man. Leave that coward ✊🏾💯
One of my followers sent me this post and asked me my opinion of it. So here we go.
I love the post and totally agree with her. Yet I’m about to sling it to you from a Boss B*tch perspective.
But what the world needs to understand is the there is a new breed of women on the planet. I don’t like when people try to downtalk or compare themselves against GREATNESS. But if we are to compare, I’m going to be perfectly honest.
I don’t like the WAP video. The visuals were just too thirsty for me, and I know they send women down the wrong path.
But also city girls and Cardi B’s lyrics actually are VERY empowering. They wake women up to their PUSSY POWER.
But also babycakes, you report to a 9-5. Your life has been created by a MAN. Cardi got out here and got it on her own.
Cardi impacts MILLIONS of people. Cardi has POWER.
Cardi is such a boss that her man’s fame increases BECAUSE OF HER.
People love to congratulate a woman when she says she’s had a husband for a lot of years and they are financially doing OKAY.
Baby, Cardi B. lives in a MANSION. Babygirl, people pull out the red carpet for CARDI. Cardi is living HER dream, and not the basic AMERICAN DREAM.
Cardi is POWER. You have women, and then you have Goddesses. And let me tell you something. The world better get ready for us, because we are HERE.
We are self-created. Self-motivated. We don’t choose men just because they can PROVIDE. We choose million dollar KINGS. Yes Cardi is indeed half sleep. But trust me, one day babygirl is going to wake up and she’s going to give Offset the Flux.
So regardless of me not liking one VIDEO Cardi made, I still salute that woman’s come-up. Cause chicks be having a whole HUSBAND as a safety net, and still don’t impact women and people the way us TRAUMATIZED, GET IT OUT THE MUD women do.
But I also have no disses to women who were smart enough to get married and take the easy route. That’s SMART.
BUT UNDERSTAND, TRUE GREATNESS, means you gotta go through some pain.
A 9-5 woman simply doesn’t have sh*t on a BOSS CHICK! B*tch we command sh*t that you CAN’T. You gave away your power and got tamed. We kept ours. WE came to change the game! We get the man, the bag, and the fame too.
So babygirl, please stop trying to compare yourself to that FORCE called Cardi B.
Sidenote: I wouldn’t cook for a cheating azz negro either. But I’ll definitely cook for a King with some sense. All Cardi was saying is that she isn’t domesticated, but she still got the ring. She’s telling women that they don’t have to be perfect housemaids. When you’re too busy trying to diss a woman, you’ll miss the beauty of her message.
No more than the writer is telling women that she finds JOY in SERVING her husband.
I know boss chicks who cook, clean and handle BUSINESS too. A woman doesn’t have to fit into a nice cookie cutter box.
Sometimes celebrity gossip seems so unreal. More we learn what a disappointing character Tory Lanez is, if we choose to judge him for being an idiot. However if we choose to judge him as being an ignorant soul, he appears to have apologized for his violent, gun-toting injuries that he perpetuated against Megan Thee Stallion.
In today’s Trending Gossip inside the world of Celebrity News, TMZ is reporting:
“TMZ has seen the text Megan got on the evening of July 12 … roughly 15 hours after she claims Tory shot her in her feet, and in it, he’s begging for forgiveness. He wrote, “I know u prolly never gone talk to me again, but I genuinely want u to know I’m sorry from the bottom of my heart.”
His only explanation for the violence … “I was just too drunk.”
In the text, Tory never references “shooting” or a gun, but it is clear he did something he regrets. In his words, “None the less s**t should have never happened and I can’t change what did. I just feel horrible.”
And, he repeats … “Cuz I genuinely just got too drunk.”
TMZ broke the story … Tory, Megan and another friend had been party hopping in the Hollywood Hills early on July 12. Police responded to reports of shots fired from or around an SUV.
Okay. So he apologized via text…. Did he pick up the phone? Has he tried to contact Megan since? What is going on in Tory Lanez’s mind?
How does a person work so hard in their career to make it to where Tory is, get the girl he probably dreamed of, and then turn around and shoot the woman, and risk throwing away his ENTIRE life?
Do rappers need to attend violence counseling along with their rap careers? Oh wait, Lanez isn’t a rapper. He’s a singer. Another great black performer who perpetuates violence against black women. If you as a man can’t handle a woman’s mouthpiece, don’t deal with her.
Anyway, I just don’t think a woman should expect to be treated well by a male with an diamond stud earring in his nose…
Call it shade if you want to. I’m just spitting the truth.
Lanez needs to go in the booth, write a whole song dedicated to how amazing Megan is, and send a $1,000,000 stack her way.
Cause truth be told, Megan still isn’t body slamming him the way she could.
Married women are often some of the DRYEST women on the planet.
Don’t lose yourself in your marriage. Have something to talk about. What brings you alive?
Life is about more than just your marriage, kids and household. It’s also about maintaining self and keeping self enchanting and interesting.
What keeps a man attracted to you, is you having a life outside of him.
Don’t be the lady who only posts cats and dogs.
Your marriage should be an embodiment of PLEASURE & JOY.
Selfie time. Slim woman with short cut wearing panties and white shirt in the morning making selfie
It’s not about settling into being BORED. Always keep the flame going.
Keep your marriage SEXY, SAAVY & YOUnique. It’s called the K.I.S.S.Y. METHOD.
P.S. What are you going to bed in at night?
Need Tips? I got you.
Here are 5 tips to keep your marriage spicy using the K.I.S.S.Y. Method
1. Look good when your man comes home. Put effort into your bedtime appearance.
2. Get naked and talk to one another. Deeply connect.
3. Compliment your spouse.
4. HAVE SEX – Just because. Even a quickie will do.
5. Talk about your fantasies.
Are you someone who is READY to improve your relationship, right now? Are you craving to bring back the PASSION in your relationship? Contact Kissy on any of her social media accounts.
The funny thing about speaking the truth is that people will ASSUME you don’t like black men. Black women love black men. But that doesn’t mean that black men love them back.
Are we supposed to continue hiding it and allowing women to suffer in silence, pretending like we don’t know?
👆 Should we continue to let the 5 good black men speak and act like all men are just like them?
👆 Should we continue to pretend that black women aren’t in DEEP PAIN, from simply loving black men?
👆 Should we keep pretending that black men actually VALUE black women?
Cause here are some facts that I know that happen in THE REAL WORLD.
1. Most black men take A LOT of pride in shuffling through multiple women, saying women aren’t a big deal, and wasting the first half of their life away chasing SEX. They chase sex so much, that some will say things like “Men don’t take badd chicks serious.”
2. Beautiful Black women stay dating unattractive black men who ain’t models, and don’t take great care or pride in their own appearance, then you wonder why he doesn’t value you.
3. You feel sorry for him due to the oppression that society places on him. Yet you don’t take note of what he does to himself by decided to CHASE WOMEN, and not value the sanctity of marriage.
4. These dudes can’t even afford to provide, because they are too busy chasing multiple women, trying to figure out how to get over. N*ggas be thinking they are so phucking smart, not noticing society and the powers that be been playing them like a puppet since day one with the rap videos with scantily clad EXOTIC women. And when a black woman is present, her greasest seven in the video is usually TWERKING. These men have been pimped for their phucking brains and souls and think the black women are the dumb ones. They’ve been taken for a ride to delay their own wealth, and they were the captain the whole time.
❤️ Black women sometimes aren’t badd women. Most people can’t even imagine the odds of 9/10 men literally being a terrible person, but swearing they are a good man because the are honest about not wanting anything real with you, and maybe they took you to Popeyes for a chicken sandwich.
Black women are in pain, and it’s the ones who try to silence their voices who are responsible.
Instead of telling women they are not good enough to get a rich, 6’2″ black man who is charming and knows how to treat a woman, start telling black men that they ain’t sh*t unless they pay bills.
You want to change the world? Well honey only THE TRUTH shall set the world free.
No black man should be in a woman’s face, f*cking her, taxing her energy FOR FREE, and having the nerve to talk sh*t about her. But that’s what they do.
Black women get devalued because they refuse to value themselves enough to get the best of the best men.
In her mind, she just HAS TO settle for LESS than the best, because black men told her she’s not good enough.
That’s why these negroes be so confused with my confidence. They are literally BOTHERED by a woman fully loving herself and feeling WORTHY.
How insane is that. But nobody wants to hear these truths. So go ahead, keep the lies going, keep women suffering and help keep most of the race in poverty with lies and b.s that don’t lead to legacy, love, nor wealth.
And lets keep letting the black men who are also SINGLE, and telling women that because she has a few kids she’s unworthy of a good man, lets keep letting them lead. Lets keep letting women pay these men to lead them away from God’s word.
Let’s just keep all of the b.s. going so that the race goes no where.
In many ways, the best thing a good black woman can do for herself is opt out the whole race.
Cause don’t forget how much women outside of my tribe and a few others hate each other. Most women in general are HIGHLY triggered by a good looking woman who loves herself.
Society has set the bar so low for women, that a Goddess is foreign.
Black women need to realize that you are going up against bullets with these dudes. The only way you’re going to win, is if you value yourself HIGH AF, the way you always wanted to anyway, until you let some 50/50 or abusive man talk you out of your worth, so that he could keep you DOWN on his level of worth.
I saw the above video and soon as I saw him and her, I said to myself “He doesn’t have a chance in hell!”
To someone like me it’s clear as day that their appearances are just WAY too different. It’s a complete mismatch.
So then this RANT came next.
MEN: Stop chasing these drop dead gorgeous women.
They like men with money, swag, flash or good looks.
I see way too many men who are not PHYSICALLY the most attractive, chasing women who are highly sought after.
You are better off chasing a million bucks, then pulling up to a bbadd bish like “Whats happening!”
Giving her $50,000 is not enough to convince her into a relationship with you, but millions will.
There is a saying that goes “Don’t chase women, chase money and the women will follow.”
Some men only get it partially right, where they then expect women to chase them and they end up being with whatever masculine woman chases him.
But what you are actually supposed to do is GET MONEY. Then once you get the money, you have access to better women. Women period like men with money, but most won’t admit it. Women are naturally attracted to a man she can call daddy, who provides.
There is a reason that men marry basic chicks or starter kit wives and then later leave them for a beautiful woman. He wanted the beautiful woman in the first place, but knew he couldn’t afford her.
Beautiful women are expensive. They are investments and prizes for successful men or men with a good mouthpiece. Please stop listening to all of these people lying to you.
Being a beautiful woman is A LOT of work. Especially being a beautiful BOSS CHICK. That woman does not work hard as hell in life, just to end up with some basic man who can barely afford her upkeep.
Being basic is EASY AF. So of course a beautiful woman wants a man who goes hard in life and will treat her like a Queen. Basic women are accepting of basic men.
You handing a beautiful woman a few thousand dollars, and not understanding anything about HER MIND, and the way she thinks, is not going to make up for people laughing at her when they see her with you. SHE wants a prize.
NO, her soul won’t be caught dead with a funny looking man most times, unless he’s rich like Tamar’s ex husband.
Beautiful women have SYMMETRICAL features. Therefore her eyes are attracted to BEAUTY.
You being a nice person quite often isn’t ENOUGH. But STATUS is power. A beautiful woman wants a man who can make her life beautiful in many ways.
Take Seal for example who married a VERY beautiful woman.
Seal has MONEY, PURPOSE, FAME, STATUS and obviously a whole lot of charm.
He went after a beautiful woman with a beautiful HEART. He sings from the soul and touched her DEEP in her heart.
Are you truly connected to your soul, or are you still trying to find yourself? When you find yourself, is when you become beautiful to a woman.
Men who complain about beautiful women, NEVER pick the ones with good hearts. Nope. They get into relationships with pretty women who don’t love them. But they think the women love them, even though obviously the women cheat on the and prove just how not into him she is. (Self-accountability for your decisions is everything.)
There is nothing beautiful about a man who is not on his purpose and his money. If you want access to great women, then you too have to be great honey. Then you have to make great decisions, stop being lazy and go after that bright shining light of a beautiful woman with the big, beautiful heart and mind to match. Stop falling for sweet words only, because any woman with immense power has some powerful words in her.
I’m not trying to discourage you, because anything can happen. But when it comes to beautiful women, you can get one, but not the one that thousands of men want. Get the beauty who isn’t fully formed and doesn’t know herself yet. You have to get one who is not so sure of herself. That’s why many men date younger women, because he can get over on her or mold her. You can take an average looking woman and transform her, if you want a beautiful woman that badly. But even then, that transformation takes MONEY. So once again, beautiful women are expensive. Either you are going to finance it or she’s going to finance herself and be single until a man on her level comes along.
So you have to ask yourself, “Is my money long enough to keep up with this woman?” Boss chicks fund themselves, but still she wants a man who can do nice things for her on a CONSISTENT basis.
We want to be so nice, and weave lies over people’s head. When you listen to average people, you listen to LIES. Average people do not understand the way beautiful women think or their belief system.
Go get you a woman on your level, who you can afford or pray for a miracle. My ex crackhead uncle once came up on a badd lil young chick. We all wondered what was wrong with her. Then even had a baby together. But SHE NEEDED him as a father figure in her life and she needed a roof over her head. A badd azz chick with 20K followers needs a man with some real money who can really up level her status in life. Most times she doesn’t want to break the pockets of some men whom she knows she won’t ever fall in love with.
Slow men, be sending money overseas to gorgeous women thinking she is lonely and can’t find no man. ANY badd chick can get a man at anytime. Trust me, her inbox is FILLED with more men, just like you, who don’t know they don’t qualify.
If she was going to settle for less, she would’ve done it already.
Personally I’ve dated two men that others maybe didn’t find highly attractive, but I did. They were tall, smart, knew how to dress and spoiled me. I was attracted to their SOUL. So you definitely have a chance. But you have to do the work to TRULY find a woman who is HIGHLY attracted to you.
She’s never going to be attracted to a man who doesn’t understand her MIND. Men be practically going after the Beyonce’s of Instagram, with not a chance in hell of ever being her man.
I repeat, go after a woman who doesn’t have 20,000 men wanting her already. Cause the one with 20K followers wants the best of the best. You just being NICE, isn’t enough for her. She wants your clothes to be nice, your mind to be nice, and you bank account to be nice too. You spending $8,000 on her is not going to be enough.
People often ask me what issues do I have as a coach. The only issue I have is DECIDING to take the time to find people to help me in my business.
I already have a billion dollar empire. Some people are going to wish they would’ve helped me. They will be like “Man. I sat there for years and watched her build her empire.”
Especially men. Men have this thing of feeling like they are greater and smarter. Smart has nothing to do with what I do. I am God appointed and God anointed. Me becoming a billionaire is literally the clearest path I’ve ever had in my life.
No man is going to beat me out. My deck is stacked with beauty, brilliance, spirit, gifting, magic, titties, azz, charm, influence, magnetism and power. I am one of the greatest souls to ever enter the earth realm.
Souls like me don’t do this for money. In fact once we get 6-7 Figures is actually when we shockingly figure out some things are missing. I came to change the game. I came to empower you and awaken you.
People be so sleep that they think I’m arrogant. But the woke people know that I am doing nothing more than speaking my truth.
I am a Prophetess. I see my clients future, because I can see my own great future.
Sometimes I say this isn’t about me, but then again it is. This is about my mission to change the world. I can only change the world by first changing myself. Which is what I have done.
This is about to get a bit sad. But I am not seeking sympathy, although when you finally do hear my full life story, it’s going to make you cry. You are going to wonder how I ever made it this far. And I’ll tell you in advance. Through the grace of God and 100% belief in myself. I always knew that I deserved better.
Lately I keep having flashbacks to a time when I was with my abusive boyfriend. We went to Chicago for the summer, and he would leave me in the hotel room by myself, while he did whatever he pleased. Which I am sure was hanging out with some other girls.
The memory keeps faintly coming up of one particular weekend, which was the 4th of July. The hotel room was so tropical and beautiful. That was back in 2009. I keep being reminded with the words “Look how far you made it.” I was so silently depressed and lost at the time. That man didn’t believe in me. He didn’t see my value, despite me being the reason he was able to afford his lifestyle. I helped him build his business from a joke to a 6 Figure respected Brand. His brand became so well known that we BET once gave him a check for $25,000. I of course was there at the meeting, looking fine as wine.
Now I could tell you how this man used to buy me Louis bags, mink coats, put me in a Range Rover and blah, blah, blah. Perhaps I should. Because when you are telling men about your past life of how you’ve been abused, they often don’t realize that you were still with a very charming men who even in his abuse treated me better than the average man would treat a woman he claims to love.
In many ways he spoiled me. But that does no negate the abuse he inflicted upon me and how he altered my life story. I of course can’t blame him. I made my own decisions. Even though I made the best decisions I could at the time with what I had to work with.
What no one tells you is that sometimes you are going to suffer rather you pick the dark or the light. Sometimes it’s still the lesser of two evils or the lesser of two pains. For example, many people foray into life coaching, and because their first coach TRULY doesn’t understand their deeper problems and needs, they go off into pain. The pain of building nearly an impossible business to build. So few life coaches hit the 6 Figure mark. Let alone 7. But somehow I am surrounded by those who do.
FREQUENCY IS EVERYTHING.
Anyway, the moral of the story is, believe in yourself even when no one else believes in you. Cause some of us really do have the answers that others don’t. And when THEY don’t, they label us crazy and don’t believe in us. We aren’t crazy. We just know the way…. It’s embedded into our soul. And just because THEY don’t see us, does not take away our knowledge or VALUE.
First off, if you’re not following me on ALL of my social media profiles, YOU ARE TRIPPING. My mind is vast with knowledge and I need to drop it all over the place and spread it to my 99 different tribes. So depending on which page you’re on, you’ll learn something different.
Yesterday we had a very interesting discussion on my personal profile full of enlightened souls.
Don’t mind the low amount of likes. People pay me LOTS of attention. They stalk me. Sometimes they just don’t click LIKE because I am beautiful, powerful, magnetic, brilliant and they want to be just like me, and haven’t came to terms with me being their leader. Therefore they don’t want me to know that I inspire them. This happens when you refuse to put distance between you and your followers. You can’t build a truly influential brand being Jesus. The new Jesus would have to be a celebrity in this world. (That’s A LOT of game I just gave you beautiful, brilliant, business-minded women.)
Anyway, in the comments, a very interesting thread took place. (Some really AMAZING people follow me.)
Here is the thread.
I meet A LOT of men like Paul. Men like Paul are EXTREMELY knowledgeable in business and provide for their families. They also have successful relationships that don’t involve their wives being a servant maid slave.
I prefer a man like that. One who simply wants me to BE HAPPY. In my opinion, it seems a man would be smart to treat a boss chick that way. After all, she’s going to work regardless. The happier she is, the more money she’ll make.
But instead of thinking that way, men go after 50/50 relationships, drain women for their life force and only get HALF of what God has for him. So then that relationship ends, then he starts the next one with a woman he truly wants to see happy, and he DECIDES to PROVIDE for her. That’s when his life changes.
Anyway, chilllllllllllllllllllle. As you can see my MIND was like “If I ever get a man who both cooks and pays bills, WE ARE NEVER EVER BREAKING UP!” I mean that with my whole heart and soul. No matter what he says I’ll just keep directing him back to a seat until we figure it out. 😂 No divorce!
I’ll be out here turning into Toni Braxton, busting notes. I wish a bish would try to snatch my man!! Last name will never change. 🤣 (This morning I told Toni to put PLEASE on Tik Tok. Hopefully she listens, cause, Kissy is a genius.
You know what though? Life isn’t about IF. It’s about DECIDING. So I’ve DECIDED that I am getting me a HUSBAND who both cooks and pays bills. LOOK AT GOD! Won’t He Do It!
I’ll be happy cooking for such a man, as he would delight my soul, and allow me to fully be me in his presence.
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