R. Jai Gillum upset that everyone knows her politician husband Andrew Gillum is bisexual

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 Andrew Gillum Says ‘I Identify as Bisexual’ in First Interview Since Hotel Scandal with Another Man

Back in March, democratic politician Andrew Gillum, 41, who lost the race to become governor of Florida was found unresponsive and drunk in a hotel room with a male escort, Tyson Dyson, 30, and another man, who may have overdosed on drugs. Authorities also said that a substance suspected to be meth was found in the room, though Gillum said he had only had alcohol.

The other man identified himself as an escort through the website Rent Men, according to a local TV news article. He told the Miami New Times in March that he and Gillum had been “friends for a while.”

This caused Gillum to retreat from his once-promising political career and check into rehab.

On Monday, in the first sit-down interview since the scandal,  Gillum told Tamron Hall  that he is bisexual.  His WIFE, R. Jai Gillum was next to him during the interview.

On Monday Gillum, said: “The truth is, is that, Tamron, everyone believes the absolute worst about that day. At this stage, I don’t have anything else to have to conceal. … What was most hurtful was this belief that I was somehow living a lie in my marriage and in my family,” he said.

“To be very honest with you, when you didn’t ask the question, you put it out there, is whether or not I identify as gay. And the answer is, I don’t identify as gay, but I do identify as bisexual,” he continued. “And that is something that I have never shared publicly before.”

Gillum met his beard wife in college.  He and R. Jai Howard worked on her husband’s campaign hosting a “Women for Andrew Gillum” event.

(Remember when I told ya’ll that smart men have smart women behind them directing traffic, telling them what they need to say in order to get WOMEN to follow and support them.)

What did she say about her husband’s sexuality?

R. Jai Gillum said her husband told her before they were married 11 years ago that he was bisexual and she is upset that it is now public knowledge, telling Tamron Hall, “I don’t think it is anyone’s business.”

“I don’t think it is fair for people who are not heterosexual, who are not assumed heterosexual that they should ever have to say or disclose what they are because of how judgmental people are,” she told Hall.

“So many people just don’t understand bisexuality.

“They think they can wrap their heads around gay, but bisexuality is just something different.”


Andrew Gillum was found in a Miami Beach hotel room in March of 2020 by paramedics responding to a drug overdose.

R. Jai is one year older than her husband and it is claimed that when he proposed, he asked her to be his “life partner” rather than his “wife”.

Speaking to Tallahassee Magazine, Andrew Gillum revealed that he first flirted with his wife by penalising her for wearing a “short skirt” to student government, but she wasn’t pleased by that.

They reportedly met again in 2003, and Gillum gave her his home phone number, which R. Jai Gillum promptly ignored.

She said: “I didn’t think he was serious. He was wearing both of his cell phones, and then he gave me his home phone number.

“I said, ‘Anyone with two cell phones is never at home’.”

Kissy's Thoughts

I don’t know what my thoughts are concerning this. Well I actually do know what my thoughts are, but I’m trying to deliver the news, state my opinions and not be judgmental at the same time. (working on shifting)

As a single woman who people often tease about being single, I find it interesting what many women are willing to put up with in order to receive some form of love. Jai was cool with being with her husband as long as no one knew he was bisexual.  But she’s embarrassed that the world now knows he’s bisexual.. So that reminds me of the bible verse.

That goes to show she settle for less early in the game. Otherwise she still wouldn’t care that people know her husband prefers sex with men and utilizes her as a beard to maintain his public image.

Speaking of image, it is pretty terrible how much pressure the public puts on people to maintain an image. But in reality, people put those pressures on themselves.  It’s the belief that he wouldn’t be able to be elected for office if people knew that he was gay or bisexual, that kept him hiding it.

Which goes to show how badly people WANT to be themselves, but fear of public opinion or missing out on accomplishing their dreams and goals makes people pretend to be LESS than who they truly are.  Not to mention that people often are told that God hates gays.

The truth is God hates all sexual sins. He hates when we don’t realize that sex is a spiritual thing and shouldn’t just be done with any and everyone. Sex is about connection.  Each human has their own problem to solve. Most men battle through their desire to to be with multiple women. They battle lust. Most get tired of the battle and just believe that they are meant to be with more than one woman. The truth is men are given that DESIRE, but they are supposed to put away their little boy emotions, and learn to control their sexual desires, so that it does not ruin them.   A man who pretends to be straight in public, but gets caught in a hotel room with gay men, thereby ruins his life and his wife’s life.   This story will blow over now that he’s confessed to being bisexual. But regardless his wife will never be able to hold her head up high. Her husband wasn’t being smart enough to keep his private business private.

This story came across my desk when I saw a post by a FEAR expert, Demecos Chambers, who specializes helping black men get over their fears of marriage and taking the next step in their career.  Demecos is also a big advocate for gay men.