How To Relax In Your Femininity & Let Money To Flow To You

How To Relax In Your Femininity & Let Money To Flow To You

I was working hard, and found myself getting tired. 

I went to get hot chocolate. 🍫 The machine was out.  So I grab a hot steaming cup of Chai Tea Instead. Drink that, chill outside, relaxing. Posted a story or 2. Thought about going back to work. Then suddenly I just got up and left. 

On the elevator down, there was some hot chocolate on the elevator with his cute little doggie. 

I wasn’t fully dressed. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Anyways, now I am here. We’ll try again tomorrow. 

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Anyways that revelation you want. 

So busy working that you have no time to sit, think and see clearly. Living in the wrong world. 

It’s what many do, when you have no time to spend with God. 😭

Now why would you do that to you? Working has never been your problem. 

Resting is….

Resting in your femininity 

If you rested in that, you wouldn’t have to work so hard. Maybe YOU weren’t created to work hard. 

How much more successful do you feel or believe you need to become before you can rest and stop doing it all? 

Like literally, you’re already doing all of the things, except the thing of choosing to receive the thing now. 

What would it feel like to be supremely rested and working from a place of pure ease, joy, sophistication and wealth that flows to you continuously while you are asleep, constantly filling your bank account?? 

Lil Durk Says He Picked India Royale Because Her Body Count Was Low (video)

Lil Durk Says He Picked India Royale Because Her Body Count Was Low (video)

On A Million Dollars Worth of Game podcast with Wallo and Gillie Da Kid, Lil Durk appeared on the show to speak about several topics including his relationship with fianceé, India Royale.

When asked what attracted him to India, the rapper listed a few things. Among those qualities, he mentioned she had a low body count.

 

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After saying he was “petty” and India was “not being passed around,” he went into detail. Durk explained, “I’m petty as hell. If you been f***ing a lot of n***as and all that, I ain’t gon’ wife you. That’s me.” He continued, “I’ll wake up in the middle of the night and get mad over some s**t from a couple of years ago.”  Listing the qualities he likes about India, Durk stated, “Everything about her. Like, being real, not cheating, not being passed around. Her body count…that’s what really did it.”

Of course the internet had something to say about this. Heaven forbid the internet being silent and letting people actually have an opinion about their own lives.

In response, a few people on Twitter expressed how they felt about Durk’s comments. India responded to the critics and said, “Idgaf what people think about my fiancé. That’s why he mine, get you one.” She also tweeted, “Good thing he my man,” in response to someone criticizing Durk’s comments…

In the past India has also expressed deaf ears to the hate.

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Lil Durk is 29-years-old with 6 kids, by 5 or 6 women.

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The couple reportedly lives in this $595,000 house in Georgia.

May they live their best life and may women avoid giving themselves away and keep their body count low. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh, and Heaven forbid that women raise their standards and actually stop dating men who don’t keep THEIR body count low, and totally avoid n*ggaz who spend low dough.

I’ll leave it at that.

WoW! Megan Good’s Husband Devon Franklin Files For Divorce After 9 Years

WoW! Megan Good’s Husband Devon Franklin Files For Divorce After 9 Years

Sad news. One of our favorite couples Megan Good and Devon Franklin are getting divorced.

People magazine reports: “There’s no one at fault, we believe this is the next best chapter in the evolution of our love,” Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin tell PEOPLE exclusively

Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin are filing for divorce.

PEOPLE exclusively confirms the couple’s split after nine years of marriage. Good and Franklin, who met working on the 2011 film Jumping the Broom, got engaged in May 2012 and wed in June 2012.

“After much prayer and consideration, we have decided to go into our futures separately but forever connected,” Good, 40, and Franklin, 43, share in a joint statement.

“We celebrate almost a decade of marriage together and a love that is eternal. There’s no one at fault, we believe this is the next best chapter in the evolution of our love,” they continue.

“We are incredibly grateful for the life-changing years we’ve spent together as husband and wife. We are also extremely thankful to God for the testimony being created inside us both and for blessing our lives with each other,” the pair adds.

Six months before publicly sharing their decision to divorce, Good and Franklin posted anniversary tributes to one another to mark their ninth year of marriage.

On June 16, Good shared a nearly 4-minute highlight reel of their relationship on Instagram.

“To the love of my life, my husband, purpose partner, happy anniversary!!” the Harlem star wrote. “This makes #9 and eternity you go! You are the best decision I’ve ever made (besides loving Jesus lol). I love you with everything inside me. In this life and in the next.”

At the time, Franklin, a preacher and Live Free: Exceed Your Highest Expectations author, wrote a message to Good on Instagram along with a photo of the pair. “I love you my love. Happy Anniversary #9,” he said in part.

And as recently as Dec. 2, Franklin celebrated the actress and touted her new Amazon Prime Video series on his social media. “I’m so proud of my love @Meagangood! She’s one of the most talented actors on the planet AND she’s funnier than you may know but I’m so glad you finally get a chance to see her do it all as Camille Parks in the new Amazon show #Harlem,” he posted on Instagram.

As fans can recall, Good and Franklin frequently documented their romance for their fans, even writing the bestselling book The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love.

In their 2015 book, they shared details about their courtship and values, including how saving sex until marriage was the key to success in their relationship at the time.

Kissy's Thoughts

This is definitely disappointing news.  I still remember when Megan was so excited to go to a movie premiere Franklin would be attending because she had a crush on him.

I also remember Megan dating all of the wrong guys and her name being dragged through the mud by athletes before she met Franklin.

The actress has been pretty quiet the past few years, so I am quite sure she will go out for more roles and turn her light up again.

On another note, my senses tell me Devon has another woman already….

It’s rather embarrassing as a woman for your husband to file for divorce.

A Childless Vivica A. Fox Mirrors The Thoughts Of Many Black Women: ‘I Never Met The Man I Could Have Children With’

A Childless Vivica A. Fox Mirrors The Thoughts Of Many Black Women: ‘I Never Met The Man I Could Have Children With’

The 57-year-old actress bae Vivica A. Fox is is going viral on TikTok for her candid response after a fan asked if she ever thought about adopting a child.

When the fan asked if she thought about adopting a child in order to leave behind a legacy, 50 Cent’s ex was a little taken back, yet kindly responded.

“Girl, I’m 57,” Vivica can be heard saying during a live Q&A session. “I’ve got six god-babies. Don’t think that because I didn’t birth children that I don’t have children. I have six god-children. I do not feel less fulfilled as a woman—period.”

The multi-hyphenate entertainer continued, “I love children. Please do not get me wrong, I absolutely love children! In my life, it was career or children and I never met the man I could have children with. I didn’t.”

Vivica went on to share that her family stopped her from tying the knot to someone that she wouldn’t be able to deal with for 18 years. “I trust my family,” she shared with the crowd.

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She concluded, “When God took away my opportunity to bear children, he sent my god-babies. So, I’ve got kids!”

Kissy's Thoughts

It is indeed a blessing to have children, rather you gave birth to them or not. Simply being able to nurture children and see them grow is very fulfilling.

However, the part about God taking away her opportunity to bear children, is something I must clear up.

Vivica’s position of not finding a man she could have kids with, truly reflects on the position of many black women in America.  It’s a reflection of the decades of dating culture where it’s cool to not be in a committed relationship and the agenda that men need to have more than one woman is being pushed.

Such an agenda doesn’t allow space for a business woman to feel comfortable or safe enough with the average man to connect herself to him for 18-years, by bearing a child with him.

This pattern will continue to rum rampant in the black community.   God gives most of women the ability to have children.  He also gives women the ability to be intentional.  Not only do a high proportion of black women not feel safe enough to have children with men, but also some women have one kid, have such a bad experience with the father, then wisen up and avoid making that mistake again.  The child isn’t a mistake. But connecting yourself to someone who would try to ruin your life for 18-years, simply because they can’t keep you, is a no no.  Some people truly learn from wisdom.

But men aren’t the whole problem.  Instead of a woman swearing off having another child, or simply being okay with not having another child, She could simply set the intention to have another child with a better man.

What most black women do is instead is intend to make money, while HOPING for a good man.

It’s all so simple. We blame God for things that aren’t his fault.  Could he assure that our first choice is a great guy? Yes God could surely intervene.  But that would take away our freedom of CHOICE to live this life as we wish and learn the lessons that we learn.

For if no one learns any lessons, who will teach? Many life lessons can’t be read in a book or regurgitated. They must be experienced and understood, in order to pass the message on.

Derrick Rose Bought His Fiancé A Ring So Big, The Diamonds Will Hurt Your Feelings

Derrick Rose Bought His Fiancé A Ring So Big, The Diamonds Will Hurt Your Feelings

I was on Instagram minding my business when the IG algorithm universe decided to put this pretty blonde girl in my face.   She was very attractive so I stopped to pay attention to her hand movements.

This woman was showing off a huge diamond ring on her fingers.   When I say HUGE. I mean HUGE.

Then I look at the caption and it says “Mrs. Rose.” Immediately my mind says “Noooooooo. Not Derrick Rose.”

And then, Yes,  DERRICK  mthfkn ROSE.

I’m only writing this post so ya’ll can see this ring and this pretty girl.

NBA Star Derrick Rose Engaged to Girlfriend Alaina Anderson — See Her Massive Diamond Ring!

 

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As I write this post and derrive so much joy from seeing this woman live her best life, I wonder why many other men don’t want to make their woman look as good as Alaina looks right now?

Anyway, back to the story.

On Tuesday, 33-year-old New York Knicks guard Derrick Rose proposed to his girlfriend Alaina Anderson during a romantic dinner at Madison Square Garden.

The NBA player shared the news on Instagram with photos of Anderson’s stunning engagement ring, their private dinner and wine setup on the Knicks court and shared a touching message to “my ace.”

“I didn’t know how you were going to perceive me. But this entire time I was hoping that you would believe me. Believe the words that I will have your back and love u forever,” Rose wrote of his fiancée.

“When I FIRST saw you I told Ryan that we were gon be together. It took both of us a while to let down our guards. That’s only becuz both of our hearts were scarred. We are two peas in a pod becuz we are truly MISUNDERSTOOD,” he said.

Rose tricked his woman into believing they were going to a Knicks game, then surprised her with a proposal. A day prior he even bought her a different diamond ring, saying maybe one day he could get her the real thing.

Alaina is stunting in her instagram photos using hashtags #getyouaring and wondering what she should name her ring, because it’s so darn big.

Derrick even takes her photos for her to be posted to the gram.

Rose continued, “We got our heart and swag from this place called ENGLEWOOD. I will always love you becuz you go above and beyond. We built a beautiful family and an unbreakable bond. Thank you Queen.”

The 26-year-old model and influencer quickly commented under the post writing, “A WIFE!!!!! I love you!!!!!😍😍😍 MRS ROSE TO YALL LOL.” She also re-shared his message on her Instagram Story, calling him her “hood poet” alongside several blushing and kissing emojis.

This totally isn’t a good look for 50/50 men.

Anyway gentlemen, feel free to go back to your daily schedule of saying how your woman isn’t deserving of much and how she’d better accept a pebble as a symbol of your love, cause money, rings, and the finer things in life don’t mean a thing in your world. Plus rich men suck and beat their wife. Did I miss any of your sentiments?

Men are REALLY GOOD to the woman they love

Men are REALLY GOOD to the woman they love

Most men fall in love so little, that when they finally meet a woman they love, they are really good to her.

But most good men have been hurt.  They become too afraid to be a good man.

Other times good men wonder, if they are deserving of a good woman, or if it’s even safe to be a good man.

There’s so much confusion in this world and so many fears.  But love and fear can not co-exist.

You must pick. Either you’re going to CHOOSE to love or live in fear of LOVE.

When standards come into play then there becomes different definitions of love.

Real love is a feeling. It’s a feeling when the feelings of your heart have been met. It’s the moments where absolutely zero fear is present.

So when you meet someone, it’s good to calculate how far away they are from God. To fall deeply in love, God must be in your heart.

Are you afraid of God? Does God give you what you want? Do you suffer from doubt?

What you meet, is always a reflection of YOURSELF?  What beliefs do YOU need to heal?

 

Real House Wives Star Erika Jayne Divorcing 81-Year-Old Husband After 21 Years Of Marriage

Real House Wives Star Erika Jayne Divorcing 81-Year-Old Husband After 21 Years Of Marriage

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star, Erika Jayne, 49, has announced that she’s ending her marriage to high-profile attorney Tom Girardi, 81, after 21-years of marriage.

The Bravo star released a statement to E! News confirming the news saying;

“After much consideration, I have decided to end my marriage to Tom Girardi. This is not a step taken lightly or easily. I have great love and respect for Tom and for our years and the lives we built together.”

“It is my absolute wish to proceed through this process with respect and with the privacy that both Tom and I deserved,” she adds. “I request others give us that privacy as well.”

 

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Erika was often seen on #RHOBH discussing her seemingly happy marriage and said that while they don’t “f*** like 20-year-olds” they have a healthy sex life.

 

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Recently when a fan asked about very her husband, Erika said that he was “Currently snoring next to me.”

The couple met 21 years ago at Chasen’s in West Hollywood, where Erika was working as a cocktail waitress.   Tom, a repeat customer of the establishment was smitten by the waitresses beauty, customer service and personality.  After a year of him frequenting the restaurant Erika boldly slipped him her number. Six months later they were engaged.

Erika previously told Andy Cohen on “Watch What Happens Live” that they do NOT have a prenup and since her husband’s an attorney there’s no need for since he’d destroy it anyway.

“Let me tell you something, let me be very clear. I’m married to a very powerful lawyer,” said Erika. “A prenup wouldn’t stand in his way anyway…It’s gonna be all Tom’s way, I assure you. He’ll rip that piece of paper to shreds in two seconds!”

 

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Stunning, smart woman woman. She’s about to live her BEST life. Believe that. It’s nice to hear that a marriage is ending amicably on good terms.  My intuition tells me he decided to let her go, so that she can live her life and experience more fun. As to telling E that she’s getting divorced, while asking for privacy, it’s the same ole Hollywood line repeated time and time again….. 

What good about Erika’s story is that she avoided players, no good men, broke men and all of the pitfalls of men that other women fall victim to in the name of love. Erika has secured the brand, the bag, was successfully married, and now the world is hers on a silver platter. 

EGO: Ray J tricked Princess Love Into Staying Married, Now He Filed To Divorce HER & Won’t Talk To Her

In July, Princess Love filed a request for dismissal of her divorce from Ray J, just two months after she initially filed the claim to dissolve their marriage of four years.

On Monday Ray J announced that he was now divorcing Princess.

He told ET, that he didn’t even think about it, and just filed the paperwork.

When asked about how he came to the decision to file for divorce this week, Ray J confessed, “It was just how I felt at the time. I didn’t really talk to nobody about it.”

“I just went to God.”

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Princess Love learned about husband Ray J’s divorce filing through social media.

The fashion designer was never told directly that her singer-songwriter spouse filed to legally ditch her on Monday, according to The Shade Room.

Additionally, Love claims the Love & Hip Hop: Hollywood star ‘won’t return any of her phone calls or text messages’ in the wake of the filing.

Ray J said he only wants the best for his family. Even if that means the mother of his two children — daughter Melody, two, and 8-month-old son Epik — moves on with someone new.

“I just want to make sure that my babies and my Princess is in a great place mentally and that they can enjoy life,” he explained. “My wife — if there’s somebody better out there that she wants to be with, then I have to respect that as well. But hey, I don’t know. I can’t say too much, but I love you, Princess. That’s what I can say.”

According to B. Scott, Ray J & Princess been having marital problems forever.

“Back in November of 2019, a pregnant Princess accused Ray of abandoning her and their daughter in Las Vegas, which prompted an epic social media war as Princess took to Instagram to say the marriage was over.

“I don’t have time for this. This is not love. And I’m done,” she posted.

Ray J denied leaving his pregnant wife in Las Vegas.”

Even after filing for divorce, Ray J seems to really be pulling a chess move on Princess, cause he somehow still has hopes of a reconciliation.

“Even if we don’t make it, we still have to be with each other a lot, because we have a baby, so we’re together for life. Happiness is important. I think. I’ll sacrifice all my happiness for my kids,” he told ET.

Kissy's Thoughts

This Princess Love & Ray J situation really goes to show what happens when a woman doesn’t stick to her guns and put herself first.

It’s highly embarrassing as a woman to have a man file for divorce on you. But I guess at least he’s being polite and saying he’s doing it for her well-being.

Situations like this are why it’s often pointless to stay with a cheating man.  After a while he realizes he messes up and he lets go to go be with another woman. For a man, it’s easier to start all over again with a new woman, than to do the DIFFICULT work of healing the woman he broke. Most times I swear, they always bring God into it, and say God told them to let go.

Now she has to go out into the world broken, meeting new men, and probably not even realizing she is broken.  Sure, another man will hop on it. But before Ray J she was with Floyd Mayweather who also has an abusive history.   Princess has a victim pattern.

What’s even more true is that quite often I hear black men saying how black women are constantly choosing the flashy guys, instead of the nice guys who would do right by them. It’s true. Black women want to live a luxury lifestyle. Beautiful women need men who will invest in them and appreciate their beauty.  But oftentimes a celebrity man is the last man who is going to give her the true love she desires.

As to Princess, any normal adult could see how she fell in love with Ray J. He’s attractive with a beautiful voice, and seemingly has everything a woman could want.  But the thing about any man is that he MUST have a desire to treat a woman like a Queen, keep her happy, keep his family together, handle his business and maintain a healthy relationship.  The minute a man cheats, he has to know that all of that is in jeopardy. Cheating people cause their own relationship problems and seem highly surprised by the repercussions of their decisions to be unable to control themselves.  And many women THINK that they will get with a man and not care if he cheats, until they get abandoned in Vegas, and realize the man truly gives no phucks.

People are getting married and entering into relationships without any form of counseling or knowing how to maintain a healthy relationship, let alone a MARRIAGE that means we’re supposed to be together forever.

If a couple wants to stay together, each person has to know that the other’s happiness is just as important as their own. And a man has to realize that it is he who LEADS the relationship and a woman maintains the balance by setting high standards and not putting up with no sh*t.

Often times the minute you taking a cheating man back, it’s a set-up for failure. People don’t view forgiveness as forgiveness sometimes. They view it as having a sucker willing to put up with their crap.

Toxic relationships, cheating and abuse are so normalized in the black community.

As I always say, all of Hollywood needs a spiritual life coach.  In this world we mostly all have to heal from patterns. But very few people are putting in the effort to do so.