by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | | Jul 17, 2020 |
You have to stop feeling sorry for black men. They know the way to go. They just choose not to.
1. They chose to have women providing for them.
2. They chose to not want to pay bills but access a woman’s energy.
3. They know they need positive energy, but have no value for a feminine woman’s energy.
Many believe that someone owes them something. That someone has to do something for them. They are usually looking for a woman to do things for them, that their mother didn’t do for them. They carry loads of trauma, while believing themselves to be good men.
I’ve heard many black men online say that men don’t value beautiful women; while chasing after beautiful women of whom they can’t truly afford.
All these wounded men have this thing going on in their heads, they have a WOE is me storyline or something.
Any man who comes around you, and constantly accesses your positive energy without paying you, is robbing you of your energy and your youth. A healed masculine man wouldn’t even do such a thing. He knows he’s playing with his own abundance.
You must judge a man on how much he’s feeding into you, on top of his character and his WISDOM.
Wise men seek to get married. They often just don’t know how to find their soulmate and try to do it on their own.
Britain’s Prince Harry poses with Meghan Markle in the Sunken Garden of Kensington Palace, London, Britain, November 27, 2017. REUTERS/Toby Melville
It’s not YOU that you have to change. You have to change your mindset on your opinions of the men and the people you let into your life.
A man will literally buy a $1600 pair of shoes, and go have sex with a woman for free. She thinks she’s high value because she’s free.
He thinks she’s of very little value because it took much of nothing to get her.
When you give black men money, help them get on their feet, or to allow them to live with you without paying all of the bills, his mind begins to seek out ways that he can TAKE more from you. He may even give a little, so that he has more room to TAKE from you. They will take advantage of your trust.
Quite often we want to sugarcoat this and pretend like it’s not happening. Because we want black men to be good. But it’s ludicrous to label every black man as “good.”
We want to because we often know what they are up against. They are up against a lot. They are up against oppression and even need to fear harm from other black men. And they ultimately take all of that stress out on whatever black woman will allow them around while operating in a low capacity.
The men and their 3D mindset is the reason many don’t have wealth nor do they know how to get wealth. Their eyes are focused on someone else’s wealth and believing themselves to be limited.
Which also means there is a disconnect from God and the heart.
Men connected to God want:
1. A woman he loves.
2. A woman whom he can provide for.
But most aren’t going to find love, because most don’t even show up as a provider. Right away they throw off the masculine and feminine balance. And women who don’t only allow in provider men, throw off the energetic balance also. This is why women are mostly blamed when the relationship goes sour.
If he’s driving your car while you’re at work, picking up other women, you are at fault for dealing with a man who didn’t have his sh*t together. Sis, sympathy, compassion and kindness gets you NO WHERE when you’re dealing with men who aren’t handing you money and feeding life and love into you.
You don’t get bonus points for feeding the snakes. A man is a slithering snake ready to bite, until he becomes a man of class, stature and value. See a snake slithers around, often being sneaky. A human MAN, stands up and gets what he wants by verbal command and consistent action backed with good intent. And we’re not talk about the so called good intent men who stay doing a woman wrong. His brain is all off, thinking harming you is of benefit to you because he supposedly had good intent. Such men have an immature mindset.
See some men are okay with taking from women, because he sees himself as lowly. In his own eyes, he believes he sees himself as high and mighty. But he doesn’t. Because if he did, he would get up and be a King who provides.
Therefore a man who is inadequate in his ability to provide for you is a danger to you. Remember that many single women take care of kids and multiple men at the same time. THE STRENGTH. It comes from dealing with one too many men who didn’t feel it was their God given ability to provide.
So many black men are looking for the maid. They want live in maids. Their entire value system of a woman is based upon domestic duties, without notice of his own ability or inability to provide STAFF for domesticated duties, and be able to simply enjoy his woman’s femininity.
Such a man’s mind is ran by a LACK mindset. And because of it, his mind thinks of ways to TAKE from a woman to make up for what he feel he doesn’t have.
There is a lot of dysfunction that goes on with many men. Single parent households and self-worth issues play out loudly on the screen.
You must change your movie script by only being turned on or interested in men who are capable of PROVIDING for you right now.
Another truth is you have a better chance of getting a provider man when you are already bossed up and providing for yourself. But what most women do when they are bossed up is go get a man who can’t provide, instead of being patient and doing the work to manifest dream man.
WHY? Because of the scarcity, that society and all the people disconnected from God have put out into the atmosphere. You fear you’re running out of time. You fear you won’t be accepted for your perceived flaws. They whisper the words “You Can’t” in your ear. It’s all lies. RISE and Unleash Your Inner Goddess who feels she deserves to be valued.
Judge men based upon how much money he’s investing in you, and his character when it comes to the way he treats women and his value system.
I was listening to a client the other day tell me how a coach was telling women who were average that they didn’t deserve an above average man.
He obviously only knows a small portion of life. Because what most successful, good-hearted men, who follow God and actually pay bills do, is get an average woman, because her requirements are low.
Only later does he realize that her low requirements aren’t a match for his high ambition.
Meanwhile there is a man telling women that they can’t have, exactly what many women are having.
Some will tell you that you can’t get a good man to provide for you when you have a couple of kids. Not true either.
But back to this one guy. He also said that women needed to stop looking for men who were over 6 Feet, because most men are shorter.
It’s the same old tired storyline. But it’s not these men’s faults. It’s the women’s fault for listening.
See women judge women if they don’t have a man. But a man can hop online and give out relationship advice without having a wife, without obviously having any value for actual high value women, nor without knowing the abundance of God.
Now as to what you can’t have. Every day a client is calling me telling me how she just attracted her dream man.
Anything is possible when people operate with their heart.
And women can freely operate with their heart when you set boundaries and BE the high value woman that GOOD MEN actually like.
If not, you set yourself up to be drained by men who don’t know the value of women.
Don’t view it as money. It’s not about the money. It’s the meaning behind the money. The meaning is, “I am consistently investing in you because I appreciate your energy and want to keep you in my life.”
One of my male friends said that to me the other day. He sent me $2,500. Not because I asked him to. Not because I needed money. He was the last man that I was expecting money to come from.
But here is the thing, he has great character. He values women. He didn’t even send me that money hoping to have sex with me. I haven’t seen in years.
You can have so many men loving on you and investing in you, or you can feel low value and deal with men who don’t invest in you, and will drain you.
It’s best to stop dealing with low vibe men and pretending you have a good man, knowing damn well he’s breaking your heart with his behavior. You know in your heart that you want to be treated like a Queen. Yet, you don’t want to cause black men any man, so instead you stand there taking the pain he dishes out to you. Instead you have opted to be a martyr. Stop it! It’s not about race at all. It’s about your HEART, your JOY, and what YOU deserve. Put yourself first. It’s the only way you’ll find a man who will put you first.
Besides that, feeling sorry for a black man or taking it easy on him, denies him of his own capabilities. Which means he will then look at you as a person who LACKS. You lower your own value by dealing with a man who isn’t providing for you. Not to mention he is going to resent the phuck out of you for looking at him as a charity/sympathy case.
When you meet a man who you like and would love to be with, although he isn’t providing for you, check yourself, before you wreck yourself. Tell him “Hey King. I think you are amazing. But I see you are at a place right now where you don’t feel that I am the woman of your dreams that you want to provide for right now. So I won’t be the woman who will handicap you. I believe in you.”
Send him on his way. He’ll use up another woman’s energy, and then come back to you money in hand ready to marry you and provide a great life for you.
Look at black men as capable Kings. He is more than capable of being wealthy and providing for you. If he doesn’t, you’re simply not the woman of his dreams. The woman of his dreams would inspire him just that much.
Accepting any man who doesn’t look at you as the woman he’s going out into the world and provides for, is essentially holding him back. You handicap a man when you don’t believe in his ability to provide for you RIGHT NOW. You think you’re doing a good thing, but chances are, it will backfire. It has with way too many women. The odds of such a man appreciating you are low.
Don’t feel sorry for anyone. Not even yourself.
Men who provide, feed LIFE into you. They make you have more faith in God’s ability to provide for you. Because a man is a vessel of God’s loving support.
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UPDATE: I received a phenomenal response to this blog post by one of my male followers.
Monty M Powell wrote: “
Of course these black women are natural “mothers”! The slave mother would even suckle a white baby with her own milk before her own! Genetically modified for mothering up until this day!
Thank the nature of the universal way that my mother and grandmother showed me early that they didn’t owe me sh*t!
I’ve watched black single mothers soft as hell on their rotten disrespectful piece of sh*t sons! Raising a new generation of brothers who can’t even change a flat tire! When the warriors of any nation stop being warriors they tend to suckle their birth mother well beyond puberty! In the past 30 years this has been the common practice of the black woman with her male child and grandchild! They’re not teaching them sh*t and don’t care who knows it!
Dude gets locked up? I’ve seen a chick sell her food stamps to put money on his books! N***ah get outta jail cursing her out and being totally disrespectful!
The black males are learning how to bite the hands that feed them and the fathers of these miscreants have since lost control and respect! How can most of these “women” NOT feel sorry for some wayward bastard who doesn’t have the common sense enough to treat his own mother and grandmother with respect?
Then there’s the “GO-ON GIRL!” I don’t need no broke A$$ N***ah squad who secretly will nurse a street rat back to non-needy status only to have him burn the sh*t outta her and get a white chick after all has been said and done! Black chick of 2019 and 2020 are still playing the pick up woman and the aunt Jermima mammie type chick!
I’ve met a few of these coming through! Not every black man needs a hand out but a hand up in the form of living trust and loyal belief in a brother! Some of us know how to handle a real woman but we get confused while dealing with an immature slave mentality mammie! The same way black men forget their lane is the same way black women forget theirs! What makes us different from whites is the whites remind their men and women and many times they listen to each other while we don’t! Head strong becomes stuck on stupid from both sexes and in all ages in the black communities!
The title of Mother Earth belongs to the black woman! Whether she wants to own it or not! It’s clear many choose NOT to own it at all! Thanks to the times and social media. Many are choosing to not own sh*t while wanting the crown of Queen! Heavy is the head that bares the crown!!
Takes a hell of a lot more than jive hoe quotes and misguided bullsh*t bible verses to raise a nation of thinkers doers and educators!”
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | | Jul 14, 2020 |
Hiiiii. You’ve arrived after seeing a certain sequence of angel numbers. The Universe is guiding you to the manifestation of your desires.
You need a little truth serum, so this is going to be quite different from what you are used to. In order to get a man who loves and adores you, the first thing you need to do is stop messing with these busters who treat you any less than the Queen that you are.
DECIDE right now, that you will never again date a man who doesn’t think you’re amazing with ice cream and cherries on top, PLUS dash of whipped cream AND some sprinkles. You are extra, so you need a man who comes with a little extra loving just for you.
You want the divine man who has been looking for you his whole life.
You want LOVE, and not just any ole love. You want REAL LOVE with a man who honors you, respects you, believes in you and actually spends his money on you. Not to mention you want a man who can actually afford to spend his money on you without overwhelming his budget. You’re a boss.
Because you’re bossy, you also need a man that knows how to hit it right, preferably from the back.
Yes Sis, I am not here to play any games with you. I know what you want, and it’s time to get it.
THE PROBLEM
Most women are stuck because they don’t work on themselves. They are more concerned with reading gossip, following whoever is popular, listening to the advice of those who simply regurgitate what they heard someone else say, instead of following soul and finding an aligned teacher.
Some women become know it all’s who don’t get help and continuously try to do everything on their own. Usually for such a woman her business also stresses her out, because she’s trying to do that too by herself. Non-professional women invest in everything except their relationship and communication skills. When it comes to love the average woman does not feel worthy of investing in herself.
Although love is THE single most important topic in a boss chicks life, right behind her education, she wouldn’t dare invest the amount of money into her love life, the way she’s invested into her education.
Then again Sis, you’ve invested a lot of money into all the wrong men; trying to build bears over the years.
You ever watch yourself build up a man, only for him to go to the next woman, happy as can be, doing everything for her, meanwhile being upset with you for being the person he needed you to be, in order to get him to step his game up?
I know you are tired of that tired game of self-sacrifice.
Have you ever imagined how it would feel to actually have a man who appreciates you for all you do, and maybe even have a man who uplifts you for a change, instead of you being the one that has to lift people up and drag them to the top?
When you’re ready to actually CHANGE, you will get that exact kind of man. The kind you can build an empire with and make over the world together like Pinky & The Brain.
You’ve done endless research and so far, not much has helped you. That’s because you’re special and need a special kind of coach. You are called to experience divine, sacred love. It’s the most beautiful love a human can experience while on the planet earth. That’s why you’re so filled with unconditional love. But you need a man who knows what to do with it.
You need to meet your soulmate. He’s the other half of your heart. Just as much as you want to meet him, he wants to meet you too. What you seek is seeking you.
You don’t have to go through immense pain anymore. You can heal your heart, vibrate higher, feel sexier, lit up, full of joy, embodying the fullest expression of your Goddess and attract one of the most divine men alive, who absolutely loves and adores you.
You are the bomb Sis. But there are a few things you must first attend to.
Does this sound like you:
✅ You often speak about how tired you are of men. How upset you are, and how men know not to come at you wrong. Yet, you’re dating and getting bad results. You’re dating with no sign of a marriage proposal.
✅ You’re tired of meeting countless men, but not liking any of them.
✅ You fall in love with a man’s amazing chemistry, only to later be completely turned off by his character.
✅ You see the good in men and try to drag them there to help them become the Kingly version of them that you see.
As a powerful women you actually don’t like many men. So when you finally find one you like, you lose yourself trying to make it work. That’s very noble of you, but not quite the thing that masculine men respond to. Masculine men respond feminine women.
You often get stuck on good d*ck, good looks, and potential. Sure, you date high value men, but they don’t tend to like you the way you like them. At least not the ones you like. Meanwhile, the ones you don’t like, are crazy about you.
Deep down, if you really look at your dating and relationship history, you look at men like the little boy that could. You have A LOT of sympathy for men and believe that if you just show him what real love is, that he will transform, become highly successful and turn into your knight in shining armor.
Listen, Sis. It’s important that you start LISTENING to what men tell you. When a man tells you he’s busy working, the truth is he’s just too busy FOR YOU.
Heart-centered women while being VERY loving, with pure intent, actually have the most difficult time dating, due to ignoring all the red flags, and hearing what you want to hear.
Have you ever tried seeing things as they truly are? I know painful right. People tend to suck when you view them through that lense. There’s nothing wrong with your rosy colored glasses. You really just need a man who really is kind, wonderful, loving and sweet, so that you can continue being your sweet loving self.
You know the one who doesn’t mind buying men nice gifts, throwing huge surprise birthday parties, taking me on trips, paying for fancy dinners. being him luxury gifts at the mall, taking him to the spa, and all of the cool things you do, that other men didn’t appreciate.
But back to what I was saying… When a man tells you he’s not ready for a relationship right now, believe him. Cause when you don’t, you allow a man to use you, until what he really wants comes along.
If you want to actually experience real sacred soulmate love in this world, you need an advanced dating strategy. Nope, it’s not about playing games. It’s about embodying your authentic self and including your femininity and desires into the mix.
You think you’re a challenge, and that a man would be lucky to have a woman like you. Yet you never get the guy you actually want.
Here’s the thing, men actually AREN’T afraid of strong women. They are afraid of going after women that they believe will hurt them. Men are not as emotionally strong as women think.
You ever found yourself bragging about how well you cook, and how you can pay your fair share? Listen, there is a better way to attract a good man. Cause that behavior only attracts those beta men, and Lawd knows you don’t like beta. Like “Saweetie” said you want the man with the “B’s”, that’s your type.
You’re a good woman, you’ve sacrificed your pride, dignity, confidence and self-respect to hold onto a man you have falsely labeled as a limited edition. Meanwhile what he’s limited on is his love for you.
He treats you like a basic b*tch. He doesn’t seem to care about your degrees, how smart you are or how fine you are. He doesn’t even notice the 99 million things you do for him in order to grow his soul and prosper him with love.
Are you tired of feeling like you’ll never be ENOUGH for him or any man? Do you fear that when you finally do meet the man of your dreams, that he won’t like you?
Life doesn’t have to be that way when you know exactly how to get the man you want.
If you sit around listening to his false promises of giving you the stars, claiming he wants to take care of you, meanwhile he’s waiting for a woman to come along who he will give the entire Universe to.
You see a good man WALKS the ish he talks. He makes you feel good and reminds you of the sexy, roaring, vivacious woman you are, But you’ve been settling with listening ears, instead of watching men with your Goddess eyes.
Unless you view men and the world through your Goddess eyes, you’ll be a man’s place holder. Sometimes your loving heart comes off to a man like you’re in desperate need of love. That’s crazy right? Welcome to the world of MEN. Men don’t think like women do. They have a completely different value system.
Your own value system has had you caught up, in love, trying to turn a clown into a King. You didn’t come into this world to marry a court jester.
You deserve better!
You always seem to be the caretaker for a man. Even your male family members. Face it Sis, you’re tired of being drained. You’re tired of being used up. You’re tired of being treated basic. You’re tired of not getting what you want.
You want the dream. You want the marriage, the mansion, the private jet, the luxury lifestyle and the baby with the carriage. You are ready to live your best life, with a few stops in between on an exotic island with the man of your dreams.
You’re a total boss chick. You make plenty of money and you’re really generous. But the man of your dreams hasn’t pulled up yet. So you’ve been settling for less.
Your self-esteem has took a hit. How many bears have you built that you’ve watched move on to fall in love and provide for another woman?
You love to date one man and a time and committed to him. I swear you be following all of the good girl rules. You let him talk you into feeling guilty for dating other men. He told you that he prayed for you, and that you were the woman for him. Then he proceeded to show narcissistic behavior. Each time you left him, he would beg for you to come back.
You listen to his kind words, that he’s never backed up with actions. Only sweet words that lead you on. Telling you what he would do for you, or could do for you, in the future maybe. What about right now?
Don’t you think that you deserve the man of your dreams right now? Or did you fall for that line that men feed to masculine women, telling her that she has to earn it?
Honey there are some things about men, that Youtube University can not teach you.
Are you ready to break your patterns and stop suffering from one heartbreak after another?
Did the last man come onto you fast, like lightening, love bombed you, and then pretty quickly showed you just how much he didn’t appreciate you?
Yet there you stood, giving out wife treatment, trying to prove your worth.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | | Jun 17, 2020 |
I’ve tried being sweet, emotional and authentic with men, showing care and “vulnerability.” I see other women doing it. Like, I truly observe what goes on in the world.
I noticed that the average man will laugh in your face and talk about how much you LIKED him. Then when you no longer give two phucks about him because he didn’t appreciate your love and affection, here comes the reminder that you were “hurt” or sweating him.
Some level of immaturity pops up in even the best men. Women take note of this and she stops being so vulnerable and honest, or maybe she pretends stops pretending to caring so much, about a man who doesn’t seem to feel her femininity. I believe many women TRY to care MORE, because they want to connect, and try to force the care.
The problem comes when the woman then becomes fearful of being vulnerable with men there after. She believes that not showing feelings and emotions makes her “strong.”
This is the psychological story she begins to live and tell herself. She does this until she’s all the way over on the other side, exerting lots of masculine energy.
It’s very important that a woman avoid doing this, and stay tapped into her feminine energy.
So when I say what I’m about to say, know that it’s for the embetterment of all women. (I think George Bush made that word up now, and you know what they did? They put it in the dictionary. It makes perfect sense.)
I promise you that men who don’t break bread with you are not worth your love. Men who don’t break bread think your love is a joke.
In a way, I noticed that any man who talks bad about me, was not paying my bills. Men who pay bills love me. While for some women, the man paid their bills and she was still bad. I am not talking about that kind of thing. I am talking about heart-centered people. See what I noticed is that heart-centered men and women give their all to people without expecting much in return in investment, other than love. And most of the people they choose to date, don’t feel invested in, and do no investing in them, in return. Not even the investment of real love.
A woman will continuously invest her heart and soul into a man who wouldn’t even invest $1,000 into her. That’s such a small amount of money to many. And not invest it, not because he doesn’t have it, but he’s just not into her like that. You could say some men play it safe, but the truth is, at some point, we all fall in love and go all in with delight. Not only for them, but for the joy of ourselves of wanting love to be a beautiful, romantic, EXPERIENCE.
So when a man feels a woman is not worthy of his investment of love, women are often surprised to feel so unvalued.
It’s interesting to see the unaligned value systems playing out. So many things go on. But women can end the confusion by simply understanding that men speak with their pocketbook. It has nothing to do with gold-digging. It’s just the way men are created.
It’s nature. Men were created to give, and a woman was created to receive. When a man meets the woman of his dreams, he is quite naturally drawn to give to her. The more a man desires a woman, the more he’s going to give her.
See some men only want a woman physically. I think for most men, initially it’s purely physical. That’s how their brains are. Often women don’t give men enough time to see past that.
There’s a lot going on in the mind of a man. Sex is always the number one factor. It just depends on which way you have him focus…..
The men with their hand out waiting for a woman to do something for them are unconsciously wounded. he’s forgotten who he is. Some men are kind of lost, trying to recover something, and forgets who his inner God is.
In the bible it says that you have to GIVE in order to receive.
“In the final hours with His disciples, Jesus sets a powerful example to serve one another by washing their feet and gives them a new commandment to focus on love.
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. John 13:35.
The book of Acts records that the early church took this teaching to heart. Believers met together in their homes to break bread, teach and worship, and they also sold their possessions and shared freely with those in need (Acts 2:45 and Acts 4:35)
The body of believers is meant to be a community, united in love, that openly blesses one another when a need arises and simply just because it can.”
The key word here is NEED. A man is supposed to provide for a woman’s NEEDS, and take note of them. In today’s society, what men value most is their money, so most men are not apt to spend money on things they don’t want. Back in the day men went out and hunted to feed women, and animals and stock were traded as part of the dowry for their wife. So you see it’s not the money, but the VALUE system placed on the money. It’s interchangeable. Either way, men are competitive. So if you go to an indigenous tribe somewhere, that’s not part of civilized culture, I am quite sure that they have some kind of VALUE system as to what men do for the women in that culture who they find the most valuable. I am also quite certain that men give HER more of that, than they would another woman. At the minimum regardless, all around the world, when it’s mutual, ATTENTION is the minimum requirement. How much determines the longevity and depth of the relationship.
I feel like I’m preaching a sermon right now.
So for men, they spend money where they care. The more they care about something, the more they’ll spend. Men really care about women, which is really why they drive such nice cars. They want the pretty woman, with the pretty car, to live in a pretty house and have a pretty bank account. Pretty is based upon the eyes of the beholder; lead by their innate dreams, goals, and desires. It’s all about LAYERS. Men have been building sandcastles since toddler age, preparing and manifesting to get what they want.
So men know what they want, when they find her. But are you HER when he meets you?
Anyway, you know what tithing is really all about? Teaching you to give of yourself, with the expectation of receiving something in return.
Good-hearted people often tithe and give without expecting anything in return. I think that’s really sweet, but sometimes they need to make sure they are mostly focused on exactly where and what they are investing in and with who. Your attention has to be diversified to make sure you are benefitting in the right areas, so that you can continue to invest in your heart. You want to heavily invest in changing the world, but first you have to change your own inner world. It’s important to remember WHY you want things. If you WANT things, then it’s a must that you learn to RECEIVE the things that God has for you, and stop settling for less.
Some people have a habit of telling God, “No Thank You,” when he delivers what you asked him for. Crazy, right? I know.
Anyway, back to men who expect material things from a woman, but don’t get them, because he doesn’t have any charm, and he wants what he’s not willing to invest.
Fairly intelligent women have a difficult time respecting men who don’t value them. Cause here is the thing. When men don’t invest in a woman, they also verbally show how unsatisfied with her they are. They tell her something is wrong with her. Most women rarely see it that way though. At least high performing women. Because high performing women don’t mind getting “better.” If someone says they need to improve in an area, logically, if it appears beneficial to her, she will make the change.
The words ‘CHANGE’ and ‘IMPROVEMENT’ equal the same thing in her mind. She doesn’t believe that she’s changing who she is for a man. She believes she’s changing to become a better person.
A woman has to deeply know who she is, and what makes her happy. When it comes to good-hearted women, they are so willing to give up the things that make them happy, in hopes of something else making them happy.
Yeah, I am definitely preaching right now.
Okay, so let’s state this clear right now. Women who feel that they value themselves and are of some high value, often don’t respect men who don’t value them. They take it personal, instead of remaining the same and respecting all persons, as a human, and not so much as a romantic partner. Relationship problems run really deep.
The expectations vastly circumference all over the place, and humans generally forget that we are all souls having a human experience. When the right two souls match up, at the right time, they just do. Opposites do attract, but if you want anything in this life, especially something from the opposite sex, then you must first be it.
That’s really deep. But like always, everything starts from within. There’s layers. The outer problem is just a notification to go look at the root cause and handle that.
Men and women both do these things to themselves. Seeing as to how not everyone is woke, aware, conscious, enlightened, emotionally intelligent, expressive, and having great communication skills, it’s so easy for a man to maintain his dignity and not deal with women of whom he doesn’t value enough to GIVE to her. And I suppose it would actually be okay with a woman to be okay with being single, until she becomes her own dream woman.
Until a woman becomes who she is called to be, she won’t be able to value herself on the level of her romantic desires. This other thing about women, is that often women have VERY strong, see into the future type of vision. So you can see where a man IS going to go once he’s activated. So you often try to be the one to activate him, cause it would seem like common sense to do. But you can’t look at a man like that, because it stops you from receiving from him. That’s really sweet, and really cute, and it could be REALLY fun. If only you know HOW to activate him. You’re definitely not going to do it by trying to build a bear. Some women have built giant bears. It totally worked out for her, thus far. Mostly because her man had the same vision in his heart.
We as women can put men down a lot. But I believe that most men have a King in him. Men do be on one, but the deepest truth is that most women don’t inspire men to King status. Some women speak to the King in a man, before he’s ready to be King. A woman must know her goals and dreams at all times, and stay on her own timeline.
All too often women hop off their own timeline, and onto that man’s time and get lost. It’s much smarter for a man to be on your timeline.
My blue nails with crystals are so sparkly right now. I would show them off, but they feel kind of short to me, but I can type much faster at this length.
Many women look at a man as a baby King, instead of the Big King. You have to be willing to look at a man as able, willing and capable of being the executive VIP CEO of your fan club, and being Daddy, right now.
You have to believe in your man at a deeper level. (If you don’t have an enlightened relationship coach, don’t try to figure that out on your own. There’s levels to this ish.)
Strong, heart-centered, boss women have ZERO respect for men who don’t show up with a heart like hers. Like I said, she takes it personally, instead of holding boundaries and accepting that it’s simply not a match. Humans and the ego…..
For most boss chicks, her love language is gifts. She gives men gifts. 🎁 It’s quite natural. It feels unnatural to be with a man who doesn’t give to her, and she’s confused as to why she’s not happy with that direction. Women often forget that they are the ones in control. It’s definitely easier to blame men though, because men play their part too. Women just so happen to mostly want love, while most men just want FUN.
When a woman doesn’t realize it’s she who is allowing and accepting a certain behavior, she often becomes frustrated and harbors resentment towards the man. And if she’s bitter, it becomes men in general.
Most men aren’t able to see the deeper perspective playing out on the chess board, so they focus more on the word “gold digger” and seeing “giving” related to that term, instead of being honest about what VALUE is.
See, most men get their idea of what he is to do for a woman based upon women whose value system is based upon not understanding high value men. High value men and high value people in general think of themselves a certain way. Your idea of a high value man, gives you what you want. HIS idea of a high value woman, is the woman that he will do anything for. Some men say they are willing to do EVERYTHING for a woman who asks for nothing.
And you can listen to that if you want to. However, that doesn’t work out for MOST women. And here is why.
In the bible it says:
If you believe in God, and you like want to date a God King, and seeing as to how God told you to ask him for anything and you shall receive, shouldn’t a man, who is your God King, want you to ask him for what you need and be the one to give it to you? Ohhhhh. That sounds so hot doesn’t it. Like really hot! (If you know relationship coach Britney Taylor from Canada. You have to say “hot” in her voice. I absolutely love how she says “hot.” Personally I think that should be her trademark on her video intro. Or maybe that’s what source wants me to tell her. I don’t know. I am just typing.)
See the deeper a woman is into THE WORD, and being her authentic self, the more she desires a man who shows up as King. Every woman who ever pictured a King, pictured a man that she was receiving from. At least the heterosexual ones. Everything about a woman was made to receive from a man. She is to receive the warmth of his body, his firmness, his essence, his spirit, his touch, his feel, his kisses, his heart, his soul, his everything. See how I left money out? I did that because that’s what some people do. They separate their love from their money. That could be considered smart, in many ways. However LOVE is money. Money is also love. The more you love yourself, the more money you have.
Everyone in the world gets the amount of money that they feel they are worth, doing the work for. And the WORK is whatever their soul is supposed to do.
Some people think we get to what we are paid for. But the truth is we get paid to do what we do.
The more value a woman has for herself, the less WORK she believes that she has to DO, in order to get what she wants. The more in her divine feminine energy a woman is the more she feels worthy of breathing in abundance.
Women who are not tapped into that energy, believe in DOING. Most boss chicks HEAVILY believe in doing.
But let me give you an example of how a woman wouldn’t believe heavily in DOING.
I can walk into ANY room and even if the men in the room are billionaires, most heads will turn. The room will momentarily go silent. Slowly men will start standing in line to talk to me.
I magnetize to me, men who believe in doing. I stand still and greet their masculine energy. This allows alpha men to naturally be themselves. They are comfortable doing and exerting energy.
An average woman has no such power, perhaps by her own fault, perhaps life ain’t fair. I don’t know. She then gives that faulty information to men. Approaching the average woman, vs approaching a high value woman is the difference between an apartment and a penthouse condo. They are both living spaces, but one, despite what your argument could be, one has a high value in the economy.
The mistake is trying to lump every woman into one category. 25 cents doesn’t go into a dime, without subtracting. But a dime goes into a quarter at least two times. See everything is about adding and multiplication. It’s how nature works, like the Fibonacci sequence.
You have to know what kind of man you are and what kind of woman that’s going to get you. An apple seed planted, nets an apple tree. You 100 percent can not get an orange tree from an apple seed. The laws of nature are locked in.
If you behave basic, you’ll attract basic women. If you are Chris Brown who changes women’s lives and puts them on top, then you Sir will attract ALL of the baddest chicks who WANT something out of life. (We’re not going all deep into that man’s personal life. We are sticking to the perspective.)
Some men who I believe to be high value, stay on basic stuff, because women who value themselves make him uncomfortable. So he finds himself attempting to build empires with a woman who can care less about how hard he works to make the moves he makes. Women who don’t want a life of luxury, don’t have the vision capacity to support a high value man’s huge goals and dreams.
See the average man’s mistake is thinking it’s about his money. It’s about HIS money already. But not the way he thinks. See a man loses money when he invests in the wrong woman who isn’t down for him and his vision. He also forfeits money, by not investing in the right woman. So see that could be seen as a loss too. A man really has to not let his hormones control his thinking, and really step into the game of chess and see it at a deeper level.
That’s a lot of thought. So the good thing is, the directions are already clearly written out in the bible. Yet, people insist on doing it another way, to get what they BELIEVE will work best for THEM. Yet, they want the RESULT that’s already said to manifest guaranteed, if you follow a certain strategy in the bible. Crazy how most don’t see that the bible has great, time-tested, proven strategies for life.
So each man should probably stop blaming women, because HE DECIDED to settle for less and NOT get the best.
Some men be thinking they are doing so much, because they have money. But darling you will NEVER out perform Beyoncé. You just can’t. A Goddess is the top. In chess there is both a King and a Queen. The Queen is the most powerful piece on the board; because there is a King on the board. She’s most powerful all by herself, but together with a King she gets someone to match her VISION. A King’s vision gets amplified and manifested faster when he aligns with a Queen.
God wanted man and woman to get along, so he hid a man’s greatest blessings inside of a woman. Therefore a man gets from a woman what he invests in her. Some investments will turn into air balls. Some will soar, and go straight in the hole; a clean shot. Others will bounce around the rim, and it might go in and it might not.
I do be talking mad greasy, but men do need to learn to bow the phuck down to the Queen. That is, if you want her to bow to you. Like I said, the laws of nature are pretty solid.
That’s how this works, IF you want to build an empire. 🤷🏼♀️ God already told y’all. But you miss reading the Bible, cause it’s RELIGION as you call it.
A Proverbs 31 Wife, is a boss chick. She’s an embodied Goddess. Now you know. 😍✌️
P.S. Women are defenseless to not be in her emotions. If you don’t allow her to express that vulnerability it makes her start thinking and acting masculine. Of course you can’t “make” a woman do anything. But it’s good to be aware of the possible CAUSE of so many women operating heavily in the masculine. Men will also notice that women whose emotions they treat with kindness, and naturally a lot nicer to them.
The more you listen to a woman and honor a woman’s emotions, the more she smiles. What’s so beautiful is THIS actually applies to men too. The more a woman respects and honors a man’s emotions, and his need to protect his ego, the more he will smile.
Love is such a beautiful thing, when two people do the work.
