Many a man’s biggest problem these days is that they refuse to put away their childish ways, and society actually nurtures them to be a boy forever.
In the bible it says: When a boy becomes a man, he puts away childish things.
Dating multiple women, for extended periods of time, with no intent to find a wife, is childish.
THE VERSE
1 Corithians 13:11 New International Version
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
Chances are, you’ve heard that bible verse before. Now I’m going to extend this verse and help you to get more context.
THE EXTENDED VERSE SCRIPTURE
1 Corinthians 13:8-11
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be restrained; where there is knowledge, it will be dismissed. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial passes away.
In AUTHENTIC marriage is when a man begins to face his real self and learn his true identity in God.
1 Corinthians 13:12
Now we see but a dim reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
Marriage forces both partners to get naked and come face to face with who they truly are.
Now that I’ve done my preaching, let’s get on to the TEACHING.
Saw this meme on Instagram and immediately received a Kissylation:
This is something that both men and women can learn from.
When you’re the kind of guy who dates multiple women for extended periods of time, a REAL woman is going to let THEM:
✅ Buy you Christmas gifts
✅ Cater to you when you get sick
YOU thought she would go hard to PROVE herself at this point. But baby, she already knows YOU.
She doesn’t want to get in the way of you receiving your blessings from THEM. Just not from HER.
She also knows you really don’t care about any of the women you date. It’s just something to do.
Amazing women cater to men who value themselves enough to not want to keep a harem of women.
Nobody is special to you.
So let the Harlem do their part, and stop wondering why SHE isn’t stepping up.
She knows YOU are COVERED.
Besides, nobody is competing with a bunch of lost chicks for a lost man.
This ain’t the lost and found department sweetie, and we stopped riding the circus train a long time ago. 🎪
So if you want amazing women to love you, respect you, and serve you, try not being a clown. 🤡
Clowns compete against themselves to never be fully loved by an amazing woman…
Women these days – specifically boss chicks want so badly to cater to her man, to buy him nice things, and surprise him with beautiful gifts to show her love.
But 9/10 times it backfires on her
Not about to go into all of that, if you are one of my clients, you can log in to your membership portal and get the expanded reason why.
FOR MEN
If you want a woman to regard you like a King, cater to your needs, and you treat you special, then baby you first have to realize SHE is special. (There is also a part that reflects on you. VIP clients can log into your portal and get the expansion of this.)
Society hasn’t taught a majority of men what a special woman is, and most don’t learn until they are bald, fat, over the age of 50, thinking they still got it, and wanting to seduce a young honey for free99.
Women actually value men ALOT. But men receive value in a different way than most women understand. Unfortunately most men also don’t know what they actually VALUE.
This is why we see hoards of men, believing they need a hareem of recyclable women around. Their heart chakra is blocked. But if you tell a broken man with money he’s broken, he will tell you he’s healed.
And the saddest thing about most of these men, is they don’t cover ANY woman, yet expect a good woman to cover him in compassion, love and prayer.
If you’re not experiencing a lit up sex life, or at least feelings of pure bliss, you may want to check your stress levels. These days with the rules of entrepreneurship being tooted to work till you drop, meaning people are drawn away from their natural state of flow and bliss. This causes problems in their romantic relationships.
Here are a few ways to lower your stress and increase your sex.
Get rid of cheating mates or dishonest associations
Spend time by yourself
Touch yourself. Love on Yourself
Focus on activities that bring you JOY
Have a positive mindset
Take massive action to accomplish your goals and get things done
Love people for who they are, not for what they do
It’s so much easier to feel sexy and tune in with your body, when you can go to sleep at night, without being worried about if someone is cheating on you.
Spending time by yourself, getting to know yourself and focusing on what you want, is a must.
Spending time doing activities you ENJOY will bring you great pleasure and natural sexual bliss.
Once you do these things, you will find yourself tapped in, tuned in and turned on. For any male reading this article, my best suggestion for you is to find a woman you can afford to upkeep. Seduce her away from producing in masculine energy and pull her into her feminine energy. She NEEDS that from you.
My suggestion for women is to shed everything and tune back into your femininity. For boss chicks, this may be an uphill battle. (JOIN GODDESS UNLEASHED to be supported on your femininity journey.)
When it comes to relationships, make sure you are seducing your mate on a daily basis. Never let the fun leave. Date forever.
I swear this sounds like terrible advice. But I promise it’s good advice.
Good women waste WAY too much time being faithful to no good men. Meanwhile tons of other good men come trying to holler at you. By the time you finally get out of the toxic relationship, and you start posting GOD GOT ME QUOTES, n*ggas ain’t sh*t and all of the other break-up memes, the good men who tried to holler at you, are already onto another woman.
Even with myself, when I was in toxic relationships, I had quite a few good men around me who liked me. One time I broke up with my boyfriend, went out with my girl, and as we were leaving the club, I ran into a man outside. We both looked at each other and it was INSTANT chemistry and INSTANT attraction. Like nothing I’d ever felt before. It was definitely spiritual.
I gave him my number. I talked to him and he was an artist. He sang, and had a clothing line. Like me he was an entrepreneur manifesting his way in this world. About a week later I told him that we couldn’t talk anymore, because I’d gotten back with my BOYFRIEND.
He was hurt. He was like “I thought we had a connection.” I responded “We do. But it wouldn’t be fair to to keep talking to you, when clearly I’m already in love with another man.”
Years later, I see that same man has blown up on social media. He has about 200,000 followers, and he’s getting money. Meanwhile my ex is probably somewhere cheating on whatever woman he’s with, working for someone else, and living the same insane circle he always has.
One time I was talking to one of my male friends and he asked me about my loyalty. He asked me exactly what was I being loyal to.
It came out that the loyalty itself was toxic. Why be loyal to a man who isn’t paying your bills? Why be loyal to a man who doesn’t value you? That’s like being loyal to losing.
The other day a man told me that he met some super fine girl, and he thought she was the one for him. But she did what most of us women do and told him to follow her on Instagram. He now has a woman, and he was telling me now the Instagram chick is in her stories posting the typical break-up memes and God got me quotes. 🤷🏼♀️ He said to himself that if her relationship was bad, it only would’ve made sense for her to give him a chance months ago… Now she looks up, comments on his content, noticing that he has a woman.
A lot of heart-centered women fail to realize that life is NOW. You’d better PRESS PLAY all the way!!!
I used to think it was so uncool to say “Don’t let your boyfriend get in the way of finding your husband.” But it’s true. The man who wants to truly be with you is going to marry you and lock it down. He’s not going to take any chances on letting you go. The man for you is SMART when it comes to you. Love yourself enough to ALLOW love in.
For women who have a tendency to go with the flow, love deeply, see everything with rosy red lenses, you can change your life and save YEARS of wasted time energy and effort, by avoiding dealing with a man who is or would rob you of your beauty, energy, self-esteem, confidence and everything else.
He’s actually not robbing you. You’re robbing yourself by being co-dependent and unconsciously taking a detour to try to change a man. Chances are you even attempt to change the people around you and take on their burdens.
What if you stepped back and allowed everyone around you to simply be themselves with no pressure from you?
And Deepak Chopra’s Law of Detachment includes this commitment: “I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems.”
Law of detachment love
Detaching with love helps codependents and enablers. When we detach with love, we stop worrying and interfering and let others take responsibility for themselves.
Now, as to YOUR PROBLEM of hanging with men who don’t break bread. Ask yourself why do you do it in the first place?
Chances are, you are attracted to HIM, but are you attracted to his CHARACTER and the way he treats you?
Does being around him feel suppressive to your soul?
Submitting to a man is submitting to his frequency. Imagine the imbalance that comes from you attempting to submit to a man whose frequency calls you to be less than you.
God doesn’t want you with him. That’s why he’s not giving you money or investing in you. Does that make him stupid? No. It simply makes you not the one for him.
THat’s okay. Nobody told you that you had to stick around.
Would you break bread on YOU? Are you a keeper?
This isn’t about gold digging. It’s about matters of the heart and WHO God called you to be. He called you to be prosperous and abundant. He called you to make profit from all of your trades, including your trade of time.
But why would someone invest in spending time with you and unleveling you if you’re willing to spend your time being less for free, complaining about everything they do?
Are you sitting around waiting for someone else to tell you that you are worthy of your own desires, before you honor them?
The right man for you is willing to expand, go all in and commit to you. Handsome tall men will hand you money. What else? Once that’s given to you, what do you REALLY want? WHY do you want it?
Boys like playing with girls as toys. Grown men value their woman.
A boy becomes a man when is willing to help those who need his help. Be the channel of His mercy to others; the harbinger of hope for the hopeless.” Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it” (Proverbs 3:27).
Proverbs 3:27, NLT: Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (KJV). ~ 1 CORITHIANS 13:11
You not feeling worthy and deserving of a man who protects and provides for you has attracts such a man who agrees with you.
But when you embody Goddess consciousness you simply attract who you are. Remember everyone likes honey. So of course you’ll attract few dusty flies. But that doesn’t mean you have to open your door, stop what you’re doing and give the dusty your attention when there 100 Men waiting to serve you.
What you focus on persists, expands and gets amplified. Self-Love and truly being a beacon of light, amplifies your vibration and allows you to manifest the abundant love that you desire FAST with ease and grace.
That’s why they have their appearance together. THAT is the kind of man you need to be around. His frequency is high. He makes you happy. He WANTS to make you happy.
Unattractive men rob women of their life force. Not being attracted to a man is a sign as plain as day. Admit it, you’re disgusted by the lil short, inadequate dude who has no value for love, chases beautiful women, acts like a groupie when he’s around you, trying to sneak pictures and sh*t. He ain’t sh*t. Stop feeling guilty about feeling that way about him. Ask him for some dough, let him tell you NO, and get rid of his dusty azz.
Look at his appearance for what it is. Don’t cut him any slack. Either he breaks bread or he remains unattractive. Cause he surely judges you 100% by your appearance. Even dusty dudes do it. They chase beautiful women while swearing beauty isn’t what they are chasing. Opt out of their b.s. storylines.
Listen ya’ll. I have been in the house working on building my business for 2 years. During that time I was FOCUSED. I wasn’t thinking about no man. But now I have TIME. Let me tell you something…. Men are running up on me to HAND me money. Not just white men, but cute, YOUNG, black men too. It’s all frequency.
You WILL NOT get what you want out of life by dealing with 50/50 men under any circumstances. I am writing this post from the bottom of my heart, to save you.
You will not get what you want out of life, without a KING and a TEAM. Kings take care of their Queens darling. If he runs up on you and he’s not trying to cut the check, he ain’t your King. All he comes with is raggedy ding-a-ling. Which is why you don’t like phucking him in the first place. See, you feel all these kinds of ways, but you try to DENY YOUR OWN FEELINGS, for the sake of SOCIETY.
Here’s a random video I found.. Check it out.
Also do yourself another favor and stop listening to masculine b*shes who keep telling you about getting your own money. You need your own money plus HIS too. That’s the way this sh*t goes. Men who don’t break bread on you are embarrassments. Your vagina is not a free ATM for him to stick his d*ck in and you receive nothing in return.
Listen to me when I tell you that YOU ARE NOT a portable mattress that allows a man to dumb his semen in you and run off. GROSS is a woman who doesn’t value her body. Gross is a woman who hangs out with men who don’t break bread. These men need to break bread simply for hanging with them.
If you don’t have my book YOU CAN’T FORCE A MAN TO VALUE YOU, BECOMING A HIGH VALUE WOMAN & ATTRACTING YOUR DREAM MAN, Then darling it’s time to INVEST in yourself. Cause smart men do not invest in women who don’t invest in themselves.
A man asked me this question today. “Do we ever find someone who likes us as much as we like them?”
This questions has two dimensions.
1. Someone will always like the other person more. Rarely ever is it even.
2.:Yes, but the problem comes when those two people finally meet, they tend to forget how hard it was, or how long it took to meet a mutual match.
When most people meet there is nothing there. No chemistry, no feeling, no nothing. Then oftentimes when they least expect it, they meet a match. A FEELING hits them. They feel a sort of CONNECTION.
They say “lets be friends” and allow the connection to go into the friend zone.
Other times they meet the most beautiful connection and one or both starts trying to see what’s wrong with the other, while secretly HOPING for perfection. That’s totally counter-productive. As each will eventually start taking the connection for granted.
So then they go back out into the world searching. Then they meet another aligned soul. Once again they forget how it was before and start focusing on the perceived bad of a person. Rarely does anyone ever say “Hey. Let’s see how we can nurture and grow our LOVE.”
The world completely underestimates the FEELING of LOVE and the value of it. They try to making loving relationships with people who they don’t really FEEL love towards. But they don’t know this, because most people have never experienced real love. So it’s not like they know what they are missing or searching for. They are just doing things while hoping for some happily ever after.
High value people have this belief that love is everywhere and easily accessible. It is. But not the deep, soulmate connection you seek.
I love almost everyone. But that’s in limited amounts. The deep love that I can share with anyone, will only be shared with special ones who are able to receive it.
I have a very high value for love, but in a world where most people don’t value love, I am a weirdo. Humans actually believe that the humans who seek love are weak. The whole world almost tells you to focus on yourself and more self-love over seeking out a mate. Yet, most people in the world aren’t rich.
You know who is rapidly acquiring wealth? Couples who are in love. Money is LOVE.
Souls who are truly love attract everyone. But everyone isn’t love and people love at their own capacity. Add consciousness, and you’ve separated yourself even more.
When you meet an aligned connection, appreciate each other and don’t take the connection for granted. That’s how you maintain love.
Even when it comes to the light and love community, most of them are actual void of real love. Love appears to be something that only so few souls experience, due to people’s disconnection from God.
Very few people in this world have truly experienced divine love.
Those who have, love immensely, in ways most humans will never be able to grasp.
There’s levels to everything. Love yourself enough to obtain the love that you deserve.
This year I discovered something that I wish I’d knew a long time ago.
Your male friends are not your friends. I mean they can be, but most of them are not.
I HAD this bad habit of meeting men and ushering them ALL into the “friendship” category, unless they state otherwise right away.
If a man thinks he’s going to date me and be “friends” first he has another thing coming.
Here is why. My mistake was I required LESS of my male friends and gave them more time, more love, and more of my authentic self, MUCH FASTER, than I would give to a man of whom I wished to marry. So because of that, my male friends although GREAT men who definitely treat me better than most women will be treated in their entire lives, were not good ENOUGH to be considered as my man.
MY FAULT
But because they were given close access to me, they were playing a game, not knowing that I wasn’t playing the game with them. (You are always playing the game as long as men are around you.)
I once had a male friend tell me that he was dating 5 women and that I was his top pick. 🤣 While he told me this we were on a fancy smancy dinner date in Vegas. I was like “I didn’t know that we were dating. I am not in the running sweetie.”
Let me tell you something. I CALCULATE ALL MONIES SPENT ON ME. Only spending money taking me out to dinner, does not count as boyfriend/husband material. My husband would ball out on me in every way.
So if a man isn’t balling out on me, I know that I’m not his dream girl, and I’m okay with that. That means he’s not my type. Men get from me what they put into me.
When you meet men, realize they want to date you, and treat them as such.
