If a man’s identify of “wife” material is a woman who cooks, cleans, goes to work every day and takes care of the kids, he may marry her, and love her for what she does for the family. But that doesn’t mean he loves her soul and truly being with her.
People will say that a man will only marry a beautiful woman because she’s a trophy and trade her in for a younger version. But the 50/50 wife gets traded in for the younger version that he will provide for too.
A man has to love your soul and how he feels while he’s with you. Not just the basic things like being able to open your legs and have kids, or domestic duties you can hire help for like cooking and cleaning. A man has to have a connection with you so deep that he feels like he can’t live or breathe without you. A man has to be so connected to you that he will break down crying at the very thought of you leaving him. A man is putty in the right woman’s hands. You gotta do things for his soul that the next 25,000 women can’t do.
But you know what? Most men don’t know that. They don’t even know what they are looking for. So they settle for the 50/50 woman who thinks her status as a woman is in slaving at work then slaving when she gets home in order to serve her man.
And the truth is, she would be a lot happier to serve her man at home, when she wasn’t already getting up by alarm clock at 5 a.am. to go to work and serve another master.
When you allow society to program you and tell you what should make you happy, you end up living someone else’s dream, and not your own. Whatever is in your heart. Whatever keeps popping up, that won’t go away, THAT is the life you’re sent to earth to live. It is your mission to acquire that life. It’s not your mission to settle. Your soul will never be happy until your body steps to plate to live your soul’s mission.
It doesn’t matter that you got the bag, the house, the kids and the luxury car. If that’s not all you’re here for, that’s not going to be enough for your soul. If your soul was sent here to be President of 2 countries at the same time, then that’s what you gotta do. No matter how crazy or impossible the dream that is installed in you is, YOU must do it. That’s how this works. Your soul wants to LOVE life.
P.S. I was really feeling the whole Proverbs 31 Woman. But today I read it and it almost appear that she’s a household slave. The passage doesn’t speak of beauty, nurturing and being feminine, which are three key traits that attract men.
Yet Proverbs 31 appears to be the woman that many black women find themselves to be inside of 50/50 relationships, that don’t work out.
You don’t have to agree with me. I totally don’t mind if you disagree. But I’d advise you to really, truly think and let this soak in.
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