You have to DECIDE that you want your marriage to work

You have to DECIDE that you want your marriage to work

As I was doing some research on a story for my crime blog, I came across a woman who murdered her husband, mostly cause she didn’t want to be with him anymore.

In that moment, it truly and deeply struck me of just how deeply unconscious most of the world is.

Is so simple to DECIDE to leave your wife or to leave your husband.

It’s also pretty simple to DECIDE that you are going to fix, improve, or work on your marriage.

Life is all about decisions, but somehow people often think that the only way they can have what they want, is by getting rid of their mate permanently.

It’s like people are unaware that you really do get to have whatever you want, and both people in the relationship can truly be happy and get what they want.

Being in a deeply, loving marriage, takes great communication and a deep desire to want to continue the journey of life with your partner.

I find that many couples don’t do the work to continue appreciating one another, growing together, getting to know one another on a deeper level and healing each other.

When you are one with the soul of your soulmate, you’ll find that life becomes ever so more rewarding.

Here are 5 Tips on How To Make Your Marriage Work 

  1. Decide that you not only want to, but will stay together and commit to resolve problems together.
  2. Most arguments are due to the individuals in the relationship feeling like their point is not being understood.  It often takes a moment of pause, inner listening, acknowledgement of the others feelings and simply letting go of your opinions. Understand sometimes you just have to let go and let your mate see things their way.  Your LOVE as a couple, is more important than you being right.
  3. I find that men often need to put their egos to the side and honor their wives a bit more if she is a boss chick. Her growth is highly dependent upon the amount of love you pour into her. If you trust yourself as a man, know what watering your Queen, will have her watering you in return.
  4. Seek counsel outside of your relationship, only with someone’s whose main desire is to improve the love in the relationship.  This would best be an enlightened person who is not into choosing side, but instead allowing each to see the others point of view and grow from there.
  5. Realize that most of the things you complain about in your partner are a reflection of inner issues that you have with yourself.   Which is also why it’s very important to not focus on negative traits on your partner and to instead focus on what you love about them.

These tips are what couples do when they are ready to grow deeper into love.   It’s very immature to always think the grass is always greener on the other side, because no matter how green the grass may  be, you are still there. You are in charge of watering the grass. Tend to your grass at home.

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10 Ways To Love A Man or A Woman

10 Ways To Love A Man or A Woman

In this lifetime, they teach you everything, except what you need to know.

What you need to know are:

1. How to LOVE

2. How to Attract Money

3. How To Communicate

4. How to Sell

5. How to have faith

If you love money, communication, God AND sales, chances are you are a millionaire.  If you love all of those things and you’re in love, then you are very much a conscious millionaire.

Love and money go hand in hand like peanut butter and jelly, or lemon coated strawberries.  My friend got some of those for her wedding anniversary. I didn’t even know they had lemon coated strawberries.

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Anyway, let’s pause on food for a second, and get back to business.  What I’ve learned is that if you learned how to LOVE, the rest will come easy to you.

I came across this meme, and but of course it touched my heart, as we know that I LOVE love.

10 WAYS TO LOVE

So let’s discuss.

  1. Promise without forgetting. – Proverbs 13:12 says “Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
        but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” This is really beautiful. The meme tells us to promise without forgetting. I definitely forget A LOT and could remember more.  This makes me aware to probably WRITE my promises down, so that I will remember to come thru.  But the other layer of this is that when you HOPE God will give you something, you get sick and tired of waiting and not having after a while. But if you accept with faith, that he already said YES, then your wish is fulfilled, and you can happily go about your business. 
  2. Proverbs 17:1 says – Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. Loud arguments do not win fights, it’s about calmness and reaching an understanding. 

That’s it for now.  Big lists don’t help people as much as 1 single, strong shift does.  The overall list does an excellent job of showing you that you can always do better.

Wanna heal and get to love a lot faster?  Inbox me on social media.

If someone wants to date you, then they need to love your soul right now. Not tomorrow

If someone wants to date you, then they need to love your soul right now. Not tomorrow

I was thinking…. I have a few toxic patterns, but none bad enough where a real masculine man would deem them too much.

I am brilliant. Of course I am going to keep getting better and figure it out.

People say that people should of course want you once you’re all healed up, because you are a different person.

They say it’s wrong to say “If you couldn’t accept me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”

While some people truly are THE WORST, some people’s worst is still great. Ultimately, what I realized is that the person for you, TRULY wants you right now, even with your traits.

Just like how women see potential in men, people need VISION to see WHERE someone is going. A person must fall in love with your very soul, and see you from a 5D perspective. Otherwise that relationship has ZERO chance of loving you for a lifetime.

So when a person makes EXCUSES for WHY they don’t want to be with you, it’s more time wasting, giving you just enough, waiting for something better to pop up.

Heck Beyonce’s ex boyfriend waited for something better to pop up. 🤣 Silly Rabbit. Then Jay Z popped up. 🤣

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Jay Z is a God, of course he went after the Goddess on sight.  He knew these other dudes couldn’t hold him.  Bey is dope, but don’t get it twisted. Jay put some swag on her and taught her some things.

Some women simply aren’t meant to be with a peasant dude, who is on basic, mediocre stuff, asking her to be less divine. She real life needs a real n*gga to pull up. Or in laments terms a DIVINE MASCULINE KING, who knows what to do with a Goddess.

Most men are CLUELESS on what to do with a Goddess other than stare at her or complain about her high standards. So many women have Goddess in them, but it never gets fully birthed cause she doesn’t get coaching help, doesn’t ever figure it out on her own, ON TOP of dating men who don’t see the Goddess in her.  People be real life, running in circles.

10 years from now, people will be running around SINGLE, talking about toxic this, and toxic that.

I wondered why I’ve never defined anyone I’ve met as toxic. I don’t see people that way. So using that term is very inauthentic to me, although I understand for the masses it’s their current “cool” description to describe someone that they don’t know how to get along with.

Labeling someone as “toxic” is another form of spiritual bypassing. It allows you to place blame outside of yourself, instead of becoming aware of how you’re showing up for that relationship and making changes.

You’ll bypass and think you’re going somewhere, but nope. It just leads back to your little cubby hole of darkness. What you want is awareness. Awareness is the light. What you really need to do is sit with those emotions, triggers and really reflect on how you cause it all.

I know, you probably want to slap me right now.

Now I am sure some people are toxic AF, like cheaters and people who steal from you or abuse you. But for the most part, most people actually do aim to be good people. But for the average person, their definition of “good” is much lower that the scale a genius or wealth conscious, spiritual person’s scale.

Finding yourself in a toxic relationship is actually compromised of an individual mostly not knowing what they truly want. Because if you knew what you wanted, you wouldn’t be entertaining such a person in the first place.

Secondly if you are entertaining a person you deem toxic, a lot of times that’s not how you saw them. You labeled them toxic after being unable to learn how to COMMUNICATE with them in a manner conducive towards the highest consent of your soul and to the elevation of maintaining a healthy, conscious relationship.

Yes I know babe.  Take your medicine with a sip of water.

People also tell you to stop trying to be perfect. But eliminating toxicity in your relationships and personality is just that.

All life is is a journey of perfection.

Gosh, why do you bother listening to ANY advice from basic people. They always lead you away from your soul. (Read that line again.)

Anyway, I posted this on social media and OF COURSE someone took my statement to mean that I’m not perfect.

But how wrong he was.  When he told me that I wasn’t perfect, nor toxic, this was my response.

KISSY DENISE

You see how I got this revelation, was by realizing my own PERFECTION.

I am incredibly awesome and diverse. My brain is like a computer. I program it to do whatever I want. I’m also very easy on the eyes…  No, phuck that. Bish, I am gorgeous!  Baby, I am a whole Macbook pro with divine human intelligence.  A man would be crazy not to want a piece of me.

Have you seen me?

Total MASTERPIECE. 

I know.. Society told you it was arrogant to talk about yourself like that. They told you to be more humble and sh*t on yourself.  They want you to talk about your perceived flaws and deficiencies.

Don’t listen to these people. Baby, that’s why they aren’t a superstar. Superstars shine bright like a diamond. 💎 You weren’t made to blend in. Truth be told, that’s why you follow me in the first place. Something attracted you to me. It’s THE LIGHT.  💎

Listen to this little girl. She knows more than average mindsets. 

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Gorgeous. 😍 Have you looked in the mirror today? 😉

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In addition, I realized that I have never been in love with a man and told him that he wasn’t perfect. He was perfect enough for me. All he had to do was keep growing his soul and not cross me.   

Only a non-divine, unenlightened person, would date a person whom they don’t feel to be perfect.  Life isn’t about settling for less. Not even in relationships.  It’s TOTALLY insane to wake up to a person every morning and be reminded of how imperfect they are. That’s not alignment.

But until you learn to see the divine in other souls, by first seeing the divine within yourself, you’ll never find anyone perfect enough for you.

You’re only going to put up with from others, the lack of perfection you see in yourself. Notice how you REFUSE to date anyone dumb.  You can’t even take it.

Now you have the info. So that’s between you and God.

 

But if you  want my help in finding love or taking your multi-six-figure business to the million dollar mark, inbox me on social media. 

Or go ahead and JOIN GODDESS UNLEASHED