I saw this post written about B. Simone and it broke my heart. I don’t know this woman, but I salute her success and willingness to chase her dreams AND make REAL boss chick moves.
This woman made a million dollars in her business cause she used the Wildin Out platform to gain ATTENTION. She then started a business with that attention. People will buy ANYTHING from someone on tv. SMART people know that.
But look how he’s talking to her. What he’s saying to her, is the reason she likes entrepreneurs. 9-5 men most times don’t understand real boss chicks. They can’t deal with our assertiveness, confidence, security or work schedule. They drag strong women down, and that’s just the truth.
Anyway, THIS is how most black women have been talked to by men their ENTIRE lives. People don’t seem to understand what the black woman deals with.
He doesn’t even credit the woman for getting on tv. Like come on now. That’s a major feat. No matter how hard the black woman works, she often gets no credit, told she’s not all that, and that she should settle for less. The truth is if a black woman waited on a black man’s permission to feel good about herself, that day most likely would never come.
Black women often get screamed at by the average black man anytime she tries to have standards or institutes boundaries. The other day, a client told me that she told a man to stop calling her at night, and to call her in the daytime at more appropriate hours. He went off on her, told her that she wasn’t all that, and that no one would want her because she has kids.
Unenlightened black men often expect black women to have zero value, and bend over backwards for them. It’s crazy how the average black man sees black women.
It’s the same story that plays out over and over again, decade after decade.
Simone is FAR from a nobody. She has TONS of followers. Most black influencers be on her jock once she said she cracked a million. I am so tired of black people trying to drag each other down. How can you not respect her?
Oh, and what would the world be if a black woman wasn’t constantly told to HUMBLE herself. Then ya’ll wonder how so many black women end up in bad relationships and why the smart ones opt to simply stay single.
Anyway, PROMOTION is the name of the game. When people talk about you, people buy. Yet, you can’t even expect loyalty from your consumers when the drag is in.
Now, because of this, you can be quiet and hope everyone will like you, or you can be like B. Simone and simply BE yourself, and still get paid.
Anyway, back at the yard, while B. Simone is getting attention and mastering traffic that’s consistently bringing SALES and NEW CLIENTS into her BUSINESS:
AND that’s why boss chicks and 9-5ers don’t get along. You can not disrespect a woman that’s pulling boss moves all up and down these marketing internet streets, while you clock into work for another man.
She’s a woman, yet STILL not working for no man. Yes, you gotta be a different kind of man and LEVEL UP to catch up to her MINDSET.
HOW is a boss woman to respect a 9-5 man who disrespects her and has no proper valuation of her business acumen?
This is literally insight of the a major of the relationships between boss chicks and the black men they date. They want respect from her, while having not an ounce of respect for her business hustle and acumen.
Why does he want to see that woman down?
Regardless of what may loudly catch our attention, there are lots of good, amazing, fabulous, black men in this world. I meet lots of them, and understand what they are looking for from a woman.
If a woman is to attract a high value man who believes in her, wants her to win, AND treats her like a Queen, then she has to raise her standards, her value, and her frequency. Cause those kind of men want a woman to be healed, and unfortunately the average black man has broken most of the women he’s dated.
Most black women need MASSIVE amounts of healing.
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I don’t actually call anyone TOXIC in my life. I have a deep understanding that what you see in others tends to be a reflection of something you see in yourself.
So, here is THE TRUTH:
You’re not disappointed in him. You’re disappointed in yourself, because you keep believing in him, while he disappoints you time and time again.
That man has never showed up for you Sis. All he ever did was do 1 THING that got you to like him. He never went past that mark. He’s been dangling a carrot in your face, leading you on and you’ve been accepting it.
Then each time you know you need to cut him off, you complain, and he tells you not to complain about him. You can’t get through to him, but he says it’s all you, and IT IS.
So you breathe, reset, and put on your positive mindset again…. and once again, focus on the good in him, just to be disappointed again; while he tells you how you’re not good enough, and that YOU need to be a better woman.
He tells you that you need to work harder. He pushes the slave ship…. Not to mention there is WAY more of you, standing in line, waiting to be his peace; telling him how good of a man he is, although he’s actually not being a good MAN to anyone.
There’s lots of PICK ME and EFFORT girls like you in the world, who keep 50/50 men sitting on a pedestal, using up women, until his dream woman finally shows up.
The insanity of it all, of how YOU unconsciously have tried to get this man to value you.
You Can’t Force A Man To Value You is deeper than just a book title. Which is why you have to read the book.
So many women think that by being patient, being a good woman, being kind, saying kind words, buying gifts, cooking, doing laundry, keeping the house clean, encouraging a man, and speaking life into him, will someday magically cause a man to wake up and value her.
It truly doesn’t go like that. A man simply values what he values. He values what he loves.
When a man first approaches you, he values you. That value is going to increase or decrease, depending on how you ALLOW him to treat you and how much YOU VALUE YOURSELF.
Have sex with a man who is not paying your bills, and Sis you are dooming yourself, 97% of the time. You have just set up the framework for the relationship to be a waste of BOTH of your time. Yes, he is going to pressure you into sex. That doesn’t mean you should give it to him.
Now he’s like “What else do you have to offer? You don’t do anything for me. Other women love having sex with me too.”
He now takes a lot of pride in draining ALL OF YOU, for your energy, and telling his friends how ALL OF YOU suck, and how NONE OF YOU are good enough. NONE of his friends are going to direct traffic back to him, to help him see his part in the equation.
And at the end of it all, you know what he’s going to tell you.
The infamous words of the traumatized, wounded, immature man: “You don’t even know me. I don’t owe you anything.”
And we can blame men all day for this. But Sis, YOU are the one to blame.
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This is Part 1 of a 5 part Series called “You Can’t Force A Man To Value You.“
Here is part 1 : 50/50 Men Are Toxic
I am so excited about this series that breaks down your belief system. If you’re on your laptop, please leave some comments on Youtube. We need positive energy to keep this going. This is going to get better and better.
First I would like to tell you that your money and your heart are strongly interconnected. Money is an energy that flows from the heart. So, if your heart isn’t healed your money flow may be sealed. Learning this fact changed everything for me. I began to think with an abundant mindset.
As a black woman when I happened across a particular statement while suffer the net the other day, it set me to thinking a bit deeper
The statement read:
“Single black women over 60 with a college degree have only $11,000 in wealth, while single white women with a college degree have $384,400.”
The first step to healing is admitting we have a problem.
In the article, ascertain was given based upon familial/generational wealth being passed down inside the family, but that’s not where I’m going with this. Everyone really does have a chance at becoming a millionaire, so lets just stick with that fact.
My focus here is the reason why so many beautiful, successful black women are single or unmarried. If you do a google search most likely an article will come up and say it’s because of their attitudes and not being submissive enough. But having consoled submissive black women who were screwed over, I see a hidden truth, that the mass isn’t aware of.
Now, it’s true that no one is perfect and everyone could benefit from a little self-development, but the issues between black women and black men are so much deeper that what is seen on the surface.
A hidden truth is the average black man does not value the sanctity of marriage, nor does he know what a good woman is because he didn’t have a good father to teach him. Black men are often taught to sow their wild oats and run through women in their 20’s. They are taught to have multiple women and live chaotic lives, with very little focus on financial literacy. Popular rap videos showing scantily clad women and lyrics boasting a new chick every day of the week, add to keeping the culture lost and confused. The title baby mama is way more prevalent in the black community than the title of wife. So much that married black women online will often tease other black women for being single. While any woman can get married tomorrow if she wanted to, the problem is that successful black women refuse to marry into the baggage and chaos.
Now that he’s matured and done it all rapper Jay-Z speaks out on cheating and is showing attempts to undo some of his former teachings when it comes to how to value a woman. His new thing is telling men to avoid messing around and risk losing their Beyonce. I don’t know how many caught the message. As many brothers are still online preaching misogny, open-relationships and polygamy. Things that take very little effort to pull off.
NEW ORLEANS, LA – FEBRUARY 19: Jay Z, Blue Ivy Carter and Beyonce Knowles attend the 66th NBA All-Star Game at Smoothie King Center on February 19, 2017 in New Orleans, Louisiana. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images)
Meanwhile white men show a history of getting married and building legacies that create wealth.
Take race out and here is a simple fact. Married men earn more money than single men.
While Ray-Ray is off on the hunt for his third baby mama, he has no clue that he’s missing out on at least $80,0000 per year by staying single. Ray, Ray can’t even picture himself making $80,000 a year, but Mr. Playa, I graduated from college and have a good job can. He’s missing out on $80K a year plus calculate the money he spends on dates with women he will soon part from. It’s all good though, cause he received sex out of the situation. It’s now on to the next conquest.
The wages of married men far surpass those of all of groups. They exceed $80,000 per year by their peak earning years, while all the other groups barely graze $50,000 per year, according to data from the University of Minnesota and IPUMS-USA, a database of individual responses from the U.S. Census Bureau.
Many couples go 50/50 these days, just to end in disaster.Research shows that married heterosexual couples seem to be more comfortable when a husband earns more than his wife.
While it’s not a proven fact, sexism can play a role in the higher wages of married men. Research shows that male hiring managers may be more likely to pay men more, and if they’re older, they too may be married and believe that a man who has a wife and family may deserve more money.
The Washington Post suggests a couple reasons why marriage is a financial benefit for men, regardless of color lines.
Married men assume a new identity: This theory explains that the added weight of family responsibility may help position men in a different social standing.
Research also suggests that married men are more likely to go after high-paying jobs than single men.
Findings also suggest that men receive beneficial advice from their wives that add to their careers.
There is also research that indicates employers give hiring preference to married men.
This research is not surprising.Even the bible says ‘When a man finds a wife, he finds what is good. He receives favor from the Lord.
A married man is a blessed man.
Here is why:
Women have a great deal of knowledge and wisdom in them. Single men are taught to be egocentric and ignore the advice of women. However married men can’t deny the immense amount of knowledge given to them by their wife and the financial benefits their business/careers reap, which allow him in return to be able to provide for his family.
It is not natural for a man to be with one woman. He has an innate desire to explore and spread his seeds. So the unknowing ones spread their seeds as thin as possible. They are focused on sex and quantity of quality. Meanwhile the mature, progressive man follows Gods words. He learns to put away his childish desires. He learns to fight, and spend time with one woman. His personal development explodes through a growth due to experiences that he can only acquire by committing to one woman for a great length of time. A man will learn more by committing himself to one good woman for 5 years, than he will ever learn from focusing on multiple women over a 5-year-period. In fact you may notice that men who are over 35 and constantly chasing sex, tend to not be as mentally developed as they should be.Their finances are often relative to a 22-year-old boy. For one can not grow, if their knowledge base and value system doesn’t know grow and change throughout the years.
A 35-year-old man who has been married and comes home to a family every day, statically has acquired more wealth than that of a 50-year-old player. It doesn’t take a great deal of research to focus in on the why. But the biggest why is that God rewards him for fighting past his carnal urges. Just like we have to fight against bad habits, we have to fight against some of our carnal desires that feel so natural.
On the other hand beautiful, highly intelligent, successful, loving, single women are trotting off to exotic islands by themselves or with female friends, knowing that’s not the way they planned their life. But they refuse to let a man get in the way of their dreams and goals so they settle for a single vacation. These women could easily capture the heart of just about any man, but their heart will only fully love and submit to the heart of a man with plans who values her.
While single-life vacation photos on social media look really fun, lets just admit that taking that same trip with a partner would be so much more fun. Think about all of the fun vacations you had. Now tell me the most memorable ones aren’t the ones where you had love by your side… Seeing new places with the one you loves makes the experience quite transcending. Peace and the love can’t be purchased. In fact it’s priceless. Everyone should feel love & peace. It’s what life is all about.
Boss chicks know the clock is ticking, but they’ve accepted the thought that they just may be single forever. She has her own money, and can do whatever she wants. However what she doesn’t realize is that she needs to invest in finding out exactly why she hasn’t been able to attract the mate of her dreams.
I know she’s either not dating or she constantly goes out on dates with men who she already knows is more than likely a waste of her time, but she tries anyway… She thinks well maybe people are right. Maybe she wants too much. She’s starting to think that maybe her standards are too high. How many more men are you going to deal with, that don’t quite measure up?
Meanwhile, I’m speaking with males who are good men, and I’m healing their hearts of all the darkness that has befallen them, from being in relationships with women who don’t love, value, appreciate, or respect them. Many a man is actually a good man. He provides, he uplifts her and even teaches her how to start her own business so that she can shine. He tells her she’s beautiful. He’s willing to take care of her children from a former relationship. He’s in the gym, he goes to church, and wants to do what’s right in life. Yet he’s stuck in a relationship with a woman who still doesn’t see him. He can’t even get the emotional support he needs an entrepreneur.
Amazing people who do amazing things, deserve a good mate. You all are out there lost, looking for a better way and giving up hope.
While this lifelong problem has persisted for many, the good news is that there is a fix, a plan to find the right one, and increase your finances in the process.
As a spiritual relationship coach who teaches abundance in love and finances, I have a secret to share with you. Theres’s simply a few important keys that are missing in your knowledge bank. You can get the mate your heart truly desires.
Love is so real and so abundant in this world. Don’t miss the opportunity to improve your love life and your finances too. I mean just admit it, going to other people’s dream weddings are sooo much fun, but wouldn’t throwing your own beautiful wedding, be better?
