I realize that people read my writings, and those who aren’t exactly heart-centered, misconstrue my writings as to be about money.  My writings tend to only resonate with those who are on my heart, brain, and spiritual frequency. It goes over the head of others.

This blog today is going to teach you a lot of things.  As I heal myself from formally being heartbroken, I awaken more and more each day to clearly see my new world, and with each day I get new source downloads and messages that I am to share with the world.  

Pink and purple office

For the past year, my only concern has been to birth my new business. I have completely changed my life and my mindset. But during this process I have had absolutely no concern to actually attract love.  At times I’ve tried to think that maybe I should. But I know me. I go hard. When I want something I get it.  I haven’t really been dating. I haven’t really been being super sociable. My only concern has been birthing my purpose. And I FINALLY did that. I finally realize I’m an enlightened talk show host. Anything else is just a delay. I’m also an author, but I blog too and I’m naturally a great life coach cause I’m a Prophetess that’s not from the pulpit. I’ve really lived my life in different dimensions. 🤣

First I would like to say, that my blogs are most times written for my tribe and their problems and dreams. Other times I remember where I come from and I try to write things that help the aggressive women who may not necessarily know how to treat a man… ( They don’t READ my blog though. 🤷🏼‍♀️)

Anyway, now that I am clear on my purpose and my business is in position, I realize something. At no time should I have EVER put love on the back burner, in pursuit of my business. For without love I am disconnected from myself. I can love myself all I want to, and obviously I do which is why I attract so many beautiful souls.  But then I had a huge oak wood door up to any man who tried to date me. I would send them right back on to whence they came, in the name of healing, I need time, and I’m busy WORKING..  

Only one man was able to slide through my defenses, others put up a good effort till they got tired of being pushed away, and two of my longtime male friends saw an open position and totally went for it.  They romanced the heck out of me. But I wasn’t going cause I wasn’t going, and I do not have the belief that I can be friends with a man for over 5-years, then suddenly switch to love and marriage. I do not believe that any man who truly desires a woman would watch me be with other men for 5 years.  But one of my male friends said that was his exact plan. He said “I was like. She likes rich men. So I’ll let those other dudes take care of her. Then when I get my money up, I’ll take her from whoever she’s with.😂 (He makes $500K yearly.) 

It is my belief that a man can want you and even marry you and provide for you. But that does not mean that he loves you. I do not see him as loving me. I want everyone to find real love. Therefore, I would never take a spot that wasn’t mine to have. I only want what’s truly destined for me.  We have some control over our lives, but I am one person who knows that God does indeed have a special purpose for mine and he has a special man just for me. He’s a King. 

I had this idea in my head of my King coming at the perfect time. When things were perfect for me. When I had clear space in my mind and life to receive him.  That sounds like it is what we should do. But I know now that that’s a violation of the law of love.

“The truth that for our life one law is valid — the law of love, which brings the highest happiness to every individual as well as to all mankind.” This is what Leo Tolstoy wrote and the contents of this letter eventually ended up in the hands of a certain Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi.

Where there is love there is life. Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend. Our human compassion binds us the one to the other — not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future. Philosopher Baruch Spinoza once said: “Men who are governed by reason — that is, who seek what is useful to them in accordance with reason, desire for themselves nothing, which they do not also desire for the rest of mankind, and, consequently, are just, faithful, and honorable in their conduct.”

My act of making my work more important than my love life is only a violation, because as we all know I seek for all of mankind to find true love. Therefore if THAT is my highest desire for everyone, how could I dare put my own love life last?  😭 Even with the excuse of healing and becoming a better person, I definitely know HOW to love. I always have. I’m a big vortex of love in the highest form. It’s the way God made me.  

I even wrote a book teaching others how to find love and it’s working, according to the reviews. 

But, because I’m an entrepreneur, putting my love life on the back burner is often what we do.  Especially after a bad break-up. We feel we have no more time to waste. We are in a rush.  I believe it’s the biggest reason why so many brilliant, beautiful, amazing, successful, heart-centered souls are single. They are too busy trying to get their lives PERFECT enough to receive the mate of their dreams. 

It’s a really sweet reason. It may even seem pretty righteous. Also society will say “Good Job” that’s what you’re supposed to do.  Men may need to do it to a certain extent, but I’m most certain, this is not for a woman to do at all.  Such behavior keeps women fiercely independent and unwilling to submit to a man.  We don’t want a man to save us. We want to save ourselves, and we do.  Then suddenly most men don’t measure up ENOUGH to ever submit to. Some women will submit to the right man, but others have no intentions of EVER submitting.

With men, if he is in the process of getting his life to a certain point, I believe he should simply find the woman of his dreams and start working towards her.  If you are meant to truly be with someone, it’s a heart match. Even if it appears to be a material match, good hearted souls really match up in heart and soul. The materials are only a result of being on a certain vibration.  For example: Two wealthy people may both drive a Bentley. But are they married to one another because they both drive Bentleys? Absolutely not. It’s the connection and the internal things that attract them to one another. ( I’m not talking gold digging and 3D relationships right now. That’s not my world or my lane.)

So why do we often feel like we need to acquire a certain level of success or get something done in BUSINESS before we find love?  Because we listen to society.  Because we know it takes money to live. But if love is money, why would we think it’s cool to put love last? 

And then there is this question…

love or money

Here’s a story: 

Three men walk up to a home and knock on the door.  A woman answers and they ask if her husband is at home. She says no, but tells them they can come in and wait for him. They say no, that they would dare not enter a woman’s home, without her husband being around. They instead say they will sit outside on the porch until her husband comes home. 

Now let’s pretend the hubby comes through the back door or just divinely appears in the home. The wife immediately tells him that three men are on the porch.  He goes out to talk to the three men and tells them to come in.  However these are not regular men. They are three wise men. They tell him, we are Success, Love and Money.  You can only invite one of us into the home. Which will you choose?

The man goes back into the home to confer with his wife.  After pondering their choices, they both decide that they will invite Love in because love comes with money and success. So they invite Love in and live happily ever after with riches and success.  This couple understood that love is abundance. 

Now when you break my lil story down, everything suddenly makes sense. 


Now here comes the part about alignment. I am SUPER aligned. I’m so aligned that as I’m typing this and about to show you something, I literally get high.  I received this, this morning, AS I was writing this blog. 

Do you see what’s going on here?

No matter what we say, it’s all FEAR of not being good ENOUGH for who it is that we seek.  😭

Everyone is trying to work their way into enoughness. It works. It definitely works. But that’s such a long route.   I mean YES, you do have to feel you are  ENOUGH before you receive anything. Even to get the super luxury car you want or the multi-million dollar mansion, you have to feel good enough to receive it, before you can actually receive it. You must be an energetic match for it. We as humans tend to forget about God, and try to EFFORT our way into everything, in order to feel good enough to receive it. We don’t feel worthy of good things simply being handed to us.  We question anything that comes too easily. ( Maybe that’s why we put ourselves through bad relationships… So we will learn to appreciate our soulmate. 🤷🏼‍♀️ )

Energetically the guy above is successful. He makes 6 Figures. I’m positive he could help her with her brand. He’s good at that stuff. If she actually likes him, it’s a match. But he feels she won’t like him until his money is a bit more stable. So he’s going to keep working on himself with the IDEA of being good enough for her LATER. When by then her standards will have increased, and he may not be able to add as much value to her. She will then be seeking her soul’s mate at the next dimension level. 

There is a window of opportunity that one must take. ( I saw my ex in a club 2 years before we ever spoke. We didn’t talk, but we did run into each other again. Now we’re exes.. So…um yeah. ) When that window opens you must make the most of it, and do the work to stay together. God is not going to force anyone to stay together, and if you don’t keep up, high trajectory souls go on to the next dimension level, without you. 

People think divine mates are concrete. They are only concrete if you talk to them. If it’s meant to be, you still have to make a decision for it to BE.  Once you SEE them, then God and divinity has already done the work. Just like anything else you gotta go into ACTION mode. Your love life is simply not going to work without you working on it. 

See we all have these IDEAS of what success means to us. For my tribe 6 Figures isn’t success. Millions of dollars is success to us. So because we equate success with a certain level of finances, we essentially block off our soul’s mates, due to not being open to it, and feeling not good enough to receive the love we deserve. 

money over love

This goes right back to men and women working together as teams in love. It’s the natural order. 1+1=2. 1+1 in marriage equals 3. 3 is a trinity of love, which equals abundance, success and money. 

How the phuck did we miss this?????  We didn’t. We never did. But we chose mates who did not know.  Many women tried this with men, only for the men to later leave them after obtaining success. So then we got off our mark, we set high goals, and deemed we were going to actually get our desired mate this time. We know we want both love and success and our future mate does too.  So then we calculate in our heads what success means to us. THEN we DECIDE that when we get there, to that point, we will then be available to receive love.  

OMG. I’m not calling us retarded or anything like that.  But that’s nothing more than clown azz fear getting in the way of your dreams.

Once heartbreak hits, you literally begin to feel like you must do everything perfect. You feel like this is the last time. It HAS to go right. Everything has to be perfect and lined up. You start trying to control your life, you start doing God’s job, not leaving space for him to come in and do what he does best.  We lose our childlike innocence and start being serious. But at least we still believe in real love. 

This is definitely a pattern, because most of the people I interviewed for dating, said they were waiting for their company to get to a certain level before dating. A few of the entrepreneurs I interviewed are actually millionaires still chasing their idea of success, with all of their time going into their business.  A business that could easily be managed, overhauled and delegated to free up time and space to date. Which would also make more money.

What the man above should do is to study that woman (He’s already doing that). He now knows what she wants. He needs to hit that woman up and have a conversation with her, and tell her he’s interested. He then needs to find out her needs and actually see if he can meet them.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with people wanting completed packages, but honestly nobody is complete when you meet them.  I mean we are told that we are perfect, whole and complete, and that people should like us as is, but that’s not the elite way to go. We will change. We love to change and grow. We know that without growth we are not fully living. Therefore of course our relationships are going to grow us and change us. They are meant to. They must. If they don’t, they are not good for us. 

Truthfully WITH a divine mate, we would actually manifest our goals a lot faster.  We’ve been going the long way. The society way. Yet we believe we’re better and different. Just another layer of societal programming by the powers that be, who control the masses.  We must come from under that. 

god love over money

The term equally yoked is about being equally yoked in heart and spirit. When you actually are equally yoked chances are you want the same things out of life. You’re already on your path, and they are already on their path, and you’re basically going in the same direction.  

But who did we mate with in the past? People who didn’t have our same heart value for love or purposeful success. People who didn’t want to live their best life by working hard to manifest it.  People who weren’t going in our direction. 

One of my followers, Cynthia, made this meme for me.

We laughed and had a good time over it.

I even made an iPhone vs Android joke.

It was indeed a joke. But the joke woke many people up.  It helped people go back and see that even on the surface there were signs of incompatibility of two people going in two different directions; having a different set of values.  Obviously it’s not about the phone. It’s deeper than that. It caused people to really go deep, and in a flash they saw everything that they couldn’t see before. I know they did, because I have my secrets of commanding things and giving people shifts…

With all of that being said, know that your divine mate will show up when it’s time. It’s not about your time, it’s about God’s time. When you’re on the right frequency of your soul’s mate they arrive. Simple as that. It doesn’t matter whether you FEEL you’re ready or not.  Your lack of  not FEELING ready, is simply that LACK OF ENOUGHNESS.  You see how LACK is so prevalent?

I think you’ve heard enough and get it now.  I feel like God himself owes me a million dollars for writing this massive download. I truly do! (Well Look at God! Look who finally feels ENOUGH!) 

Be blessed. 

Written With Love,

KissyDenise Gold


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