Jada Pinkett Smith is revealing the truth about her marriage to blockbuster movie star Will Smith.
In a new interview about her memoir “Worthy” the Girls Trip star revealed that she has been separated from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air for seven years.
In 2016 the couple decided that they would live completely separate lives, yet remain married.
Yet when gossipers disclosed that the two were separated or in an open relationship, both Will & Jada denied the rumors. Jada says she wasn’t ready to tell the world yet.
While fans are just learning the news now, Jada confirmed to Today that she and Will have been apart since 2016. As for the reason they kept things quiet?
“I think just not being ready yet, still trying to figure out between the two of us how to be in partnership and in regards to how do we present that to people,” Jada told Hoda Kotb in an interview released Oct. 11. “And we hadn’t figure that out.”
She also shed some light on what led them to part ways.
“Why it fractured, that’s a lot of things,” the actress added. “I think by the time we got to 2016, we were just exhausted with trying. I think we were both stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be.”
And while Jada said she considered divorce, she ultimately decided not to file.
“I made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce,” she said in the interview, which is part of Jada’s Story – An NBC News Special that will air Oct. 13. “We will work through whatever, and I just haven’t been able to break that promise.”
What’s interesting here is that Jada and Will are experiencing the same problems many couples go through. The reality of who the person is versus who you want them to be. They’ve gone through all types of high profile counseling sessions and still no fix.
The advice I give couples who work with me is to stop focusing on the negative things about your mate. If you love your mate, amplify their good. As the problems you see in them are really just a reflection of your own mindset and beliefs about yourself.
For Jada, she never wanted to marry Will in the first place. For some reason Will refuses to divorce her and move on with his life.
Many couples stay married even though the relationship is fractured. Through Will & Jada it is obvious there is no point, other than for business purposes. But the LOVE won’t ever come back as long as the couple is in denial.
Real freedom comes from knowing what you want, getting it, and then appreciating it. Your partner can neither give you feelings of freedom or happiness, unless you first give those things to yourself. Jada doesn’t have it, because she doesn’t know what she wants.
This is something many of my clients discover in a soul alignment session. CLARITY is the answer.
And if a couple is not going to get divorced, then dating other people definitely isn’t helping. As long as someone in the relationship has outside sex to escape to they can’t fully commit to healing.