by Site Admin | Dec 1, 2019 |
Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith have to be one of the most gossiped about couples in the celebrity realm. They are also one of the most loved couples. While rumors once swirled of the couple getting a divorce and being swingers, the more beautiful truth about the Hollywood couple’s relationship was revealed on Jada’s Facebook Watch series, Red Table Talk.
On a previous episode, the couple discussed a time when their family’s careers were prospering, but their love life was so bad Jada “woke up and cried for 45 days straight.”
In Monday’s episode, Will opened up about what he and Jada did to work on their relationship. They revealed that their marriage hit its lowest point when Will planned Jada’s 40th birthday party—but deep down, he really planned it for himself, not for her.
“The day after her 37th birthday, I hired a team to orchestrate her 40th birthday,” Will said. He hired R&B star Mary J. Blige to perform, and hired a documentary crew showcase footage of her late grandmother. “It was going to be the thing that lifted her out of this midlife crisis, and it was going to be my deepest, most beautiful proclamation of love,” Will said.
But things went life. During Jada’s epic 40th bash, Jada got emotional hearing tapes of her late grandmother, and still had to sit through the rest of the party. She wanted to cancel it, but Will didn’t agree. “She told me that the party was the most ridiculous display of my ego,” he recalled. “Crushed, right? To this day I know I was crushed because it was true. It wasn’t a party for her.”
Jada is Will’s heart. So the two decided to heal their relationship. Will revealed that he took two years away from Hollywood to work on himself and his marriage.
The couple “broke up” and “got back together” within their marriage, with new rules. Now, the couple doesn’t define themselves as married—instead, their bond is something different. “It’s a life partnership in the sense that we’ve created a foundation together that we know is for this lifetime,” Jada said.
“We have devoted ourselves to each other in a spiritual, emotional sense,” Will said. “Whatever she needs, she can count on me for the rest of her life.”
Watch the full segment below:
by Site Admin | Nov 12, 2019 |
How to attract a high value mate:
1. HEAL – No need to be perfect, but start the process of your healing. The mate for you will come along and help you with the rest. Stop listening to people who tell you to go hide in a corner, stop dating and do all of this on your own. Those people don’t know what LOVE is. We were not created to do everything on our own. We need other humans.
2. Be honest with yourself about your needs and desires.
3. BE the person who can sustain a relationship with your desired mate.
4. Be a giver. Too many people are looking for love but only wanting to RECEIVE.
5. Know your value and have standards.
Most high value women are mostly looking for love. Yet they are unable to meet men with whom she can have a deep, emotional connection with. She doesn’t like the men she attracts. Most of the men she meets lack visually and emotionally. If she gets visual and emotional, then chances are he’s young and can’t afford her lifestyle. Most times she is not in receiving mode. Therefore she attracts affluent men who really have nothing going for themselves besides smarts and money. Such men always think they are the creme of the crop for women. They really don’t question WHY they are single and WHY they can’t seem to get the woman they want. (It’s usually a beautiful woman)
Men on the other hand these days want a woman who will DO things for him. He has no interest in how good she looks (yet he wants a good looking woman, and has very little understanding of her mindset, and even though she is good looking, he wants her to act like she looks normal and behave in the same manner the average woman would. Such men DO NOT put a lot of focus into their own appearance, and most women would look at him and immediately see flaws, that she may try to look past, just to later realize he has other issues. His ego keeps him from recognizing these things. He will also lower the self-esteem of just about any woman he deals with.
Then you have the other men who DO, CHASE, put in effort, are wiling to provide and actually appreciate a beautiful woman. He has a hard time attracting a woman who deeply cares about him.
People experience a great deal of blocks in the dating arena. Yet they don’t know that not having the mate you want is a block. When you’re actively dating, and going on date after date, and things are not working, it’s time to call in some help. But most people continue to try to figure things out on their own.
I work with elite, high performers who are having a hard time attracting their divine, sacred, soulmate. You are already making 6 figures, or 7. You have your finances down, and every other part of your life. Yet the romance department continues to evade you.
Dating actually isn’t hard. It’s simply all about having clarity, healing, confidence and strategy.
You were meant to to be loved, to experience the perfect romance, and to become one in love with your divine soulmate. Move past all of the past trauma and drama. Stop going in circles, wondering why things aren’t working out for you. Stop attracting people who only activate your pain wounds. Stop attracting people who only want to take from you and use you. Stop attracting people who don’t listen to you and don’t spend time getting to know you.
It’s time to attract a man who wants to please you and make you happy. The world has gone too far left with telling everyone to make themselves happy. You can only make yourself but so happy all alone. God wouldn’t have created EVE if he believed Adam could be happy all on his own. The truth is that Adam needed a partner. He needed companionship and something he could pure his love into and see it bloom.
A woman was created to be loved. But men these days think everything is about them. They will literally chase a woman down and tell her he’s not impressed with her, or that she doesn’t do anything for him. Unmarried men these days have zero understanding that a woman is an INVESTMENT. You put your all into her, then she multiplies it and gives it back to you. It’s common sense. Yet many men wait with their hands out, seeing what he can get from a woman. Then he’s surprised that things don’t work out for him.
The deeper insanity is that males chase women, then when she finally pays him attention, he lays back and wants HER to prove herself to him.
The silliest thing any woman can do is deal with any man who is not pursuing her with everything he has in his arsenal. Until such a man pops up, the rest are an extreme waste of time. They are not divine connections. They can’t be, because they don’t know how to play their role.
Work with me 1 on 1 to get you off the dating merry go round. One of my clients literally attracted a billionaire who fell in love with her on the first date. That’s how easy it’s supposed to be. Getting her there was not hard work at all. She and I worked together to put her back into alignment with her sovereign King.
by Site Admin | Oct 17, 2019 |
It’s not hard to be a valuable woman. All you really have to do, is be yourself.
Check out these Irresistible woman traits by RelRules.
Don’t get the wrong idea. It’s actually really easy to fall in love with a person. That’s why they use the term “fall”. It’s effortless. It’s something that you can’t control.
It’s something that just happens whether you exert effort into it or not. It’s really not all that difficult for people to fall in love. However, staying in love is going to be a completely different story.
It’s a whole other ball game. And it’s infinitely more difficult to keep a man’s love than to just earn it in the first place. When you’re just starting out as a couple, it can feel almost like you’re cheating at life with how easy and seamless everything is.
It’s always exciting to be around this new individual who has made a sudden profound effect on your life. You get to know one another. You learn about one another’s habits and tendencies. You really get deep into each other’s principles, virtues, and values.
But then, you hit a kind of ceiling in your relationship. And that’s when you know that your honeymoon phase is over and the real work has to begin. So, if you’re interested in actually preserving the integrity of your relationship, you need to start putting in the work for your relationship.
You can’t just be a woman who loves your partner anymore. Love isn’t going to be enough to sustain your relationship. You have to turn yourself into a woman he can’t afford to leave.
1. Stay cool, calm, and relaxed.
Just try to keep it cool. The one thing that men hate more than anything else in relationships is drama. That’s why you should always make it a point to keep your cool. Don’t let your emotions be getting the best of you.
2. Showcase your intelligence.
A man is always going to want to stay with the intelligent girl. Sure, you can be pretty and that can grab his attention for the first part.
But if you’re smart, it’s going to keep him coming back for more. He will know that you’re the kind of girl he can always learn from. You would be the kind of girl who would help him grow as a human being.
3. Always be open and honest with him.
You always want him to know that he can trust you. You always want him to feel like he can always rely on you to be telling him the truth at all times.
=That’s why you always want to be honest and transparent with him. You can’t be keeping him in the dark if you want him to trust you. You can’t be making him feel like you are keeping things from him if you want him to stay.
4. Never be withholding of your love and care.
You always want to be taking care of him. Yes, he is a strong man who can hold his own. He is perfectly capable of making it in this life by himself.
He knows that he doesn’t really need your help much but he is still going to want you to make that effort. He is still going to want to see you take care of him. He is going to want to feel cared for.
5. Respect his privacy.
Always make sure that you respect his privacy. Don’t push him to open up to you about something if he isn’t comfortable about it yet. Don’t pry into his messages and his emails without his permission.
If he happens to tell you a secret about himself, then keep it to yourself. Don’t be broadcasting the intimate aspects of your relationship to other people. Always try to stay discreet.
6. Support him in his passions and pursuits.
Always make sure that you are supportive of him. If you are genuinely interested in a long-term relationship, you have to make him feel like you are his number one cheerleader.
You have to show him that you are going to hold his hand if he ever feels intimidated or scared of the challenges in front of him. He needs to know that he can always rely on you to have his back.
7. Give him a reason to laugh.
Throughout the stretch of your relationship, you are going to encounter a lot of challenges and problems – both as a couple and as individuals.
And you’re going to be feeling a lot of stress and pressure as a result of these challenges. That’s why it’s important that the two of you are still able to laugh as much as possible. Maintain a good sense of humor and he’s always going to feel comfortable when he’s around you.
8. Be romantic with him.
Don’t shy away from being romantic with him. He’s going to love it if you are acting all sappy and in love with him. He might make it seem like he’s not really into that stuff.
But he’s going to love it whenever you are unapologetically showcasing your love and affection for him.
by Site Admin | Sep 2, 2019 |
I came across this fascinating article that I had to share with my fellow empaths.
What are 6 common ways that empaths land up sabotaging the relationships around them through their natural behaviors and actions?
Being an empath is not easy – you basically live your life experiencing your own feelings, as well as the feelings of most of the people around you.
On a day-to-day basis just the feelings alone can be enough to drown you, and any extra stress can quickly send you over the edge – yet, we seem to be good at creating extra stress unwittingly, especially in our relationships.
What are the common mistakes that empaths make that sabotage their relationships?
1. Thinking For Your Partner
This could also probably be labeled having the fight in your own head.
You know what I mean right? You’re upset with your partner and you start ‘venting’ or ‘practicing’ what it is you plan to say to him or her, and you land up having, and resolving, the fight inside your head, without any partner participation at all.
Yes, you do feel better, but your partner has missed out on the benefit of the process, and you substituted what you wanted to hear, your ideal responses, for what your partner would have actually said. Over time, this leads to a lot of disappointment, because you’re remembering promises and agreements that were never actually reached in the relationship, only in your head.
2. Speaking For Your Partner
In the same vein, as empaths we have a tendency to compensate and speak for the other person.
You know how that goes; it starts with a thought like, “Okay, so he battles to ask for help and he sounds down and like he needs love. Let me stop what I’m doing and go and give him love so that he feels better.” Yes you’re fulfilling your purpose and being a good person, but you’re also teaching the other party that they don’t have to communicate their needs, you’ll always be able to see inside their heads.
Over time you will also get resentful that you always have to stop everything to look after this person’s needs, fostering anger and irritation in that relationship, even though it is you that is the catalyst: you’ve created your own obligation to stop what you’re doing and meet this person’s immediate emotional needs.
3. Looking After Your Needs
At the same time that you’re talking and thinking for your partner, as an empath you tend to carry the load for meeting your own needs within the relationship.
So instead of going to your partner or friend for help, you keep on carrying them emotionally, and you carry yourself – not allowing the other party to look after you.
You don’t ask for advice or assistance or let people know when you’re down or low because of two reasons: first you have created a habit of only relying on yourself, and second you expect people to be able to see and interpret for themselves that you are low. It’s what you do after all.
4. Compromising Your Needs
Once the emotional load of the relationship, the other person and your own stuff becomes too much, you compromise on the easiest place to compromise – yourself.
In order to save time you only focus on the relationship and your partner or friend, neglecting your needs and ignoring your system. Over time you forget all these small compromises and you just feel the heaviness of the burden. This usually vents in an explosion of, “Nobody cares about me or my needs.”
The sad truth is that it’s us who always compromise our own needs.
5. Not Expressing Yourself
A long-term effect of compromising your needs is that you stop expressing your needs altogether.
It’s like manifestation, in order to get what you want from the Universe, you have tell the Universe what it is that you want and focus on it intently. So many empaths feel that their needs aren’t met in their relationships, and equally as many of us are guilty of not telling people what we want or what is going on with us.
What is going on with us is a big one here, because we don’t take the time to explain ourselves either: we’re too busy understanding the other person you see? For someone who is not an empath, the sudden mood swings and ups and downs, especially when they seem to be caused by nothing, can look really scary and confusing.
6. Breaking Your Boundaries
The last unhealthy behaviour that empaths exhibit in relationships is around boundaries
. When we’re pressed to do something that conflicts us, our DIY programming kicks in and we have the fight in our own head – most often choosing to cross the boundary internally on our own. Do this enough times and you’ll feel like you’ve walked miles for the other party’s benefit, while they have absolutely no inkling of the level of sacrifice you’ve made for them.
Finally, boundary breaking leads to anger: anger at myself because I’ve crossed my own internal boundaries or anger at another that has crossed my boundaries. Each time you allow your boundaries to be crossed, another little bit of unexpressed anger builds up. Over time this accumulates exponentially and you land up fuming with the person and hating them for walking all over you.
Via MindsJournal
by Site Admin | May 27, 2019 |
Becoming a life coach has to be one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. And the crazy thing about it is actually helping people is the easiest part.
We’re all gifted. All talented. Able to do amazing things… When we set our minds to it, and focus on what needs to be done. Life coaching is a very natural thing for me. I realized early on that I’m a Master Life Coach. There is no one particular area that I can help you with. I can help you fix your whole entire life.
But in the life coaching world they say that’s not niched enough. So I’ve spent months, maybe even a whole year trying to figure out a niche.
Who do I want to help? Are they male, are they female, are they black or are they white? Why do I have to choose? Why can’t it just be people?
I was right, but I was ohhhh so wrong. See when I entered the life coaching world I had no desire to be like anyone else. I always show up different. So I titled myself a Dream Activator, because that is truly what I do best. I take your dreams and amplify them. As a Prophetess I am able to not only see a vision on my own future life, which has lead me here, but I can also see the futures of my clients. Which is why I’m able to align them to their purpose.
But back to this niche though. I recently started attracting a new breed of clientele. Some of the most powerful female life coaches on the planet. And when I say powerful, I mean people who are at the top of the top of their fields. They stand out. They are beautiful, brilliant, warm, and quite masterful when it comes to social media.
They don’t even need me to teach them how to use social media. They already know how to make loads of money from it, just like I do. Some of them are millionaires, and some walking into their millionaire season.
I understand these amazing women with ease. But this whole time I’ve been telling people that I can teach them how to brand and get social media followers. Which is a lot of work. Also not the work my soulmate clients need from me.
My soulmate clients need me to help them gain clarity and help them remember why they came to earth. They hire me to help them step into the highest version of themselves.
Yeah, that part. The part where I admit that I work in woo woo land, and that my work is totally spiritual.
And I totally know what I’m doing… My clients leave me some of the most raving reviews the life coaching world has ever seen. I’m obviously great at my job.
But, of course there’s a but…. But, WOW. Is this what God had planned for my life?
I am humbled by God’s blessing over my life and the gifting I’m anointed with.
Do you ever wonder what God has for you? Have you answered the call?
