When people tell you that men are these wonderful creatures and that all you have to do is see them as good, that’s simply not true.
I once saw men as good. Even as a teen I saw men as good. But that’s not the experience I had with men.
Yet, I continued to live in that state of delusion. Moving with an open heart. Flowing with my feelings. Being this kind, open, brilliant, supportive, wonderful loving woman that I am.
Which is partially why I’ve been able to experience so much love.
Men have always loved me…
But I never recognized their behaviors as LOVE…
Now I have discernment sharpened by lived experience.
I stopped wearing rosy red glasses and living in a state of delusion.
⭐️ I also stopped operating in masculine energy.
That was the biggest block.
Here is THE TRUTH about men.
You’ve been spiritually and energetically lied to by the entire programming that tells divine, soft, visionary women to “just hold a vision” for men who haven’t held themselves accountable for anything.
And we’ve been told that if we just “see the king in him,” he’ll rise.
That is not true. Sure he will rise SOME.
But let’s not forget that you operate at a VERY high level.
Most men are not going to meet that.
Even more:
You can’t vision-board a man into his healing.
You can’t love a man into leadership.
You can’t make him good through your goodness.
Unfortunately you can’t love a man for his potential, the way you’ve tried to in the past.
You gotta love a man for who he is showing up as right now.
Either that’s good enough for you, even if he never changes.
Or his current is not good enough for you and you need to let him go, instead of trying to build him up into the King you want him to be. (I know, sad, right… The way it backfires to pour love into another human being and help make their dreams come true…
This isn’t about your good heart. It’s about understanding a man’s DNA and how they operate…. and see things…)
Besides, Men are not clay. They are choices.
And most have chosen not to rise, because they don’t have to.
You have to accept that you are evolved, and called for greater.
It’s up to you to learn to CHOOSE the right one.
Seeing me clearly and being honest is not about being bitter or jaded. It’s doesn’t even mean you lack faith.
It’s about being honest as a woman who has witnessed the pattern, and refuses to let herself be sacrificed on the altar of someone else’s potential.
And here’s what’s sacred:
Maybe you’re not being called to “see the good in men” anymore.
You’re being called to see clearly.
To walk in truth.
To expect only from the already-risen ones.
To value and appreciate YOUR KING when he appears.
You don’t need to fight reality to be high-vibe.
Life is not all glitter, sparkles and sunshine,
no matter how much us unicorns would like it to be.
But you can choose reality, to surrender, walk in clarity, and let GOD align you with a man who matches what you already are …. whole, wise, valuable, radiant.
That’s how you bypass attracting the wrong men.
You give it to GOD.
You are a brilliant, successful woman. Your gift is not in seeing men as better than they are.
Your gift is in seeing YOURSELF clearly, and being so fully HER that only a real King can enter your kingdom.
THAT man will then allow you to impart wisdom and upgrades in him, because he values and knows the kind of woman he CHOSE.
HE actually wants a lifelong partner. ❤️
