Day in and day out, client after client comes to me. Each woman wants the same thing. She wants a man to romance her.
The pretty girls tend to get men who will take them out to dinner. Some fancy and others not so much.
But every woman wants her heart to beat. She wants to be romanced by a gentleman. She wants to feel safe, nurtured and provided for. She wants a man to choose her as the most special girl in his world.
And it never happens for misaligned women, for more than a few reasons.
Here are just a few:
Being a pick me is a good man repellent. A man doesn’t want a woman who is desperate for waiting around to be chosen by him. He wants the chick who is a prize.
Dream Man doesn’t show up until you show up as your own Dream Woman. In reverse many men find their dream girl, but she doesn’t show up like it, and therefore he doesn’t show up like her dream man.
You display too much masculine energy in your relationships. Men want softness, playfulness and ease. Not to feel like they are talking to another man.
There are too many people doing the whole “Lets get to know each other” thing. Not noticing that the whole time the person is showing you who they are. You’re thinking you’re starting out smooth and cool, and that all of the good stuff will come later. 🤣
Only people who live in fear hold back on all of their goodness. Showing up in a relationship in fear is a trauma response, and carrying baggage from previous experiences. What happens is so many people give their all, and fail to feel appreciated by others in the process, that they learn to show up as a less than version of themselves, while expecting someone else to fall in love with that lesser version of them. Obviously this would attract the wrong mate. You can’t attract the right mate when you’re not showing up as your authentic self. You end up attracting someone else who isn’t what they pretended to be….
Everyone should fully show up while dating… Trust that this will net you the best results.
You ever think about what being authentically you would net you?
Good men seek women who show up as a woman that is worthy of his chase, pursuit, romance and investment. That’s exciting to him and proves that woman different from the rest. Unfortunately for most women, they’ve completely lowered their value in order to be “picked,” chosen or loved by a man
💎 Therefore, It’s 25 average women to 1 high-value, feminine, emotionally intelligent woman.
While being a high value woman is a turn off to low value men because it makes them feel limited like they can’t afford her in monetary value nor character, high value men are complete turned on by a high value, feminine woman.
So the best thing for you to do is show up as your true, authentic, high value self.
MOVIN ON
Most women fail to understand this simple truth — Men who aren’t interested don’t chase. . If a man isn’t chasing you, he should be ineligible to be your future husband. Period. You can’t chase a man and then expect him to romance you. For what? When you’re chasing a man, he’s the prize, not you.
But that’s exactly what successful women do. Chase men, go hard and try to solve his problems.
Successful, smart, independent, and amazing woman, it’s time to change the way you do things…
What if I told you the very thing that makes you successful in your career is the very thing that’s driving love away?
The masculine energy that makes you so dope in life and business repels good men.
Men who don’t understand divine feminine energy have conditioned you to compete with men. Even more a lot of men love a business woman. But on top of that they want you to be sweet, fierce and feminine, which is a lot for the average woman to become. If you’re going to be all of that, you may as well upgrade to a better caliber man.
Without divine feminine energy and communication, you end up emasculating and castrating men.
Here are a few tips to help you slide deeper into your femininity.
1.When you leave the office or close your laptop, make a mental note: “I am always working, but I must release my work hat during off hours”.
2.Allow men to make date plans. Stop asking a man what’s up. If he is not making plans to see you AND planning where you’ll go, then he is not that into you or not ready to take on his masculine role. Move on!
3. Keep a journal for the next 30 days. Do 3 things everyday to unearth your femininity.
Take a bubble bath. Put on some soft music and relax.
Put on some sexy undies and dance around to some sexy soulful music…
Make eye contact with men, talk in a slower, passionate voice, thank them whole-heartedly for compliments, holding the door, buying dinner, etc.
Always let a man pay for the first couple dates and give a sincere smile and “Thank you”. Many women want to be equals and split the check or feel like they will “owe him.” If he pays but ALLOW him to be in his masculine.
Let your walls down. Good men can sense a traumatized woman from a mile away. Women in fear frustrate them. He wants a woman who is willing to relax and let go. When a woman operates in fear, you give off a vibration of “not trusting.“ They can smell this and will run from you pretty fast. You may be saying, “But Kissy, I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been lied to, why should I trust men?” Use caution and follow your gut when going on dates but when you have amindset of not trusting, you will inadvertently attract men who are untrustworthy. That is something to definitely address with a Quantum Healing Love Guru.
Don’t ever rush to a date. If you’re going to date after work, go home first. Get showered and feel feminine and fresh. You should be feeling good about yourself when out on a date.
Shut Up! Allow him to do most of the talking. Be attentive and engaging but not in charge. Be feminine, seductive and playful.
Make time for feminine self-care activities every day. Put a reminder in your phone first thing in the morning or at the end of the day.
Be patient! Allow things to naturally unfold. When you feel the need to take charge of or try to control something, remind yourself to step back… ALLOW it to unfold!
SAY LESS – Don’t divulge your whole damn life story on the first date. Be mysterious and intriguing. Share yourself slowly!
When it comes to masculine and feminine, imagine a lion out in the wilds of Africa, gracefully chasing a gazelle. When the lion is picking up speed, suddenly the gazelle lies down and says, “Here I am, just eat me!”
What do you think that lion would do? The lion would be like, “This gazelle must be a cheap knockoff or something, I better not eat that!”
Be authentic, loving, feminine… and remember, you are a beautiful flower that needs to be savored slowly.
If you are a high performing 6-7 figure professional, ready to stop thinking so much and do the healing work to call in a divine, intellectual, romantic, attractive, wealth-conscious soulmate, contact me on social media, to work with me 1 on 1.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
I saw a great article circulating this morning about women accepting the bare minimum from a man. As I was sharing the article on my personal page, I of course was going into a long spill that would’ve wound up a whole blog post, so here we are….
Currently I’m single. Noting that I’m a social media star who often uses my life lessons to teach others, it’s not surprising when people comment on my life, in judgement of me.
Many people often comment on the fact that I’m single. 100% of the time, those people are not millionaires. Millionaires who vibrate on my level already know why I’m single. If it’s a man he usually tries to shoot his shot.
Currently I’m going through a spiritual transformation and I’m doing a great deal of shedding from my past life. That’s not something the common person can identify with. Nor is it enjoyable to speak about the darkness that one must walk through in order to get to the light. But what I’m about to say next, you must take it into understanding and apply it to your own life. I’m single for 2 reasons.
1. My dream guy has yet to show up. I believe that love is a fairytale that truly happens. I believe in the beauty of it, I believe in deep soul connections. I believe in the smiles, the warm feelings, and the closeness and familiarity that two souls feel when they meet and wonder where has each other been their whole lives. That moment two people kiss, fall in love and then suddenly the whole world, and their journey of life makes sense.
Many men have shown up to pursue me. 5 Figure Men, 6 Figure men, and 7 Figure men too. They are Doctors, Lawyers, Motivational speakers, brilliant business owners, regular guys… Many men. They all see something deep within me that they know will change their life. But they don’t know what it is… They can’t quite identify with it. So they’ve each pursued me in the most basic manner possible. They show me the bare minimum. Behavior that they feel is impressive…
Most successful men are accustomed to women liking them and chasing them based upon their accolades. Many don’t know how to connect to the soul of a woman, because they’ve never had to. Their money and success speaks for them. These kind of men will do one small thing for you, and think they’ve given you the world. Meanwhile other men find their dream girl and set out to give her the world. Her happiness becomes an innate desire of his.
There is a certain trigger that alters a man when he meets the woman of his dreams. He pursues her relentlessly, until he gets her. He knows, like he knows, that’s the one he wants. He then becomes the man of her dreams, and the fairytale begins. This requires a great deal of ROMANCE. Romance is much apart of every Queen’s dream.
Many men aren’t aware of this. They are mostly focused on them and what’s outside of them… But the key to a woman is giving her want she wants. She will then submit to you…
WHAT DOES AN AMAZING WOMAN OR A QUEEN WANT?
A Queen wants a King. She desires a man who is way better than average. She wants a man who protects her and makes her feel safe. She wants to feel like she’s special to him. To make her feel this way a man must first and foremost provide for her. A Queen can never feel safe with a man who doesn’t provide. Even if she has her own, she has to feel like she’s doing it just because it makes her happy, not because she has to in order to survive in life. She wants a man who feeds her soul, both mentally and sexually. A Queen has to be fed in more than one way. Most men are simply used to being providers and covering that lane. But she needs more than that, because her deepest desire is real, deep love. Gold diggers just want a man who will provide. They don’t have any qualifications besides that.
This should be easy for men to understand, as how many do you hear say “Just being pretty isn’t good enough. You have to be more than that.” Men want a well-rounded woman who delights him physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, and in the kitchen too. So why would he not realize that he has to be well-rounded too?
Relationships are all about giving and receiving. In order to get what you want from a woman you must pour into her. She’s like an empty box. Whatever you put into that box is what you will get back from her. Not only will you receive it back in abundance. As a woman multiplies everything you give her. If you give her hell, she will give you hell back multiplied. If you give her joy, she will give that same joy back to you over and over again.
Now when it comes to a Queen, she will only allow her dream man to fill up that box. So you have to figure out what her dreams are.. Start with the basics. Figure out what her current needs are, and fulfill them. That’s a great start. Then she will not be afraid to be vulnerable enough to open herself up and tell you the rest. You will then have the keys to unlock that woman… The thing is bad men tend to know this information, which is why they also tend to get all of the good women. They put in more work than the average man. They go hard in the paint from day one. For it’s a sport for him to unlock women, just to later break her down, or break her heart, just because he felt like it. He enjoys the power, and treats her the way he sees himself.
Queens are aware of the power transfer, and simply will only allow a King into their space. She already tried with the court jesters and got stung. There are different levels of Kings… Some men are the King of the hood. Others King of corporate America, and others are the King of their world… You have to be a King on her level… Her level is not the man who comes with the bare minimum nor the man who doesn’t respect her.
Now let me tell you about the women who aren’t aware.. Non aware women date men and accept the bare minimum from them. All a man has to do is say he likes her and that she’s pretty. Get her to grin and she’s in…just like that. She’s good with receiving mere crumbs.. They hit me up asking for free relationship advice, and say they can’t afford my consultation fee. (Dear Kissy letters are always fine. I’m speaking of 1 on 1 deep advice.) Not being able to afford my consultation fee is the first sign that they are in a bare minimum relationship. Either it’s not worth them investing in themselves to finally get the answers they’ve sought after years of pain, suffering, and not being whole-heartedly loved, because they don’t love themselves. Or they don’t feel like the relationship is worth it, because they don’t truly love themselves. Real love provides abundance. A woman glows like the sun when a man is treating her right. She’s capable of accomplishing amazing things when she’s being loved. Which is why I look at married women sideways when their finances are lacking. Yet a single boss chick is out in the world living her best life… (think) Sex with a man who truly loves you is some empowering sh*t! Lets just be honest.
Marriage is about building wealth. A wealth of love and growth together. Two people working as a team. Yet many find themselves in relationships with people who are playing on other teams. So lack rears it’s ugly head in the relationship.
Everything comes down to self-love. Often when we don’t have what we want it’s due to a lack of self-love and a lack of feeling worthy. People have a lot of healing to do.
But back to the Queens who desire an amazing King, yet don’t have one. Here are the more deeper reasons why you haven’t attracted that man into your life yet. At least one of these blocks applies to you.
You’re not vibrating love
You are vibrating lower than your worth
You don’t feel worthy or good enough
You believe you have to be perfect before you can receive unconditional love
You lack love for self
You’re emotionally hurting and suppressing it
There’s nothing to feel bad about. Life is a learning journey of discovering yourself.
For highly spiritual women I also know that part of your problem is that you are so swiftly evolving that you barely know who you are anymore. In the middle of that you have to forgive yourself for the past, forgive others who hurt you, let go of it all and give yourself permission to love yourself unconditionally. You must give yourself permission to live an abundant life filled with love, wellness and consciousness.
You must break down all of those walls that’s stopping true love from finding you. The moment you reach that point, your King will come.
So my reason #2 for being single is that I still have more work to do on my inner self. I vibrate beautifully with love. I give love. I give lots of love in abundance. My followers inbox me daily to tell me how much i’ve changed their life and how much they love me.
I must learn to receive that love. Too much humility is not a good thing… As a light worker you must know what it is that you do, and be accepting of yourself. You must start to receive that you are only getting back from people what you are putting out. It’s okay to know that you are a truly, deeply, beautiful person. You have to learn to love and accept your soul.
Love yourself for who you are. Love yourself for being the amazing person that you are.
Here are 2 of my favorite songs. Listen to them.
P.S. Ladies, don’t give up. It’s real. I know it’s real, cause I receive messages like the ones below from men all day, every day. These two are the ones I received today. I wake up to an abundance of love. 💜
A third man who adores me sent me this video today… It’s Deep!
And just incase that’s not enough. Here’s another song.
