"It's not that she's not confident. It's that she operates in a tolerance zone of dealing with men who are not crazy about her."

She's willing to wait it out. She's willing to give chances. She's willing to bend over backwards. She's willing to prove herself. And every single time a woman operates from that place — she ends up with a man who takes full advantage of exactly how much she'll tolerate.

Anytime I signed up for that, I ended up with an amazing but terrible guy. Amazing in the fact that men treat me better than most men treat their wives. They gift me. They spend major time with me. They pour into me, affirm me, and adore me.

But I have high character standards for love. What I won't tolerate, most women will.

That it's okay to cheat. That she'll take him back. That it's okay to disrespect her. Some women will let their husband run off with another woman and sit around waiting for him to wake up and come back.

I would never. Like Sis, you can keep him. Divorce paperwork filed. New man coming up.

If a man doesn't do what I want him to do — he doesn't like me. If he's not trying to impress me — he doesn't like me. No in-betweens. Not up for discussion.

Because every time it was love, that man showed up and showed out off top. He led with ease. He played chess past my defenses and waded into openness. When a woman is already open — what is there to fight? Nothing. It becomes easy to show up right.

Which showed me that not every man is even aware of the beauty of feminine energy.

I notice women with Dr. in front of their name. Her accolades make her a bit too humble when it comes to relationships. She operates as a people pleaser. She tries to intellect her way into love.

That's how having Dr. in front of her name is costing her love.

And the rest? She may not have the initials but she operates like one — Miss Know It All. This identity of being anything but feminine is such a massive love block. Then they wonder why they end up with men who cross their boundaries, don't respect them, and never buy them anything.

• If all you need is a body to call a "boyfriend" — show up proving yourself and keep being disappointed.
• A woman who knows her worth doesn't move off of it.
• She lets a King come into her life. She doesn't chase him there.
• Queens don't chase men. She attracts. Goddesses summon by aura and essence.

Being my own dream woman. Doing the work God called me to do. Showing up on this platform daily for years. I've already established my authenticity. That's not up for debate. Either you get it or you don't.

Surrendering to God and doing the inner and outer work — while building the empire and changing lives — I feel whole. I earned it. But this isn't anything women have to earn. We were born worthy.

Do what you gotta do to get that trauma up off your back.

These days I expect to be treated well off top. The hold-up in people not having what they want is lack of organization in self-worth, boundaries, knowing who you are, and moving in alignment with that.

It's DECISION. Too many women are willing to put themselves and their desires last because they're chasing a man.

Stop chasing. Start summoning.