feminine energy coaching Archives – Kissy Denise

💔 Why Do Men REALLY Leave Women?

Ladies, let’s be real. Most men don’t leave unless they are forced to emotionally, energetically, or spiritually check out. When a man leaves you, it tends to men you are a pretty bad women and need to make some changes. I know that may hurt, but that’s the truth. Average men rarely ever leave “good” women… And we know that the word GOOD/BAD is subjective.

Here are the real reasons men walk away (and how to avoid being left in the first place):

She stops being his peace.
A man will leave when drama is her love language. A King desires peace and joy when he comes home.
She doesn’t meet his needs (and refuses to listen).
Men will walk when a woman refuses to be soft, feminine, and open to learning how to love HIM right — emotionally and physically. He will also walk away from a woman who doesn’t sexually please him. To be a high value woman your bedroom skills must be on point.
She emasculates him.
If a man shares his heart, his fears, his dreams — and you use that against him — he will never trust you again.Real men need safety too.
She stops caring for herself.
Men are visual. If you lose your glow, your radiance, your feminine energy, he will notice. The woman who keeps herself radiant makes her man feel like he won. (How are you supposed to keep glowing with a 50/50 man who is abusing you, mistreating you and proud of you being his labor mate? The more he drains you, the more he dislikes you. The only choice is to LEAVE)
She doesn’t have her own purpose.
A High Value Man will leave a woman who drains his energy because she refuses to rise and own her own life.Masculine men love women with vision and substance.
She has no boundaries.
If you let him run over you, he loses respect. Men admire women who know their worth.
She’s too masculine.
If you always want to lead, argue, and compete — he doesn’t feel like a man around you. And men want to feel like the man.
She doesn’t challenge him to be better.
High Value Men want the BEST woman. One who inspires him to grow, expand, and conquer. Not one who lets him settle.
She never pours into him.
Men want to feel loved, desired, and seen. If he’s always pouring and you’re not filling him back up? He will seek that energy somewhere else.
A High Value Man will leave a woman when he feels like he’s pouring from an empty cup — when he feels emotionally, mentally, and spiritually drained because she’s not pouring back into him.

But here’s the truth most people won’t admit…
👉 Oftentimes, this man doesn’t even know what he truly wants or needs in a woman — because he never slowed down long enough to get clear on what nourishes his soul.
Instead, he moves on auto-pilot, chasing attraction or ego-based connections.

And even more, he may carry a pattern of focusing on everything “wrong” with a woman, amplifying small flaws until he can no longer see the good.

💡 What you focus on expands.
If you keep looking for the bad, that’s all you’ll see — even in a good woman.
So while he thinks he’s leaving because she’s “not enough,” in truth, he’s running from his own inability to receive love and focus on what’s right.

Sometimes, the partner isn’t bad at all… it’s the lens you’re viewing them through that’s distorted by fear, ego, and unhealed wounds.
She’s insecure. Men leave insecure women. High Value men are naturally drawn to confident, secure women who trust in Divine Love. When a woman is rooted in fear — always worried another woman will take her man, she unknowingly sends out a vibration that attracts exactly what she fears. Because what you fear, you magnetize
If you’re always afraid of other women, questioning his loyalty, or “testing” him — you push him away energetically. Confidence is QUEEN energy.

Instead, when you stand firm in love and faith, knowing that what is divinely yours can never be taken, you radiate security, confidence, and magnetism.

A true King is loyal to the woman who believes in herself and the power of love—a woman who expects to be honored, adored, and prioritized.

💎 Affirm: “What is mine by Divine Right is always attracted to me, and stays. I am loved, chosen, and secure in love.”

✨ Ladies, this is not about blame. This is about POWER.
If you’ve lost a man or are tired of attracting the wrong ones, this is your wake-up call to shift into your Divine Feminine energy and become the woman a King would never leave.

💋 Ready to embody THAT woman? The one who commands love, respect, and devotion?
👉 Book your Goddess Alignment Call and let’s upgrade your love life forever.

If women want men to be more romantic, then you need to give him something to romance

Day in and day out, client after client comes to me. Each woman wants the same thing. She wants a man to romance her.

The pretty girls tend to get men who will take them out to dinner. Some fancy and others not so much.

But every woman wants her heart to beat. She wants to be romanced by a gentleman. She wants to feel safe, nurtured and provided for. She wants a man to choose her as the most special girl in his world.

And it never happens for misaligned women, for more than a few reasons.

Here are just a few:

Being a pick me is a good man repellent. A man doesn’t want a woman who is desperate for waiting around to be chosen by him. He wants the chick who is a prize.
Dream Man doesn’t show up until you show up as your own Dream Woman. In reverse many men find their dream girl, but she doesn’t show up like it, and therefore he doesn’t show up like her dream man.
You display too much masculine energy in your relationships. Men want softness, playfulness and ease. Not to feel like they are talking to another man.

There are too many people doing the whole “Lets get to know each other” thing. Not noticing that the whole time the person is showing you who they are. You’re thinking you’re starting out smooth and cool, and that all of the good stuff will come later. 🤣

Only people who live in fear hold back on all of their goodness. Showing up in a relationship in fear is a trauma response, and carrying baggage from previous experiences. What happens is so many people give their all, and fail to feel appreciated by others in the process, that they learn to show up as a less than version of themselves, while expecting someone else to fall in love with that lesser version of them. Obviously this would attract the wrong mate. You can’t attract the right mate when you’re not showing up as your authentic self. You end up attracting someone else who isn’t what they pretended to be….

Everyone should fully show up while dating… Trust that this will net you the best results.

You ever think about what being authentically you would net you?

Good men seek women who show up as a woman that is worthy of his chase, pursuit, romance and investment. That’s exciting to him and proves that woman different from the rest. Unfortunately for most women, they’ve completely lowered their value in order to be “picked,” chosen or loved by a man

💎 Therefore, It’s 25 average women to 1 high-value, feminine, emotionally intelligent woman.

While being a high value woman is a turn off to low value men because it makes them feel limited like they can’t afford her in monetary value nor character, high value men are complete turned on by a high value, feminine woman.

So the best thing for you to do is show up as your true, authentic, high value self.

MOVIN ON

Most women fail to understand this simple truth — Men who aren’t interested don’t chase. . If a man isn’t chasing you, he should be ineligible to be your future husband. Period. You can’t chase a man and then expect him to romance you. For what? When you’re chasing a man, he’s the prize, not you.

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But that’s exactly what successful women do. Chase men, go hard and try to solve his problems.

Successful, smart, independent, and amazing woman, it’s time to change the way you do things…

What if I told you the very thing that makes you successful in your career is the very thing that’s driving love away?

The masculine energy that makes you so dope in life and business repels good men.

Men who don’t understand divine feminine energy have conditioned you to compete with men. Even more a lot of men love a business woman. But on top of that they want you to be sweet, fierce and feminine, which is a lot for the average woman to become. If you’re going to be all of that, you may as well upgrade to a better caliber man.

Without divine feminine energy and communication, you end up emasculating and castrating men.

I want to help you keep your amazing persona but be irresistible to men!

Here are a few tips to help you slide deeper into your femininity.

1. When you leave the office or close your laptop, make a mental note: “I am always working, but I must release my work hat during off hours”.

2. Allow men to make date plans. Stop asking a man what’s up. If he is not making plans to see you AND planning where you’ll go, then he is not that into you or not ready to take on his masculine role. Move on!

3. Keep a journal for the next 30 days. Do 3 things everyday to unearth your femininity.

Take a bubble bath. Put on some soft music and relax.
Put on some sexy undies and dance around to some sexy soulful music…
Make eye contact with men, talk in a slower, passionate voice, thank them whole-heartedly for compliments, holding the door, buying dinner, etc.
Always let a man pay for the first couple dates and give a sincere smile and “Thank you”. Many women want to be equals and split the check or feel like they will “owe him.” If he pays but ALLOW him to be in his masculine.
Let your walls down. Good men can sense a traumatized woman from a mile away. Women in fear frustrate them. He wants a woman who is willing to relax and let go. When a woman operates in fear, you give off a vibration of “not trusting.“ They can smell this and will run from you pretty fast. You may be saying, “But Kissy, I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been lied to, why should I trust men?”
Use caution and follow your gut when going on dates but when you have amindset of not trusting, you will inadvertently attract men who are untrustworthy. That is something to definitely address with a Quantum Healing Love Guru.
Don’t ever rush to a date. If you’re going to date after work, go home first. Get showered and feel feminine and fresh. You should be feeling good about yourself when out on a date.
Shut Up! Allow him to do most of the talking. Be attentive and engaging but not in charge. Be feminine, seductive and playful.
Make time for feminine self-care activities every day. Put a reminder in your phone first thing in the morning or at the end of the day.
Be patient! Allow things to naturally unfold. When you feel the need to take charge of or try to control something, remind yourself to step back… ALLOW it to unfold!
SAY LESS – Don’t divulge your whole damn life story on the first date. Be mysterious and intriguing. Share yourself slowly!

When it comes to masculine and feminine, imagine a lion out in the wilds of Africa, gracefully chasing a gazelle. When the lion is picking up speed, suddenly the gazelle lies down and says, “Here I am, just eat me!”

What do you think that lion would do? The lion would be like, “This gazelle must be a cheap knockoff or something, I better not eat that!”

Be authentic, loving, feminine… and remember, you are a beautiful flower that needs to be savored slowly.

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