FREE Access Is the Most Expensive Mistake Women Make

FREE Access Is Expensive

There’s a truth most women don’t want to face.

FREE access is expensive.

We grow up playing with Barbie dolls… wanting the dream.

Dream house.
Dream life.
Dream man.
Dream bank account.

We learn early that beautiful things cost money.

Houses. Cars. Clothes. Education. Travel. Freedom.

Those things are important.

So she worked hard. She learned. She figured out how to make money.

What no one taught her,
was that access to her costs something too.

So when she met men, she gave herself away easily.

Not because she was stupid… but because she didn’t know better.

A man didn’t need five dollars to get her number and talk her ear off, love bomb,
until the panties dropped. He needed less than $40 to take her out on a date.
And some — no dates were needed.

She went to his place.
(Maybe even catching the bus there.)
Or let him come to hers.

Lights low. Chemistry high.

Afterward, she didn’t feel chosen.
She felt used — but told herself it was “connection.”

Her soul knew… this wasn’t right for her.

When men can access your time, body, attention, and emotional labor for free,
they treat you like something that costs nothing.

But she kept going.

The situationships didn’t go anywhere.
Because most of those men weren’t choosing her.

They were choosing easy access and release.

Eventually she finds one who stays longer.

He bought her little things.
Said the right words.

Until she fell in love.

Maybe she had a baby.
Maybe she married him.

She saw the red flags early.
But by then, she was attached.

Now she was connected to a man who drained her.
Emotionally. Financially. Spiritually.

She spent thousands trying to build him.
Trying to help him become a king.

He spent a few hundred on her.

FREE was never empowerment.
It was the most expensive mistake she ever made.

People value what requires investment.

If she had required real intention early,
most men would have evaporated.

And that would have saved her years.

Raising your standard doesn’t reduce your options.
It removes unqualified ones.

Men who are serious don’t argue with boundaries.
They rise to them.

The real cost isn’t men saying no.

The real cost is years of emotional damage from men who never paid anything to be there.

At forty, she met a man who didn’t negotiate her worth.

He rose to it.

She married well.

Not because she got lucky.
But because she finally chose herself first.

Standards don’t limit love.
They protect it.

And the moment a woman understands that,
her entire life changes.

If you are 22 years old reading this — you just skipped years of unnecessary trauma.

THE TRUTH ABOUT MEN (No Fluff, No Fantasy, Just Facts)

When people tell you that men are these wonderful creatures and that all you have to do is see them as good, that’s simply not true.

I once saw men as good. Even as a teen I saw men as good. But that’s not the experience I had with men.

Yet, I continued to live in that state of delusion. Moving with an open heart. Flowing with my feelings. Being this kind, open, brilliant, supportive, wonderful loving woman that I am.

Which is partially why I’ve been able to experience so much love.
Men have always loved me…
But I never recognized their behaviors as LOVE…

Now I have discernment sharpened by lived experience.
I stopped wearing rosy red glasses and living in a state of delusion.

⭐️ I also stopped operating in masculine energy.
That was the biggest block.

Here is THE TRUTH about men.

You’ve been spiritually and energetically lied to by the entire programming that tells divine, soft, visionary women to “just hold a vision” for men who haven’t held themselves accountable for anything.

And we’ve been told that if we just “see the king in him,” he’ll rise.
That is not true. Sure he will rise SOME.

But let’s not forget that you operate at a VERY high level.
Most men are not going to meet that.

Even more:
You can’t vision-board a man into his healing.
You can’t love a man into leadership.
You can’t make him good through your goodness.

Unfortunately you can’t love a man for his potential, the way you’ve tried to in the past.

You gotta love a man for who he is showing up as right now.
Either that’s good enough for you, even if he never changes.
Or his current is not good enough for you and you need to let him go, instead of trying to build him up into the King you want him to be. (I know, sad, right… The way it backfires to pour love into another human being and help make their dreams come true…
This isn’t about your good heart. It’s about understanding a man’s DNA and how they operate…. and see things…)

Besides, Men are not clay. They are choices.
And most have chosen not to rise, because they don’t have to.

You have to accept that you are evolved, and called for greater.
It’s up to you to learn to CHOOSE the right one.

Seeing me clearly and being honest is not about being bitter or jaded. It’s doesn’t even mean you lack faith.

It’s about being honest as a woman who has witnessed the pattern, and refuses to let herself be sacrificed on the altar of someone else’s potential.

And here’s what’s sacred:

Maybe you’re not being called to “see the good in men” anymore.

You’re being called to see clearly.
To walk in truth.
To expect only from the already-risen ones.
To value and appreciate YOUR KING when he appears.

You don’t need to fight reality to be high-vibe.
Life is not all glitter, sparkles and sunshine,
no matter how much us unicorns would like it to be.

But you can choose reality, to surrender, walk in clarity, and let GOD align you with a man who matches what you already are …. whole, wise, valuable, radiant.

That’s how you bypass attracting the wrong men.
You give it to GOD.

You are a brilliant, successful woman. Your gift is not in seeing men as better than they are.

Your gift is in seeing YOURSELF clearly, and being so fully HER that only a real King can enter your kingdom.

THAT man will then allow you to impart wisdom and upgrades in him, because he values and knows the kind of woman he CHOSE.

HE actually wants a lifelong partner. ❤️

Why It’s Harder for Smart, Spiritual Women to Find Love

Let’s keep it real.
The smarter you are, the more spiritually tapped in you are…
The harder it can be to find a man who truly meets you.

Because you’re not out here falling in love with potential.
You’re not pretending not to see the gaps in leadership, provision, maturity, and vision.
You see things other women refuse to see — because they’d rather have a man than be alone.

But you?
You want divine union, not just a date and some validation.

You’re not building with a man who can’t cover your body, soul, spirit and mission.
You’re not playing pretend when you were born to manifest a God-ordained connection.

And yes — other women might “get married faster.”
But they’re playing a different game.
One that doesn’t require alignment.
One that doesn’t require full self-worth.
One that doesn’t always demand truth.

So don’t envy the rushed relationships.
Don’t lower your discernment just to get chosen.

Because your match?
He won’t require you to ignore your intuition.
He won’t be confused about who you are.
And he damn sure won’t be casual about your presence.

He’ll see you clearly.
Want you deeply.
And show up completely.

Because you stayed loyal to YOU.

🧠💎 For the smart, soft, spiritually aware woman — love comes slower, but baby, it’s realer.

💔 5 Signs You’re the Woman Who Gets “Almost Chosen”

5 Signs You’re the Woman Who Gets “Almost Chosen” (and How to Become the One No Man Can Overlook)

You know that feeling…

He likes you. He calls. He flirts. He opens up. He says you’re “different.”

But when it’s time to go public, commit, wife you, or claim you… he stalls. Disappears. Chooses someone else. Or says he’s “not ready.”

That’s the “almost chosen” cycle. And powerful, gorgeous, spiritually-aware women experience it way more than people admit.

Here’s what most people won’t tell you: being almost chosen doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It often means your energy is upgraded, but your receiving pattern isn’t. You’re aligned for love… but still calibrated for crumbs.

Let’s talk about it.

1️⃣ You over-give to prove you’re worth it.

You lead with nurturing. You lead with value. You lead with “look what I can do.”

That’s the high-achiever wound: loving from performance instead of position.

But real love — especially from a high-value, emotionally mature man — responds to embodiment, not effort. When you’re in “I’ll show him I’m the best woman” energy, you silently tell the universe: “I don’t think I’m enough just by being me.”

2️⃣ You keep attracting emotionally unready men.

They like your peace. They enjoy your softness. They benefit from your wisdom.

But they’re not built to cover you.

So they enjoy you… then choose easier. Not better — just easier. A woman who doesn’t challenge their growth.

That doesn’t make you less. It just means your energy is too evolved for a man who’s still living in convenience.

3️⃣ You’ve dimmed your feminine power to be “relatable.”

Listen. Chosen women don’t shrink. They shine.

But a lot of gorgeous, powerful women have learned: “If I show up fully, people get jealous… men get insecure… and I get labeled.”

So you soften your brilliance. You talk smaller. You date beneath your spiritual level. And then… you’re shocked when those same men don’t fully claim you.

Men can only fully choose what they fully see. If you’re hiding, he can’t claim you.

4️⃣ Deep down, you don’t fully expect to be chosen.

You pray. You visualize. You declare.

But somewhere inside, there’s a quiet little voice saying:

“Women like me get almost.”
“Men are intimidated by me.”
“Men just want to sleep with me, not keep me.”

Expectation is energy. You can’t outmanifest what you secretly expect to lose.

5️⃣ You haven’t learned to receive without guilt.

This is a big one for high-performing women.

When a man wants to pour into you… provide… cover… support… spoil… you feel a tiny bit of tension in your chest.

That’s the part of you that was taught to earn love, not receive it.

The woman who is truly chosen doesn’t apologize for being provided for. She knows her femininity is a gift — not a bill.

So what’s really going on?

Being “almost chosen” is not a flaw — it’s a mirror.

It’s God showing you: “Your beauty is working. Your energy is working. Your calling is working. Now let’s align your receiving with your worth.”

Because here’s the truth: the woman who truly chooses herself becomes unmissable. She attracts her dream man, not because she chased him, but because she finally stopped entertaining the ones who weren’t sent.

What changes when you stop being “almost”?

You stop romanticizing potential.
You stop getting triggered by who men do & don’t commit to.
You stop comparing yourself to women “who got chosen.”
You start choosing from peace, not loneliness.
You start receiving love & money simultaneously — not either/or.

That’s the shift I teach inside The Art of Being Chosen.

✨ The Art of Being Chosen

This is my signature experience for high-value, spiritually attuned, feminine women who are done being “almost” and ready to be fully adored, fully seen, and fully chosen.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

Recalibrate your energy so high-value men recognize you immediately
Stop attracting men who want access to your light but not responsibility
Call in love and wealth at the same time — without overworking or overgiving
Embody the “I don’t chase, I attract” frequency (for real, not just on IG)

👉 Yes, I’m ready to be chosen

Listen — you were never the problem. You were just ahead of your love life. Your energy matured before your patterns did.

Now it’s time to bring them into alignment.

Because the woman who chooses herself… is the woman God, men, money, and miracles choose too.

💋 — Kissy Denise

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The Art Of Being Chosen

I’m not into delusional boss chicks who think they are feminine

My content isn’t for women who don’t want to heal.

Women who still think the answer is outside of them.

Women who think they’re empowered but are still chasing or numbing…

Women still chasing money.

Women still avoiding femininity.
Women who refuse to admit that you’re tired of doing all of your own, fighting for a place in this world that doesn’t understand you.

It’s for those who are tired of trying to build with a man who tears you down in the end.

My content is for honest women who are ready to move forward.
Women who invest thousands in their feminine mind, not just their wardrobe; while wondering why they can’t get a man to invest.

I’m talking to the high level women who are exhausted from doing everything on your own.
The women who are tired of going out looking good, smelling good, hoping the right man will finally talk to you.

You got the money. the bag, the house, the luxury car and the designer clothes.

But at night, you realize while those things add a bit of happiness, but not the happiness you thought they would.

You’re ready to face the truth. You want deep soulmate love and connection.

You want commitment with a brilliant man who can see you. Someone who understands you.

A man you can laugh with, have deep conversations with and go on vacation with.

A man who you actually want to touch you. A man you can see yourself having sex with, and a real soulmate connection. Not that empty sh*t these people do.

The truth is, you’re not jaded. You just know what real love is.

You’ve worked hard to be successful and thought that would make you more attractive to men.

But so far you don’t even want the men you met – or they are not that into you.

You’re looking for your soulmate match. Your divine counterpart. The one you can build a legacy with.

A man who loves the fact that you get money, but he doesn’t need yours. He enjoys making things easier for you.

He sees you, but he also sees that you need love, adoration, rest and relaxation. He can see that you need a real man next to you who says “I got you.”

The Man You Desire is a Reflection of being HER

The quality of the man you desire requires her to relax
You can’t magnetize divine masculine love in hustle or defense mode
No man broke you. You’re just misaligned

You want a man whose love language is affectionate, but he’s not a horn dog constantly all over you 9 times a day, not letting you get any work done.

You’re smart.

Unlike these other chicks who swear they are decentering men,

You’re tired of hearing that “You don’t need a man.”
Because actually? YOU DO … not to survive, but to fully bloom and be you.
Cause being soft, next to a King is who you are.
You weren’t created to be alone.

With the right man next to you, you open up.
You create a relationship that feels like home.

Love, when was the last time you had a man who held you?
Have you ever been led by a man?

Probably not. In fact whenever you tried to listen to men it was a total disaster.. They should’ve listened to you instead. Their only expertise was in the bed.

Forget what the internet says.
You’re not crazy for wanting to be loved, covered, and poured into.

I’m inviting you into my vortex. Giving you permission to drop the armor

An opportunity to enter the portal back to your receptive, magnetic, radiant essence.

That’s what your body and soul yearn for.
To be her.
To take a break.
To enjoy the fruits of your labor with a King by your side.
Bonnie and Clyde to the top, not the bottom.

To be the woman so irresistible men can’t help but spoil you everywhere you go.

And most importantly. You want a man who loves God.

If you know it’s time to stop pretending that you don’t want deep love…

If your soul is craving divine connection with a man who leads with his heart and his hands…

I invite you into my world, where women soften, heal, and finally receive it all.

DM me, so you can live this life of LOVE that you are called to LIVE.

💋 When You Think You’ve Healed Your “Proving Energy,” But It Shows Up in Dating

You ever notice how healed you feel…
until you sit across from a man you actually like? 😮‍💨

You tell yourself you’re not performing anymore.
You’re not trying to prove your worth.
You’re just showing up — looking good, smelling divine, energy calm…
But deep down, there’s still that quiet little hum in your body —
that “I hope he sees me right,”
that “I hope he values what I bring,”
that “let me say the right thing so he doesn’t misunderstand me.”

That, my love, is the residue of proving energy.

It’s softer now, more subtle.
You’re not begging for approval anymore, but you’re still checking for confirmation.
It’s the difference between walking in your crown
and glancing in the mirror every few minutes to make sure it’s still on straight. 👑

💎 The Truth Is:

When you’ve been the woman who earned everything — love, respect, attention, safety —
it takes a minute to realize that your presence is the prize now.

You don’t need to “win” the date.
You’re the experience of the date.
You’re the moment he gets to meet a woman who’s not trying to outshine or impress —
but simply embody.

And that’s when you become unforgettable.

Because a man can feel when your energy is settled in truth,
not trying to manage the outcome.
That’s when he relaxes too.
That’s when polarity activates.
That’s when love starts flowing instead of being forced.

🕊 The Real Healing:

It’s not “I’m not proving anymore.”
It’s I have nothing to prove.
Not because you’ve convinced yourself —
but because you finally remembered who you are.

When you can sit on a date and let silence breathe,
let him lead the conversation,
let him witness your peace —
without trying to fill the space, fix the moment, or finesse the outcome —
that’s the embodiment of feminine power.
That’s God resting inside of you saying,

“Daughter, you no longer audition for what I already wrote in your destiny.”

💫 Final Word:

The healed feminine doesn’t chase.
She radiates.
And her energy alone makes the right man rise up — not because she proved her worth,
but because she embodied it.

💔 Why Do Men REALLY Leave Women?

Ladies, let’s be real. Most men don’t leave unless they are forced to emotionally, energetically, or spiritually check out. When a man leaves you, it tends to men you are a pretty bad women and need to make some changes. I know that may hurt, but that’s the truth. Average men rarely ever leave “good” women… And we know that the word GOOD/BAD is subjective.

Here are the real reasons men walk away (and how to avoid being left in the first place):

She stops being his peace.
A man will leave when drama is her love language. A King desires peace and joy when he comes home.
She doesn’t meet his needs (and refuses to listen).
Men will walk when a woman refuses to be soft, feminine, and open to learning how to love HIM right — emotionally and physically. He will also walk away from a woman who doesn’t sexually please him. To be a high value woman your bedroom skills must be on point.
She emasculates him.
If a man shares his heart, his fears, his dreams — and you use that against him — he will never trust you again.Real men need safety too.
She stops caring for herself.
Men are visual. If you lose your glow, your radiance, your feminine energy, he will notice. The woman who keeps herself radiant makes her man feel like he won. (How are you supposed to keep glowing with a 50/50 man who is abusing you, mistreating you and proud of you being his labor mate? The more he drains you, the more he dislikes you. The only choice is to LEAVE)
She doesn’t have her own purpose.
A High Value Man will leave a woman who drains his energy because she refuses to rise and own her own life.Masculine men love women with vision and substance.
She has no boundaries.
If you let him run over you, he loses respect. Men admire women who know their worth.
She’s too masculine.
If you always want to lead, argue, and compete — he doesn’t feel like a man around you. And men want to feel like the man.
She doesn’t challenge him to be better.
High Value Men want the BEST woman. One who inspires him to grow, expand, and conquer. Not one who lets him settle.
She never pours into him.
Men want to feel loved, desired, and seen. If he’s always pouring and you’re not filling him back up? He will seek that energy somewhere else.
A High Value Man will leave a woman when he feels like he’s pouring from an empty cup — when he feels emotionally, mentally, and spiritually drained because she’s not pouring back into him.

But here’s the truth most people won’t admit…
👉 Oftentimes, this man doesn’t even know what he truly wants or needs in a woman — because he never slowed down long enough to get clear on what nourishes his soul.
Instead, he moves on auto-pilot, chasing attraction or ego-based connections.

And even more, he may carry a pattern of focusing on everything “wrong” with a woman, amplifying small flaws until he can no longer see the good.

💡 What you focus on expands.
If you keep looking for the bad, that’s all you’ll see — even in a good woman.
So while he thinks he’s leaving because she’s “not enough,” in truth, he’s running from his own inability to receive love and focus on what’s right.

Sometimes, the partner isn’t bad at all… it’s the lens you’re viewing them through that’s distorted by fear, ego, and unhealed wounds.
She’s insecure. Men leave insecure women. High Value men are naturally drawn to confident, secure women who trust in Divine Love. When a woman is rooted in fear — always worried another woman will take her man, she unknowingly sends out a vibration that attracts exactly what she fears. Because what you fear, you magnetize
If you’re always afraid of other women, questioning his loyalty, or “testing” him — you push him away energetically. Confidence is QUEEN energy.

Instead, when you stand firm in love and faith, knowing that what is divinely yours can never be taken, you radiate security, confidence, and magnetism.

A true King is loyal to the woman who believes in herself and the power of love—a woman who expects to be honored, adored, and prioritized.

💎 Affirm: “What is mine by Divine Right is always attracted to me, and stays. I am loved, chosen, and secure in love.”

✨ Ladies, this is not about blame. This is about POWER.
If you’ve lost a man or are tired of attracting the wrong ones, this is your wake-up call to shift into your Divine Feminine energy and become the woman a King would never leave.

💋 Ready to embody THAT woman? The one who commands love, respect, and devotion?
👉 Book your Goddess Alignment Call and let’s upgrade your love life forever.

Why Women Leave Good Men: The Truth Men Need to Hear

Okay men, let’s be fair. Today, we’re going to have a real conversation about why women leave you—even when you think you’re “a good man.”

Here’s the raw truth:

Many men believe that being invested in words, saying all the right things, and “being all in” emotionally makes them a good man in a relationship.
But being a good man is not just about what YOU think makes you good—it’s about being the man that woman wants and needs.

Problem #1: You Chose a Woman Who Doesn’t Even Know Herself

Let’s start here.
Most women are afraid to admit what they truly want from a man. So they settle for relationships with men who are inadequate for their unspoken needs.

💙 If you want a woman to be happy with you, you need to choose a woman who knows herself. A woman who is honest about her wants, needs, and desires. Otherwise, you’re both doomed from the start.

The Hypergamy Truth Most Men Avoid

Here’s what many men don’t know:
Women are naturally hypergamous. We are designed to submit to, follow, and be under the leadership of a strong, powerful King who provides.

But because of modern society, many women have fought against their nature, becoming their own man. We go after money, chase success, and build empires.

Now she’s making 6-7 figures, and suddenly she feels like she’s the prize. But… without learning real communication skills or feminine embodiment.

So what happens?
She gets with a man, and now it’s 50/50 or 70/30, where she’s paying most of the bills, most of the travel, and lowering her standards because she doesn’t want to “burden” him with her lifestyle.

Now she’s talking down to him, emasculating him, all while telling him he’s a king and trying to “build him up” into the man she needs.
But deep down, he knows she doesn’t fully accept him as he is. — She’s loving him for his potential, not his reality.

💔 This is why those relationships turn sour.
💔 She wanted a King, but tried to raise one…and it backfired.

Let’s Get Real: Women Also Choose “Good Men” Who Can’t Satisfy Them

Sometimes women choose a man who can’t sexually satisfy her because “he’s a good man.”
But eventually she faces the truth: she can’t stay where she doesn’t feel fully satisfied.

What MEN Are Doing Wrong (Pay Attention!)

Now, let’s talk about what men are doing to cause women to walk away.

❌ 1. Being boring, never taking her anywhere nice, and offering no excitement.

If you think showing up, eating dinner, and sitting on the couch is enough, you’re wrong. Women crave romance, fun, surprises, and memories.

❌ 2. Being a 50/50 man.

Most women don’t respect 50/50 men. Period. And even worse—many of those men end up cheating on the very woman who is paying half (or more).

❌ 3. Not knowing how to communicate and express emotions.

Women are emotional creatures. If she doesn’t feel loved, appreciated, and secure, she will eventually seek that love elsewhere.

❌ 4. Cheating and thinking money makes it okay.

Just because you provide doesn’t mean you get a free pass to cheat. Women need loyalty, security, and trust… and once you break that, respect is gone forever.

❌ 5. Letting yourself go.

Looks matter. Women need to stay attracted to you. — Appearance, hygiene, fitness all matter. Staying attractive isn’t shallow, it’s human nature.

❤️ What Women Actually Want: Bonding & Emotional Connection

Men, women crave bonding and intimacy —dates, long conversations, deep vulnerability, and shared experiences.

If you never connect on a deeper level, she won’t stay. She needs to feel emotionally secure with you, not just physically provided for.

Why Women Chase the Top 10% of Men

Here’s the harsh reality:

Women chase the top 10% of men because these men:
✅ Know how to treat a woman
✅ Take care of themselves
✅ Provide luxury, love, leadership, and security
✅ Make her feel emotionally and physically satisfied
✅ Spoil her like she’s special

And YES, even rich men get left if they stop making their woman feel loved, cherished, and desired.

So why wouldn’t every man want to follow the blueprint of the top, most desired men?

Final Word: It’s Not Just About Money, It’s About EMOTIONS

At the end of the day, women leave men because their emotional needs are unmet.

A great man is one who knows how to:
✅ Provide and protect
✅ Lead with love and strength
✅ Be emotionally present and vulnerable when needed
✅ Romance and surprise his woman
✅ Dominate in the bedroom

Balance both the emotional and the material — and you’ll never have to worry about losing a good woman.

💥 Ready to Become the Man She Can’t Leave?

If you’re tired of struggling in relationships and want to become the high-value man who naturally attracts and keeps a feminine, loving woman, stay tuned for my upcoming Men’s Guide to Being a King.

Or message me on social media if you’re ready for private coaching on mastering women, love, leadership, and relationships.

In the meantime book a complimentary Clarity Call