Ever found yourself begging a man to love you? ❤️
A 36-year-old client came to me, exhausted from chasing her husband’s love.
The divorce papers were already filed.
He had moved on with another woman.
And there she was ….. crying, broken, and stuck on repeat:
“HE did this… HE said that… HE left me…” It was He, He, He…
I let her get it all out.
Then, I asked her one simple question:
👉 “What is it that you really wanted from him?”
She wiped her tears and said:
đź’” “I wanted him to love me… the way I loved him.”
And that’s when everything changed.
I helped her see the truth…that she had chosen this relationship, shown up in a certain way, and that the real work wasn’t about him. It was about her. Our work begun.
Fast forward a few months…
She transformed.
She butterflied. 🦋
Her energy shifted.
And guess what?
Her husband came crawling back, asking to cancel the divorce.
Because the NEW version of her, the one overflowing with deep self-love, was the woman he had always been searching for.
Here’s the truth, ladies… Instead of begging a man to love you, pour that love into yourself.
The problem isn’t him. It’s the reflection of your inner world.
A man cannot give you something you don’t already have within you.
Because if you truly loved yourself, you would have never chosen a man you had to beg for love in the first place.
When you love yourself unconditionally, your soul radiates a magnetic energy that pulls in a love that’s deep, soulful, and fully conscious.
Attracting a high-value man isn’t about chasing or pleading for his attention. It’s about becoming the woman who is magnetic, so aligned with her own vision and power that he can’t help but be drawn to her.
I’ve experienced relationships where men gave, loved, and provided abundantly. But here’s the truth I’ve learned: even the best love can’t fill the space where alignment with your highest self should be. A high-value man will honor you, support your dreams, and match your energy. But you have to first be fully aligned with who you are and what you want in life.
One time I was dating a high value man who was amazing in every sense of the word. Â If he flew me somewhere he would pull clothes and shoes for me out of nowhere or have them in the closet or in the room when I walked in. Â There would be purses, coats, earrings, literally whatever i needed to match the fit, plus many other things.
ALIGNING WITH YOUR HV MAN
Attracting a high-value man is about aligning with your highest self. When you step into your true power and embrace your divine feminine energy, love and success flow to you effortlessly. High-value relationships are based on mutual respect, shared vision, and energetic alignment. If you’re ready to align with a soul-aligned partner, it starts with embracing your magnetic energy.
He once said to me, “The difference between you and this other women Kissy, is that you pulled me right into what you were doing, without you asking. Â I see what you’re doing and believe in you. I want to make your dreams come true.”
He then proceeded to do so… I swear that man did more for me in two months, than some men had done with that time in two years of being with a woman.
He also told me that women before me weren’t ready to receive from him at the level that he gives. Â For a high value man who understands women, this is his norm.
When you’re fully aligned with your highest self, your energy becomes magnetic. You don’t have to chase love or success,  it comes to you effortlessly.
Find a man who worships you and it’s and easy win.
Are you ready to step into your highest self and align with the man who matches your energy? Let’s talk about how we can make that happen.
“We must know our worth, but lately empty women only ask and do not give. That is why they are old and single…”
Someone said this about Lisa Raye in response to a post about Lisa saying she will only date a man who can afford to pay all of her bills.
In a world where success is often measured by professional accomplishments and financial milestones, many accomplished, high-value women find themselves grappling with an unexpected and deeply personal challenge: remaining single. Despite their impressive achievements and deep inner qualities, they struggle to find lasting, fulfilling relationships. Here’s a closer look at why this may be the case and how these incredible women can shift their reality.
1. Misaligned Self-Worth and Relationship Expectations
High-achieving women often measure their worth through their professional accomplishments and financial success. While these are admirable, they can sometimes overshadow the importance of self-worth and emotional alignment in personal relationships. When we tie our value to external achievements, it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling unworthy of genuine, nurturing love. This misalignment can lead to entering relationships where we either overcompensate or undervalue ourselves, leading to dissatisfaction.
Solution: Embrace and cultivate self-worth that is independent of external achievements. Focus on recognizing your inherent value and the love you deserve simply for being who you are, not just for what you’ve accomplished.
2. Operating in Masculine Energy
Many successful women operate predominantly in their masculine energy—driven, goal-oriented, and independent. While this energy is valuable in business, it can create a disconnect in romantic relationships where vulnerability, receptivity, and emotional openness are crucial. The imbalance can lead to attracting partners who either do not understand this energy or are unwilling to match it with their own.
Solution: Balance your masculine energy with nurturing, feminine qualities. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and receptive in your personal relationships. Embrace the qualities of softness, intuition, and emotional openness to create space for a partner who values and complements your essence.
3. Patterns of Over-Giving and Self-Sacrifice
For many successful women, giving their all in relationships has been a pattern—often to the detriment of their own needs and boundaries. This can result in relationships where they feel used, undervalued, or even abused. Over time, this pattern can create a significant emotional scar, making it harder to open up to new, healthy connections.
Solution: Set clear boundaries and prioritize your needs and desires. Learn to give from a place of abundance rather than scarcity, and ensure that your relationships are reciprocal and fulfilling. Embrace the idea that your needs are valid and should be honored.
4. Fear of Rejection and Vulnerability
Even the most successful women can harbor fears of rejection and vulnerability. These fears may stem from past experiences or societal conditioning. The fear of being judged or rejected can prevent them from fully engaging in new relationships or from expressing their true selves.
Solution: Work on embracing vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness. Practice self-compassion and affirm your worthiness of love and connection. Remember, authentic connections are built on honesty and openness, which requires facing and overcoming fears.
5. Difficulty Finding Compatible Partners
Sometimes, the issue isn’t with the individual but with the lack of suitable partners. High-achieving women may struggle to find men who are equally successful, emotionally intelligent, and ready for a serious commitment. The disparity in relationship readiness or life goals can create obstacles in finding a compatible match. It gets even worse if a woman is introverted and doesn’t leave the house much.
Solution: Expand your social circles and engage in activities where you are likely to meet like-minded individuals. Consider working with a matchmaker or relationship coach who understands your unique needs and can help you navigate the dating world effectively.
6. Past Trauma and Emotional Baggage
Unresolved trauma and emotional baggage can significantly impact one’s ability to form healthy relationships. For many high-achieving women, past experiences of rejection, abandonment, or emotional hurt can create subconscious barriers to finding love.
Solution: Invest in personal healing and growth. Engage in therapeutic practices that address and release past traumas, and work on building a strong, positive self-image. Healing is a continuous journey, and addressing emotional baggage can pave the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Embrace Your True Self
Navigating the complexities of high achievement and personal fulfillment can be challenging, but it’s essential to recognize that love and relationships are a reflection of our inner state. By aligning with your true self, setting healthy boundaries, and embracing both your feminine and masculine energies, you create the space for meaningful connections to flourish.
Remember, your worth is intrinsic, and your desires are valid. With self-love, intentionality, and openness, you can manifest the love and partnership you dream of while continuing to thrive in every area of your life.
Embrace Your Journey to Love and Fulfillment
Finding the love and partnership you desire is a journey that starts with embracing and aligning with your true self. If you’re ready to take actionable steps towards manifesting a fulfilling relationship while continuing to excel in your professional life, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Here’s how you can get started:
Book a Goddess Alignment Call: Dive deep into understanding your unique challenges and how to align with your highest self. This personalized session will help you uncover and overcome the obstacles standing between you and your dream life and relationships.
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Enroll in Our Courses: Whether you’re looking to enhance your confidence, align with high-value partners, or manifest your dreams, our courses offer structured guidance and support to help you achieve your goals.
Ready to transform your love life and align with your highest self? Take the first step today by scheduling your Goddess Alignment Call and exploring our range of resources. Embrace your divine feminine energy, unlock your potential, and manifest the fulfilling relationships and success you’ve always dreamed of.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
I saw a great article circulating this morning about women accepting the bare minimum from a man. Â As I was sharing the article on my personal page, I of course was going into a long spill that would’ve wound up a whole blog post, so here we are….
Currently I’m single. Â Noting that I’m a social media star who often uses my life lessons to teach others, it’s not surprising when people comment on my life, in judgement of me.
Many people often comment on the fact that I’m single. Â 100% of the time, those people are not millionaires. Millionaires who vibrate on my level already know why I’m single. Â If it’s a man he usually tries to shoot his shot.
Currently I’m going through a spiritual transformation and I’m doing a great deal of shedding from my past life. That’s not something the common person can identify with. Nor is it enjoyable to speak about the darkness that one must walk through in order to get to the light. Â But what I’m about to say next, you must take it into understanding and apply it to your own life. Â I’m single for 2 reasons.
1. My dream guy has yet to show up. Â I believe that love is a fairytale that truly happens. I believe in the beauty of it, I believe in deep soul connections. I believe in the smiles, the warm feelings, and the closeness and familiarity that two souls feel when they meet and wonder where has each other been their whole lives. Â That moment two people kiss, fall in love and then suddenly the whole world, and their journey of life makes sense.
Many men have shown up to pursue me. 5 Figure Men, 6 Figure men, and 7 Figure men too. They are Doctors, Lawyers, Motivational speakers, brilliant business owners, regular guys… Many men. They all see something deep within me that they know will change their life. But they don’t know what it is… They can’t quite identify with it. So they’ve each pursued me in the most basic manner possible. They show me the bare minimum. Behavior that they feel is impressive… Â
Most successful men are accustomed to women liking them and chasing them based upon their accolades. Â Many don’t know how to connect to the soul of a woman, because they’ve never had to. Â Their money and success speaks for them. These kind of men will do one small thing for you, and think they’ve given you the world. Meanwhile other men find their dream girl and set out to give her the world. Â Her happiness becomes an innate desire of his.
There is a certain trigger that alters a man when he meets the woman of his dreams. He pursues her relentlessly, until he gets her. He knows, like he knows, that’s the one he wants. Â He then becomes the man of her dreams, and the fairytale begins. This requires a great deal of ROMANCE. Romance is much apart of every Queen’s dream.Â
Many men aren’t aware of this. They are mostly focused on them and what’s outside of them… Â But the key to a woman is giving her want she wants. She will then submit to you…
WHAT DOES AN AMAZING WOMAN OR A QUEEN WANT?
A Queen wants a King. She desires a man who is way better than average. She wants a man who protects her and makes her feel safe. She wants to feel like she’s special to him. Â To make her feel this way a man must first and foremost provide for her. A Queen can never feel safe with a man who doesn’t provide. Even if she has her own, she has to feel like she’s doing it just because it makes her happy, not because she has to in order to survive in life. She wants a man who feeds her soul, both mentally and sexually. Â A Queen has to be fed in more than one way. Most men are simply used to being providers and covering that lane. But she needs more than that, because her deepest desire is real, deep love. Â Gold diggers just want a man who will provide. They don’t have any qualifications besides that.
This should be easy for men to understand, as how many do you hear say “Just being pretty isn’t good enough. Â You have to be more than that.” Â Men want a well-rounded woman who delights him physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, and in the kitchen too. So why would he not realize that he has to be well-rounded too?
Relationships are all about giving and receiving. In order to get what you want from a woman you must pour into her. She’s like an empty box. Whatever you put into that box is what you will get back from her. Not only will you receive it back in abundance. Â As a woman multiplies everything you give her. Â If you give her hell, she will give you hell back multiplied. If you give her joy, she will give that same joy back to you over and over again.
Now when it comes to a Queen, she will only allow her dream man to fill up that box. So you have to figure out what her dreams are.. Start with the basics. Figure out what her current needs are, and fulfill them. Â That’s a great start. Then she will not be afraid to be vulnerable enough to open herself up and tell you the rest. You will then have the keys to unlock that woman… Â The thing is bad men tend to know this information, which is why they also tend to get all of the good women. Â They put in more work than the average man. They go hard in the paint from day one. For it’s a sport for him to unlock women, just to later break her down, or break her heart, just because he felt like it. He enjoys the power, and treats her the way he sees himself.Â
Queens are aware of the power transfer, and simply will only allow a King into their space. Â She already tried with the court jesters and got stung. There are different levels of Kings… Some men are the King of the hood. Others King of corporate America, and others are the King of their world… You have to be a King on her level… Â Her level is not the man who comes with the bare minimum nor the man who doesn’t respect her.Â
Now let me tell you about the women who aren’t aware.. Non aware women date men and accept the bare minimum from them. All a man has to do is say he likes her and that she’s pretty. Get her to grin and she’s in…just like that. She’s good with receiving mere crumbs.. They hit me up asking for free relationship advice, and say they can’t afford my consultation fee.  (Dear Kissy letters are always fine. I’m speaking of 1 on 1 deep advice.) Not being able to afford my consultation fee is the first sign that they are in a bare minimum relationship.  Either it’s not worth them investing in themselves to finally get the answers they’ve sought after years of pain, suffering, and not being whole-heartedly loved, because they don’t love themselves. Or they don’t feel like the relationship is worth it, because they don’t truly love themselves.  Real love provides abundance.  A woman glows like the sun when a man is treating her right. She’s capable of  accomplishing amazing things when she’s being loved. Which is why I look at married women sideways when their finances are lacking. Yet a single boss chick is out in the world living her best life… (think) Sex with a man who truly loves you is some empowering sh*t! Lets just be honest. Â
Marriage is about building wealth. A wealth of love and growth together. Â Two people working as a team. Yet many find themselves in relationships with people who are playing on other teams. So lack rears it’s ugly head in the relationship.
Everything comes down to self-love. Â Often when we don’t have what we want it’s due to a lack of self-love and a lack of feeling worthy. Â People have a lot of healing to do.
But back to the Queens who desire an amazing King, yet don’t have one. Here are the more deeper reasons why you haven’t attracted that man into your life yet. Â At least one of these blocks applies to you.
You’re not vibrating love
You are vibrating lower than your worth
You don’t feel worthy or good enough
You believe you have to be perfect before you can receive unconditional love
You lack love for self
You’re emotionally hurting and suppressing it
There’s nothing to feel bad about. Life is a learning journey of discovering yourself.
For highly spiritual women I also know that part of your problem is that you are so swiftly evolving that you barely know who you are anymore. Â In the middle of that you have to forgive yourself for the past, forgive others who hurt you, let go of it all and give yourself permission to love yourself unconditionally. Â You must give yourself permission to live an abundant life filled with love, wellness and consciousness.
You must break down all of those walls that’s stopping true love from finding you. The moment you reach that point, your King will come.Â
So my reason #2 for being single is that I still have more work to do on my inner self. I vibrate beautifully with love. I give love. I give lots of love in abundance. My followers inbox me daily to tell me how much i’ve changed their life and how much they love me.
I must learn to receive that love. Too much humility is not a good thing… As a light worker you must know what it is that you do, and be accepting of yourself. Â You must start to receive that you are only getting back from people what you are putting out. Â It’s okay to know that you are a truly, deeply, beautiful person. Â You have to learn to love and accept your soul.
Love yourself for who you are. Love yourself for being the amazing person that you are.
Here are 2 of my favorite songs. Listen to them.
P.S. Ladies, don’t give up. It’s real. I know it’s real, cause I receive messages like the ones below from men all day, every day. These two are the ones I received today. I wake up to an abundance of  love. đź’ś
A third man who adores me sent me this video today… It’s Deep!
And just incase that’s not enough. Here’s another song.
